No matter how good the relationship between you and your colleagues is, you should also remember that there are only eternal interests, no eternal friends.
When it comes to your privacy, especially the three aspects, you must not talk about it. Otherwise, a person will "dig a hole" for himself and give others a handle. When a person is calculated, he can only blame himself for "not keeping his mouth shut".
1. Personal relationships
The ancients said: "Some people in the court are good officials." So far, the role of this "nepotism" cannot be underestimated, especially in the relatively remote and backward small counties of the 18th tier. The phenomenon of "one man gets the right, and the chicken and dog ascend to heaven" is still common.
For example, a company only recruits one employee. Under the same conditions, of course, "relevant" people will be given priority. After all, both the written examination and the interview were passed, and "selective admission" was reasonable in the investigation process. Other people hate to stamp their feet, but they have no choice.
There are only a few famous and influential people in big places. If you don't say it yourself, people with a mind will infer your "contacts" through various clues.
If you take pride in it and show a sense of superiority, it is equal to "self disclosure" and will become "the target of public criticism". After all, there are more people with deeper backgrounds and stronger relationships than you. But they never say, nor admit. Then, all the hatred and bad comments on "multi household" will fall on you. If you are a person who has no plan and does not know the city government, you can only become the "victim" of moral kidnapping.
Of course, the more talented "connections", the more hidden. In their normal work, they will never find trouble. Some people will also show great efforts to prove that they live on "strength". They have strong working ability and focus on good relations with leaders and colleagues. After years of efforts, they are often able to gain a firm foothold and form a new network of contacts.
So: "Where does your lover work?" "What are your parents?" "How many suites do you have?" These questions similar to "household registration" will be sought after by people. Not only those women in their forties and fifties like to inquire, but also some leaders show great interest.
After all, if you are a rich person, living in a luxury house, driving a luxury car, and traveling around, they will also feel that it is a "long face" thing to want to eat and light up. But you are a "pauper". If your family condition is not good, others will look down on you from the bottom of their hearts. When you are young, you will experience the failure of marriage, which will be regarded as an indelible stain of life, and all kinds of bad words will be scattered everywhere.
Therefore, we should keep a distance and draw a clear line when we talk only about business, not family matters, and even the trivial "private" topic of "how to educate children" that everyone will talk about.
Only by letting others know nothing about your family can you maintain personal independence and dignity in front of leaders and colleagues.
3. Gaps with colleagues
The most taboo for people in the unit is the disagreement between colleagues. No matter whether you are wrong or not, as long as you say it, it must be your fault. If you feel aggrieved because you don't get the respect of the leader, you may be labeled as "not a man" if you go to a colleague to complain.
Indeed, people have different values. Some people are "congenial" and are used to pretending to flatter each other. Even if you exaggerate and say, "You are a star fan in this dress", people will laugh from ear to ear.
As for the leadership's arrangement of work, I can express sincere affirmation and absolute support, although I am very ambivalent. Finally, I would like to add: "Leader, you can rest assured that I will do a good job."
Those who are good at "acting" will tell them in public how the leaders feel at ease and trust themselves, even if the leaders are picky about themselves, and take those "grievances" as their exercise. If you talk too much, the leader will be restrained, and others will stop pointing at you and say that you have "bad relations".
People at work should not expect to turn colleagues into friends.
You should keep your little secret, especially the less glamorous side. Even if you are bluffing, you should establish a positive image of yourself. In this way, leaders and colleagues may pay more attention and respect to you in return.
