Maybe you ignore others' blood and sweat in silence. When you compare with others, you can think about it. It is said that existence is reasonable, and others may really be worth that price. In this way, when you can't compare with him, you won't be upset, painful, resentful, and gradually stop comparing with him.
Often do not compare, and gradually develop the habit of not comparing. Even if we compare ourselves, we should keep forging ahead. That's good, full of positive energy.
Who do you compare with most often?
If you are not sure, please try the following question: Who have you compared with in the past 24 hours?
If you are still not sure, please consider the situation when you last brushed your circle of friends. Which updates made you feel jealous, or made you feel like your life was dwarfed? Conversely, is there anything that makes you feel complacent, or are you better than that person?
If you compare the strengths of others with your weaknesses, do you think it will make you feel good? On the contrary, you use your own strengths to compare with others' weaknesses. Is such satisfaction really useful?
Interestingly, this is what most of us do at some time, and some of us often do it. Comparisons can only reduce your self-confidence and unhappiness.
What should we do if we are more competitive?
1. It is normal to have a correct understanding of the psychology of comparison. When the psychology of comparison can bring positive effects, stimulate your growth, and lead you to success, it is not impossible. However, many people have unhealthy psychology of comparison, never stop to achieve their goals, or even hurt others. Everything is compared with others. Living in comparison is superficial, material, and illusory. This kind of life will be meaningless.
2. With correct values, we can't get away from the world where comparisons exist everywhere. It is a very common phenomenon that people compare with each other. No matter what the comparison phenomenon will be, we should all have correct values to look at the world and everything around us. Don't let the internal comparison mentality "arrogance" blindfold your eyes, but have a good mental state to meet everything in life.
3. We need to look at the strengths of ourselves and others correctly. What are our strengths? What are the strengths of others? Don't always compare the strengths of others with your weaknesses. This will make you feel particularly stressed, and it will also make you feel more inferior and less confident. The comparison mentality grows in a "deformed" environment, which will have a negative effect on people's psychology.
4. Vanity is the cause of many comparisons, so it is the key to get rid of vanity. In order to keep pace with others, for fear that others will look down on you, stand on tiptoe to follow others. Even if you don't have the ability, you will become fat. In fact, your heart is unhappy, it is not your true self. Therefore, if you want to overcome the internal comparison mentality, you must drive away vanity and live a sincere life.
5. I believe that the formation of some comparison mentality is due to the inner inferiority. So if you want to overcome the comparison mentality, you should believe in yourself, affirm yourself, and often say to yourself: I will do it. Give yourself strength, which is very powerful, and no one can defeat it.
Living in the present, even if you don't compare with others sometimes, others will compare with you. The only purpose of comparison is to meet a better self. Believe in yourself. Through your own efforts, you will break your own blue sky.
Comparisons can make a country rise, a nation revitalize and an individual make progress. What are you afraid of?
After the reform and opening up, why set up the line of taking economic development as the center? It is backward, compared with other developed countries and the four Asian dragons. There is no need to be afraid of the psychology of comparison. The key is how to treat and guide the emotions and results of comparison correctly!
They bought a car of 200000 yuan, and your car is 100000 yuan. The result of comparison: your car is worse than others'! What emotions will you have and how will you face such a conclusion? That's what matters!
Possible emotions:
1. I am inferior to others and feel inferior! When you meet someone, you feel guilty, and avoid others on the way: inferiority and autism!
2. I think others are getting better and better, and I am lagging behind. I should try my best to keep up: if I want to increase income and reduce expenditure in business, I should be more active in fighting for a raise and promotion when I go to work... In short, I should have a sense of urgency, catch up, and strive for a better car in the future! Stimulate vitality and encourage people to make progress!
3 Objective analysis: He only earns 5000 yuan a month. Maybe it's a loan to buy such a good car? One year's car insurance maintenance is much more than your own, right? The car is expensive, and the annual depreciation cost should be 10000 yuan more, right? It's like this: I save more than 20000 yuan every year! Why not buy something for parents and children with this 10000 yuan?
There is always a market for calm analysis: soon you may know that his car loan is real, and the maintenance insurance costs are huge... You may not only cry for him, but his 200000 car will only bring him good or bad influence, and will not have a little influence on you or others! Your cat is ill. You will worry about it for a few days, but it will not exceed an hour under your objective and calm analysis!
Comparisons are not terrible, what is important is your own emotions and positive face! When comparing and falling behind, we should either recognize the gap, actively forge ahead, catch up, or stand by and do our own thing!
