There are three main reasons for why girls like bad boys, one is "emotional value", the second is the "drawbridge effect", and the third is "masochistic tendencies".
Let's start with "emotional value":
Generally speaking, "bad" boys will bring more "pleasant, surprise, and comfortable" emotional responses to girls because of their qualities such as "humor", "uninhibitedness", and "chatting", which means that bad boys can provide higher emotional value.
The humor of a bad boy can create a relaxed atmosphere, which will quickly shorten the psychological distance between him and girls, and even make cold girls willing to lift their masks and reveal their true nature. The uninhibited nature of bad boys is manifested in being more flexible and bold in pursuit and love, which is different from the step-by-step and formal behavior of good boys, giving girls more surprises and making girls happier and freewheeling.
For example, if you are also in love with a girl, the "good" boy may be ashamed to speak up or give silently, but the bad boy will dare to think and dare to say and act even if he does not confess to you romantically in public, so that the girl can fully feel valued and cherished.
For example, if a girl expresses an opinion and agrees, an introverted and honest guy may only reply with an "um", while he may say "uh-huh, that's right!" For girls, the psychological feelings are completely different, and the effects will naturally be completely different.
Let's talk about the "drawbridge effect": the reason why a bad boy is called "bad" is because he often brings more exciting feelings such as "nervousness", "uncertainty", and "surprise" to girls, and this feeling will stimulate excitement, which in turn will stimulate the desire for conquest and the feeling of infatuation. Just like gambling, it is precisely because of the tension and excitement of not knowing whether to win or lose that it will trigger the great pleasure after winning and make people addictive.
And good guys often give girls a sense of certainty that "no matter where you are, he's always there". He must answer the phone, reply to WeChat in seconds, and respond to requests, so that girls feel that "they have won", without the slightest suspense, and there will be no excitement. In other words: a certain and stable relationship will make the girl feel "bored".
Of course, uncertainty can lead to conquest and infatuation, but when a relationship is established or married, this uncertainty brings a sense of insecurity to women.
There are also "masochistic tendencies": many girls may have fantasized about being forcibly kissed by a domineering president, and even some girls dream of being forced by a bully, which is exactly what a "good" man cannot do.
The reason why a woman is infatuated with a strong man is because she can feel the strength of the man more in the process, which amplifies the spiritual pleasure. At the same time, it is also in line with the social expectations of male roles, including "power, conquest"; and the social expectations of female characters, including "weakness and submissiveness".
It's normal for girls to like the "bad" of men, and in fact, both men and women will like things that bring them freshness and excitement to a certain extent. But when a girl really enters a relationship, she should still learn more about the other party's values, original family and other factors, "bad" and "good" are the standard, whether the two parties are really matched and suitable, is the foundation.
why do girls like bad boys? Because this kind of so-called "bad men", in fact, they are very willing to spend their hearts and minds for girls, they will not be as upright as straight men, sometimes they will be very tactful, they will also shout at you, they will spoil you like a little princess, although the appearance is always cold, but they have a heart that loves you. Performances of "Bad Men":
1. More interesting and humorous.
The so-called "bad men" tend to be more interesting in life and have a sense of humor when dealing with people and things, for example, they are generally not bound by social rules and morals. They can do things that so-called good men would never dare to do, like kissing in the street, playing in public, and so on.
They may seem careless on the surface, but they are always full of surprises. When a woman really needs him, he will always be there for her. It adds a lot of fun to the relationship between men and women.
2. Be sexier and romantic.
An important difference between a bad man and a good man is that a good man has many rules and regulations in his heart, and he often thinks too much about it and looks to the future, while a bad man often acts according to his nature.
Naturally, he does not harm others, but lives freely. People who live in their true selves are more attractive and confident. In the eyes of women, nature is also more romantic.
3. Be frank and straightforward.
One of the criteria for a bad man is shamelessness. In front of women, they are bold, confident, and even brazen. Even if they are rejected by women, they will not change. They are not afraid of boiling water like dead pigs.
They dare to express their feelings, like is like, hate is hate, is true temperament, and this true temperament can often impress women.
4. Dare to lie.
What's the point of showing off in front of a woman, telling a few innocuous lies, and making a beautiful woman laugh? A bad man has a very sweet mouth, and he knows how to praise a beautiful woman at the right time. They all say that women are confused by sweet words. Under the attack of the sugar-coated cannonballs of bad men, they are naturally unable to resist.
Bad boys always understand girls' minds very well, and they are more good at flirting with girls, so compared to the kind of particularly honest boys, girls still like bad boys. But these are also the thoughts of little girls, and when girls are a little more mature, they won't be fooled by these boys' tricks. There is even a bit of praise for the name of bad boys, and this kind of boy is not the kind of heinous bad guy that many people say. And scumbag is completely a derogatory word, and the more official explanation for scumbag refers to a man who is selfish, good at taking, irresponsible, and plays with other people's feelings. For the title of a scumbag, it means that this kind of person is not suitable for talking about feelings. It can only be said that bad boys are more popular, because for those who are honest, they are not very good at socializing. On the contrary, people say that this kind of bad boy is more likely to come to things, so he is also more favored by girls. This kind of bad boy doesn't do some bad things in the relationship, it's often a general term for some boys with a bit of a ruffian personality, and some people make themselves bad boys in order to get the attention of girls. As for the scumbag, he must have scoffed. The performance of a scumbag in a relationship is really a scumbag when he has a certain height before he can be called a scumbag, and in a relationship, he may refer to a man who is not attentive. Scumbag is also a popular word in recent years, and girls don't want to be with scumbags. Scumbags are the kind of people who are attentive and full of lies, who think they are saints in love, and they can fool women's feelings casually in their relationships, and it is unlucky to meet this kind of person. There is a big difference between scumbags and boys who call them bad, and sisters should keep their eyes open.
