Can you fall in love with someone who isn't right for you? Yes.
After so many things, I know that marriage is never a matter of two people, and the so-called suitability that I don't like is reality, there are too many such marriages in real life, but there are still many who have a happy family.
When you quarrel with your mother in order to be with someone you particularly like but are not suitable for marriage, you say hurtful words and hurt your mother's heart one by one, obviously your wish when you were a child was not to make your mother sad. In the end, it turned out that what my mother said was right, what is the use of liking, and the other party clearly knows that liking and fitting are two different things. She's a person from the past, much more sober about marriage than I am, and I've always been confused.
If you are suitable, you will not hate it, and if you don't hate it, it may become like, after all, people will change. It's too difficult to find someone I like and fit to be with, I didn't give up looking for someone I liked, but in the end, I would be forced to marry the right person due to the situation. I once said proudly, I can't find someone I like, I'd rather not get married, the older I get, the more superficial I feel, whether I like it or it's suitable, being able to be together, being able to get married is a great fate, and I have to cherish it!
What should you do if you fall in love with someone who is not suitable? If you like someone who is not suitable, you should choose to leave quickly, and do not be indecisive, which is good for both people, otherwise you will fall deeper and deeper and ask for your own suffering.
1. First of all, you won't end well together.
When you are with someone you shouldn't love, nothing good will come of you. Because you are not fit to love each other, even if you are reluctant to be together, you will not achieve true happiness and sweetness. Whether a relationship is happy and sweet depends on how comfortable and happy you are in the relationship.
When you're with someone you shouldn't love, you may have to take a lot of risk and mental stress. Because you know that your love is not moral, and you also know that your relationship will not have a bright future and a bright future, so you are depressed and worried all day long in your relationship, and there is no happiness at all.
2. Secondly, we should focus our limited time and energy on meaningful things.
Human energy is limited, and you should devote your precious time and energy to things that are truly meaningful and valuable. Even if you spend all your time investing in yourself and improving your abilities and skills, it is better than being with someone you shouldn't love. Because he is not suitable for you, and he brings you nothing but pain and bitterness, so you don't want to continue to waste precious time and energy on him.
Ways to forget a person:
1. Selfless work.
If you feel uncomfortable, don't think about it, let yourself get busy quickly, use all your discomfort and depression on work, and work overtime desperately, so that you will temporarily forget what unpleasant things you will do.
2. Go out for a trip.
Don't lock yourself in the house all day long, feel like the sky is falling, go out for a walk, tidy up your mood, scatter your heart, don't suppress yourself so much, you will find yourself how small you are when you walk into the embrace of nature, and all partings are not so serious.
3. Stay away from each other, away from familiar life and scenes.
Personally, I think that if it is difficult to forget everything now, it is also uncomfortable to stay in a familiar place, so it is better to find a place where two people have not been before, and be quiet by yourself. Don't revisit the old place and uncover the painful scars.
4. Put up or throw away all the things related to yourself and the other party.
Memories are sometimes abstract, and those tangible things are more reminiscent and arguably more hurtful. Throw away all those small gifts, greeting cards, decorations, things that the other party gave you, and letters that you have written. Otherwise, delete the other party's contact information, QQ blocking, and all other contacts will be severed, so that the other party will completely disappear in your world.
5. Make more friends of the opposite sex.
When you find your next boyfriend, that's when you forget. Maybe there are some things that we can't forget for the rest of our lives, but when we think about them again, they don't hurt so much. Leave the memory in the deepest part of our hearts, and one day, we will occasionally remember it, and it is not a kind of happiness.
Like a person, you know that he is not suitable for you, I don't know, why are you so sure, he must not be suitable for you. I privately think that anyone who likes it must be suitable for your spirit, and as for other aspects, because of the spiritual fit, they will work together to change, so why like it and not suitable?
If you like someone, you like it well, maybe you think that you are an introvert, he is an extrovert, you are studious and hard-working, he is depraved and has bad grades, or you are kind and naïve, he has a ruffian spirit and likes to play around and take in the little brother, he is a complete "big villain", but you just like him, and then you think you, he is not suitable for you, but you like him, but you don't know what to do.
I want to say, if you like it, you don't want to be so sure that he is not suitable for you, if you don't try, you just deny him, that is also a kind of harm to yourself, why is it a kind of harm? You may miss someone who may be with you all this life.
But if the two of you are in love, I find that it is not suitable for the two of you to be together at all, but you can't let go of the situation that you like him, I advise you to talk to him and find a balanced mode with each other, love is a responsibility, and you can't let go casually.
If you have already talked to him, and you are trying to change for each other, but it still doesn't work, the two of you are together, both of you will be very tired, my suggestion is not to be together for a while, if after a while, you still can't let go of each other, I believe that even during this period of separation, you will understand something, and you will become mature, and it doesn't hurt to try again.
If the two of you have met each other after separation, and you think it is suitable and likes the person you like, then you are together well, together, then it means that the two of you are right to separate, and you both have a better home. At this time, I feel that you bless each other, and you have a better home, so you will not worry about each other.
You can analyze your current situation according to the actual situation of the two of you, and then think about it from your own objective point of view, how you can deal with and solve this problem and try to give full play to the solution.
Whether it is in life or emotionally, we must learn to think from an objective point of view, so that we can pull ourselves out of that quagmire, which is a truth that our little teacher has been telling us since junior high school, although it is sometimes difficult for me to do it now.
Just like the feelings you asked, I often fall into it, tangled and painful, but then you will find that in fact, many things are not as complicated as imagined, but we often hesitate, afraid that we will regret doing things. But you have to always believe that the future will be better, and no matter what you choose, the next step will be bright.
