It is suggested that we should do both. Eloquence is not innate, but can be trained the day after tomorrow. As long as you have determination, perseverance, and eloquence into daily life, become a part of life, you will eventually succeed.
1、 Theoretical knowledge
1. Expertise. Find a classic textbook "Speech and eloquence" to study repeatedly, and learn anything on the basis of theory.
2. Read widely. It is far from enough to rely solely on the professional knowledge of speech. Speech should be vivid and attractive, be able to pick up and quote from classics, and extensive reading is the basic condition. We need to understand all the marginal knowledge and be able to translate it into our own language to describe it. This can't be urgent. It can only be accumulated over time. You can listen to more online audio books at ordinary times. When you drive or take the subway, you can listen to all kinds of knowledge on platforms such as Himalaya and lychee. Don't wait for the book to be used.
2、 Repeated practice
Lecture books are only basic theories. The key is to practice more. The exercise has the following important links for reference:
1. Practice your voice. It is suggested to refer to the voice skills and exercises of Peng Lijia, a teacher from Guangzhou Xinghai Conservatory of Music (there are free videos on the Internet), which is the easiest and easiest way for me to master.
2. Presentation skills. You can refer to the teaching video of Speech and Eloquence by Yin Yamin (many free online), which is also the most grounded three axes to quickly improve speech skills.
3. Practice more. Practice recitation, tongue twister, etc. to form muscle memory; In addition, you should write more. Writing is one of the effective ways to transform other people's knowledge into your own.
4. Make more appearances. Take every opportunity to show yourself. For example, meetings, classrooms, balconies, mirrors, and various places where people can speak. If it is an internal situation, don't worry about the serious negative impact that will be brought to you if you mess it up. Try to use every opportunity to brazenly go to the stage, speak and practice. Only if you don't have the face to practice, you will have face in the future.
As long as you have determination, perseverance and methods, you can certainly improve your eloquence.
Several suggestions for poor social skills and inability to speak:
1. Pay attention to the social interaction itself, and don't over tangle your performance.
Focus on how you can express your thoughts clearly and what the other party wants to express, rather than obsessing about your every move.
2. Don't deliberately cater to others.
Many socially insecure people will try to avoid problems by pleasing others. This is nothing more than repressing the real self, making yourself feel more and more tired of social interaction. As long as you don't hurt or offend others and know how to behave, you don't need to disguise yourself.
Ask yourself what kind of impression you want to leave on others. When you have a clear positioning and self-awareness, and know what you look like in others' eyes, your personal impression will naturally move towards a positive direction.
3. Focus on what you say.
In fact, people who are introverted or reticent sometimes speak very succinctly. Because when he doesn't speak, he is thinking. When talking to others, what do you want them to do? Just say it directly. This is called "conclusion first" in logical thinking. Such an expression will make you feel relaxed, and others will understand your point of view as soon as they hear it.
4. Be sincere.
The most important characteristic of introverted people is cold outside and hot inside. In my heart, I really want to communicate with others, but on the surface, I seem to be far away from others, which is not conducive to the development of interpersonal relationships.
I have seen some people who are introverted, speak little and don't like making friends widely, but their attitude is sincere, they can speak to the point, and they can clearly communicate their ideas and attitudes. If you have one or two professional expertise, such people are sometimes more respected in your circle of friends, company or family than those who are talkative and sociable.
5. Accept the reality calmly.
It is not a serious problem that you are not good at communication, so there is no need to be too nervous, or even always look unwelcome. This is not only bad for you, but also bad for your further communication with others. At this time, you should frankly accept your own shortcomings, treat yourself sincerely, and do not give yourself too much psychological burden.
6. Cultivate your hobbies.
As the saying goes, if we can play together, we will naturally have something to say. For example, the game playing circle of college students and the sports circle after leaving the society will become more interested and like-minded.
