The steps to repair the relationship are as follows:
1. Sincerely apologize.
In the relationship between men and women, you really don't have to worry too much about who is right and who is wrong, after all, falling in love is not reasonable, and it is not cost-effective to win the reason and lose your girlfriend. Therefore, the first step to getting your girlfriend back is to apologize to her sincerely, and the attitude when apologizing must be sincere.
2. Action first.
It's useless to just apologize, but to express your true feelings with real actions. No girl likes a boy who only talks but doesn't do, and at the critical moment of breaking up, action is even more important, and how to act can be based on the usual mode of getting along.
3. Surprise your girlfriend.
"Surprise" is a combination of sweet words and practical actions, and every girl loves the little surprises that her boyfriend has carefully prepared. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it has to be careful. If you want to successfully win back your girlfriend, you can carefully design a surprise triple kill to impress your girlfriend again. Gifts must be delivered to the heart, and the timing of surprises must be mastered.
Fourth, give hope to your girlfriend.
Girls are generally more emotional. Boys, on the other hand, are usually more aggressive. Especially during a relationship, girls are more sensitive, and they may be very concerned about the slightest negligence of boys. At this time, boys need to be careful and take care of girls more, including some ideas put forward by their girlfriends, and try to meet them, so that their girlfriends can see their sincerity and see the hope of love.
Steps to repair emotional recovery
1. Think rationally about the reasons
When two people break up, it must be the other person who feels unable to communicate, and at this time, it is clear that prayer and reservation are meaningless. Because the other person will choose to break up decisively and live a better life immediately, the other person feels that it is impossible for everyone to be better and become their favorite person, or that everyone is the annoying person, which cannot be changed. It is necessary to rationally think about all the flaws that the other person has said before, or to ask the other person in a rational manner: "What do you hate?"
2. Actively admit mistakes
In the case of a real breakup, the other person's emotions are high, so obvious psychological stimulation of the other person is impossible. At this time, what must be done is to tell the other person "where the problem is, and how to fix it later." In this way, it is not easy to stimulate the other party to delete all contact information and force the other party to resist more.
3. Disconnect from contact for a period of time and make changes
Human change does not happen overnight, nor does it mean that change can be changed immediately. Therefore, it is necessary to use the broken time to improve ourselves. Correct all the previous problems and gradually create an excellent self.
4. Create chance encounters
If the last step is not too obvious, or if you hear the other person or have a lot of concerns, at this time, be sure to ask friends to form a party or create an opportunity to meet inadvertently. It is necessary to make the other person feel that we have met inadvertently, and this is the arrangement of fate. Then, when both parties meet, concretely show the good side, which again fosters curiosity and positive communication on the other side.
5 wrong ways not to use:
1. Speak harshly
Manifestations: extremism, saying all kinds of cruel words, destroying if you can't get it, and entanglement with pathological emotions.
2. Tough and high-profile
Performance: Not taking the initiative at all and not exposing one's sense of need.
3. Always emphasize your own goodness
Performance: "I'm so good to you, you still want to leave me, are you worthy of me?"
4. Threats
Performance: "If you're going to break up, I'm going to jump from the sixth floor right now"; "If you ignore me, I'll drink and drive out and kill me"; "I don't want to live without you";
5. Uncover the short
Performance: "Your double eyelids are cut, why don't you go to breast augmentation if you are a big man?", hitting the other party's self-confidence and turning over the old book.
6 ways to break up and get back together!
1. Let go of expectations for the perfect relationship
Look at what is the attraction and make you choose each other again. Every relationship has unsatisfactory points, accept each other's shortcomings, and accept that the relationship is not perfect, so that you can let go of regrets and keep getting closer.
2. Sort out the real reason for the breakup
In many cases, the cause of the breakup is just the fuse, and the relationship has already cracked.
3. Do not compound because of avoiding pain
If you return to a relationship for comfort just because you can't stand the sadness of a breakup, and the problem is not resolved, you may repeat the mistakes of the past. Before reuniting, you need to think about how to solve the exposed problems, and whether the relationship itself meets each other's needs.
4. Learn communication and understanding
Intimacy requires heart-to-heart communication, sharing feelings openly with each other, expressing unhappiness in your heart without judgment, and letting the other person know what you need. At the same time, let go of "self-centeredness", empathize to understand each other's feelings, and truly enter each other's hearts.
5. Rebuild trust in relationships
After the relationship is reunited, it needs to be cared for and repaired, such as actively increasing interaction, increasing companionship, adding a sense of ritual, establishing new commitments, and planning for the future together. See the other person's changes and progress, appreciate more, encourage more, do more things to make the other person happy, and recharge the emotional account.
6. Willing to change
Intimacy is a process of change for each other. The breakup is a reminder that both parties see problems, such as being too busy and ignoring each other, a lack of freshness in the relationship for a long time, and the inconsistent growth rate of both parties. Only by making changes can we build a foundation for relationships to grow again.
