How to learn to speak and communicate with others? If you learn these four expressions, your EQ will be at least ten times higher. Those who can always say the right words and make people like them when they say them, all of them have rules, as long as you learn to believe that others also like talking with you.
First, if you want the other person to say more, to make the other person say better, and to maximize the other person's desire for expression, you should use more open questions. For example, if you chat with an old friend who has not seen you for a long time, if you ask him, "How are you recently?" he can say to you, "OK." When you are finished, your topic will end here, right? You might as well ask: "Your boy is doing well. What are you busy with recently?" At this time, you will have a topic to talk about. You won't feel awkward and stiff. This is the charm of open questions, so try to use closed questions less.
Second, when chatting with others, if you want to make them more favorable to you, you can use mirror imitation skills. Everyone's favorite is himself, just like a person likes to look at himself in the mirror every day. You can live as he does in the mirror. Similarity He naturally likes you. For example, if you sit opposite him and his glass is on the left hand, you can put it on the right hand, just like him in the mirror. Another example is his habit of speaking and touching his chin. You can also imitate his habit. People are more likely to have a good impression on people who are similar to themselves, including similar interests and hobbies, similar values, similar principles of being human and doing things, etc. The principle of similarity will make you instantly win a good impression.
Third, never say rhetorical questions. For example, if you can't find your wallet before the door, your wife will say to you, "Didn't she tell you to put good things away? Such an adult still forgets everything every day." Are you angry when you hear this, can you accept it? If she said, "Hey, did you accidentally fall under the bed? That's what happened last time. If so this time, you will check." Do you think this statement is more acceptable? The rhetorical question is inherently aggressive and questioning, so try to avoid it in communication.
Fourth, the rule of icing on the cake should be adopted when giving advice. For example, when leaders speak at a meeting and you want to make some comments, you can say: "The three points that General Manager Zhang just said are particularly effective, and I listened to them very carefully and profitably. Here I have a small supplement for everyone's reference." It is easier for others to accept your comments in this way. Because you expressed that I didn't come to oppose you, but stood in your position. What do you associate with this point? I want to do a good job, and I have conveyed this attitude to you.
In short, when dealing with people, people who can take care of others' feelings are often more popular. Only when you first conform to the humanity of others can others satisfy your humanity.
