If the inferiority complex has seriously affected your life, it is recommended to see a psychiatrist or professional consultant 。 In fact, I don't think it's necessary to look at your inferiority complex. Tell a very small story: sing, if I don't have such a good voice, I should also be brave to sing, because it's not for others to listen to, it's just for myself, and it's wonderful. Everyone is not so good in life, Everyone makes people feel or reflects their value in the society through their own efforts. Many stars are ugly and have uneven teeth, but they are still cheerful. Even if some people are very different, no one will think they are bad. Believe yourself, you are the best!
The specific suggestions for the treatment of social phobia are as follows:
1、 In social activities, everyone will have a certain degree of tension and anxiety, which is a normal phenomenon and need not be too tangled.
2、 The most essential and fundamental connotation of interpersonal communication is "exchange of feelings" and "cooperation of affairs", so be natural and frank, and don't pay too much attention to some minor details.
3、 "Practice makes perfect", "Use the past and discard the past", and "Practice makes perfect". At ordinary times, people should communicate and talk with others more (practice their tongue flexibly), and experience more events and occasions. When social experience, life experience, and social experience are enriched, people's psychological quality will naturally improve.
4、 "Failure is the mother of success". We should look at problems from a long-term, progressive and developmental perspective, instead of worrying too much about the temporary performance, good or bad, gains and losses.
5、 At ordinary times, pay more attention to and greet others, properly learn some social and etiquette skills and common sense, and learn Chinese well, including more learning and practicing some polite expressions and blessing expressions.
6、 Properly understand some psychological knowledge, understand and use cognitive therapy, behavioral therapy (including systematic desensitization), relaxation therapy, etc.
7、 At ordinary times, more outdoor activities and sports are appropriate to actively adjust the physical and mental state.
8、 For more serious phobia, it is recommended to consult a psychologist and consider appropriate medication.
Three specific key techniques for combating social anxiety
1. Enter a correct mindset
Think about something that makes you feel relaxed, such as a day on vacation. Close your eyes and imagine yourself in that situation. Then, put the thumb and index finger of your right hand together to form a circle.
The point here is to relax your body language by changing your mind. When we begin to have negative expectations about a social situation, our small muscles will tense up. Others will notice our tension and influence their reaction to us.
The more you practice, the more your brain will connect this action with the feeling of relaxation. In the end, you can achieve the effect of relaxation without consciously recalling it.
2. Adjust your body language
When we are nervous, we will have some defensive actions. Even if others do not notice these actions, their brains will "detect" them and use them as a warning signal. Then they become less relaxed.
So, take your shoulders back, keep your arms uncrossed, or lean forward and let your elbows rest on your knees to relax. When you talk, don't let your eyes look around, and don't shake your feet. At the same time, open your body, wave, or shake hands. These are reassuring ways, because these body language marks safety.
Body language is really an important part of charm, because about 87% of our interpretation of others comes from indirect body language. We believe that personal charm lies in "charm" itself, but in fact, charm is the sense of security when you are with someone.
3. Listen
Don't try to manipulate other people's conversations. Give them plenty of time and space to speak, and use open questions, such as specific objects, content, time, place, etc.
When we get along with others, once we feel nervous and stressed, our brain will be overwhelmed by the "stress hormone", and we will not find anything to say. But when we focus on another person through listening, we can be more relaxed and understand each other better.
Dialogue should not only be a channel for you to tell stories, but also an opportunity to get to know each other as much as possible.
However, if this social phobia has seriously affected daily life, or is diagnosed in medicine, it must actively cooperate with psychological counseling and other treatments.
There is no need to see a doctor, because it costs money to see a doctor. If your income is not high, you will be short of money after seeing a doctor, which will lead to more panic and anxiety. The main thing is to overcome social phobia by yourself. Everyone has nothing to fear. You should be bold, not embarrassed, and learn to communicate with others boldly. In order to work and find money, we must go to social activities. Don't be afraid. We must face life bravely with strong self-confidence. We must change our cowardly way of thinking and make ourselves have a brave way of thinking.
