There are many girls who feel in their hearts that providing emotional value to a man is doing a very humble thing, licking each other, and showing weakness to each other. In fact, thinking this way is because our thinking is limited, and our pattern is not big enough. In the relationship, the person who can take the initiative to provide emotional value is the one who occupies a high position in love.
Think about it: you provide her with emotional value, her happiness is brought by you, the pain is also brought by you, you make him love and hate, so that he can never guess what you really think in your heart, isn't it a very happy and happy thing. To provide emotional value to a man is definitely not to please a man, but to firmly grasp his emotional code, his joys, sorrows, and sorrows, let you control yourself, and you, in your relationship, unconsciously occupy a high position. So, how do you provide emotional value to men? Here are some of my suggestions that I hope will help you.
1. Say what he wants to hear, don't say what men don't like to hear, if you say too much, he will annoy you, and if you say too much, the relationship between you will also have problems, so we try to say it on the good side.
2. Take a long-term view, emotional value is not a one-time deal, don't think, you say good things to him a few times, he can be obedient in front of you, don't just pay, just want to reciprocate, there has to be a process.
3. Praise more men's highlights, don't blindly praise, if you praise unnaturally, men will also feel embarrassed, where he is excellent, you will praise him, and the mouth must be sweet.
4. When dealing with men, you must say more positive words, don't have negative energy, you don't like others to complain to you every day, right, people are the same, if you say more positive energy, he will be willing to deal with you.
Key points: To provide men with emotions to grasp the degree, don't overdo it, excessive will make men secretly complacent in their hearts, and he still thinks that you can't do without him, so as to achieve the opposite effect.
How do you provide emotional value to each other when you are in love?
1. Soft on the outside and rigid on the inside
First of all, don't think about what men think, but try to improve yourself. When you have the confidence to leave at any time, your gentleness is commendable, and if you are worthless, your gentleness is waiting to be cowardly.
At all times, you have to stay independent, live a prosperous life when he is not there, have a career, savings, friends and hobbies, and when he is there, you revolve around him and give him a happy love experience.
2. Don't lose your temper
You can make a small effort, but don't often lose your temper to embarrass the other party, grievances, anger, unwillingness and other negative energy, will only push the other party farther and farther, so, don't have nothing to do, let the other party be tired, manage your temper well, you can control your own man, love and not love are all cumulative, you have to save more love, he is willing to listen to you, and take the initiative to be good to you.
3. Don't be "true temperament"
At any time, don't be a silly white sweet with a true temperament, seemingly straightforward, but actually stupid, some girls let go of themselves, and say all their evil thoughts, trivial daily life, and miserable past, once the mystery is gone, he wants to divert his attention, leave three points of leeway for himself in everything, don't eat too much food, don't talk too full, you have a way out.
4. Don't push yourself
If you are not in a good state, then take care of your emotions first, don't be afraid of troublesome to the other party, love yourself first before you have the ability to make him happy, the emotional value is not in the quantity, but in the dry quality, if you are absent-minded and perfunctory, it will only make the other party overwhelmed. If you are tired, then let him provide you with emotional value, and occasional vulnerability will also inspire him to have a sense of responsibility.
5. Let go of gains and losses
The stronger the purpose, the more the gains outweigh the losses, if you provide emotional value every time, you crave the other party to respond, you will be calculating, feel that you have lost, and then let go, this is selfishness is not love, when you don't ask for anything in return, the relationship is relaxed, happy and flexible, you make him happy, how can he be willing to hurt you?
6. Be an optimistic little sun
Optimistic girls are really pleasing, no matter how stressful life is, you have to face everything bravely, this solar physique will exude warm and healing energy, so that men can't help but want to be close to you, when he falls into a low period, you have to accompany him to support him, let him be grateful to you from the bottom of his heart, if you want to not give up, you must first share hardships.
To provide emotional value is to use your words and actions to bring emotions to others a feeling of satisfaction and comfort. In practice, including but not limited to praise, companionship, comfort, encouragement and support, in short, it is an act that has a positive effect on the emotions of others.
When it comes to emotional value, he is inseparable from emotions, let the seven emotions and six desires, there are positive emotions, there are negative emotions, positive emotions make us happy, happy, pleasant, comfortable, surprised, touched, on the contrary, negative emotions bring us loneliness, guilt, worry, fear, low self-esteem, and the anxiety of not being recognized and the frustration after paying fruitless!
If a person's emotions enter a negative state, there will be anxiety, insecurity, anger and other bad emotions in the heart, anxiety state is in the person feels that they are going to suffer losses before they appear, for example, you feel that girls don't seem to be willing to deal with you, and have no clue about establishing attraction, at this time men are easy to be anxious, men are used to solving problems, and negative emotions should be eliminated immediately, and they will want to immediately grab something to relieve their anxiety!
Therefore, if you want to create emotional value for women, you must first be in a relaxed state:
1. Humor
We all know that humor is a necessary condition to attract girls, but people can't enter a humorous state when they are nervous, so it is easier to enter a humorous state when they are in a relaxed state!
2. Have a sense of purpose
Men with a sense of hope will naturally have goals, while women like the kind of man who can give her direction, and they don't like to consult her about everything every day!
3. Game mentality
When a man can enjoy everything around him, the woman will also become one of the objects of his enjoyment, and the woman becomes a pleasure rather than a persistent goal, and you will be more courageous to tease the woman because you are in a relaxed state, which will make you look more challenging, and the woman will be more interested in you!
