In the workplace, in addition to their own work ability, it is important to learn the skills to communicate with others. When you have contacts in the workplace, you are not far away from promotion and salary increase. But some people are worth making friends, but some people are not worth making friends. When we communicate with people around us, we should learn to identify whether these people are worth making friends with. These four kinds of colleagues in the workplace are definitely not allowed to communicate. If you encounter them, please leave them quickly, otherwise it will cause great trouble to your career. Those who want to know about them should come and have a look!
1. People who approach you with impure purposes.
Be careful of those who approach you with purpose. For people you just know, you must beware of this. Those who have not met with you several times are always very enthusiastic to help you and invite themselves to play. But as the saying goes. If you pay attention to nothing, you will steal if you are not dishonest. The more you are at this time, the more you should be on guard. Because they are likely to approach you in order to get more benefits from you in the future. For new acquaintances, as long as everyone respects each other, they should not be too close at ordinary times. If they want to become good friends, they must get along slowly.
2. Draw a big cake and talk about the ideal person.
Some colleagues like to talk about ideals and unrealistic things. Some people are deceived because they are overwhelmed by these words. However, you should understand that all things are meaningless before they become reality. What he told you is a fake, just to let you fall for it. Therefore, when we encounter such things, such colleagues, we must quickly get away from them.
3. A rascal.
This is not the usual sense of hooliganism. The characteristics of this kind of people are: they don't know the height of heaven and earth, and they do something too high profile; Think of yawning and not speaking as frankness. Such people are very annoying in the workplace, but they have no idea that they still go their own way and think they are very personal. So, when we meet such people, we must stay away from them, and do not choose to make friends with them, otherwise you will regret it.
4. People who only remember bad but not good.
That is what we often call a person who loves to bear grudges. Such people always remember the bad side of others, and never think of the good and good side of others. Such a person is full of negative energy. He will only see the bad side of all people, but not the good side of others. It is a ridiculous idea to think that it is reasonable for you to help him, and to say that it is absurd for you not to help him, and to take your help as a matter of course. And even if you help him, he will not read your good. If you have a conflict one day, he will only remember your bad. So when we meet such people, we'd better turn a blind eye to avoid bringing trouble to ourselves.
In the workplace, I don't like working with people who pay attention to people behind their backs, and with people who are behind the scenes.
First, I don't like working with colleagues who pay attention to people behind their backs. In the work, it is our duty to do our job well, to live in harmony with colleagues is the king's way, and to be diligent, dedicated and hard working is fundamental. Only in this way can we stand firm in the unit. At the same time, when dealing with colleagues, we must remember not to talk about and evaluate others behind their backs. There are two female colleagues in our unit. They usually have a very good relationship and are very close together. I remember one time, when the unit was going to apply for the review of senior accountant, both of the female colleagues were qualified to apply. One of the female colleagues told others privately that the other female colleague's professional level was inferior to her own, and so on. She thought that there was something there, but she didn't know that there were ears behind the wall. A few days later, the female colleague knew her words, and they became like fellow travellers from then on. I think it is the bottom line not to talk about people behind their backs, but to pay attention to people is the bottom line. Especially among colleagues, you can talk about work and others, but you must not talk about and evaluate others. Otherwise, once words are spoken, it will be difficult to recover, and maybe the boat of friendship will be overturned.
Second, I dislike working with people who are behind the scenes. At work, harmony among colleagues is the king's way. However, some colleagues, because of their narrow-minded mentality, or out of jealousy and revenge, tend to blackmail colleagues who are more prominent in their work performance or have stronger professional ability than themselves. I remember once a colleague surnamed Sun worked with me in a software company that provided network support for administrative institutions. At work, Sun and other colleagues are responsible for government procurement business, and they have a good relationship. In a bid response for government procurement of public business, the two of them will implement it, and other comrades will take the lead with the cooperation of Comrade Sun. After the work was completed, the company leaders were very satisfied and prepared to reward and promote them. However, unexpectedly, the colleague surnamed Sun went to the company leader, gossiping about what other colleagues were doing in the company, with the purpose of taking the credit of one person alone, and then excluding that colleague. Even the company leader took out a small notebook, which recorded in detail what the colleague said in the company on that day. After verification, the company leader believed that it was not true, rewarded and promoted the colleague, and dismissed the colleague surnamed Sun. This matter left us a deep impression. Someone is really behind the scenes in the workplace. It is necessary to guard against others.
Summary: Don't get too close to colleagues. Pay attention to the public distance, social distance, personal distance, intimate distance, etc. At the same time, when getting along with colleagues, we must grasp the degree. No matter how good the relationship is, we should not go too close. Only by keeping an appropriate distance can we get along longer.
When you get along with colleagues, you must have your own principles, know how to stick to yourself and refuse appropriately. There are five taboos when you get along with colleagues:
1. Don't be too talkative - learn to refuse.
In the crowd, there are always people who can take an inch. You give him an inch and he gives you a foot. One kind help will lead to thousands of troubles. It's better to cut the mess quickly and reduce the possibility to zero for the first time.
One of the signs of maturity is to learn to refuse, to say "no", to say "no" to what you don't like, what you don't want, and what you don't care to do. You don't have to please anyone, you just have to be responsible for yourself.
2. Don't let it go - learn to be strong.
In this world, there are always people who bully the weak and fear the hard. One concession will inevitably lead to a hundred bullies. Therefore, when you need to be strong, you must be strong.
Chairman Mao once said, "If you hit with one punch, you will not hit with one hundred." As long as you show your attitude at the beginning and show your determination to never give in, others will not dare to treat you badly. You can't muddle through life. The more afraid you are, the faster things will come.
3. Don't be ambiguous - be clear and transparent.
In the company, there are strict limits on the responsibilities and work contents of each employee. At this time, we must not be unclear. We must break the casserole and ask questions to the end, be clear and transparent. Do your own work conscientiously; We can help others with their work, but we should do it according to our ability.
4. Don't make promises at will - leave behind.
Colleagues have competitive relationships, so they must have their own core competitiveness, such as business ability, drawing, video skills, and even good relations with leaders. They will flatter leaders.
It is inevitable that colleagues will ask for advice, but we should learn from the experience of cats giving lessons to tigers to preserve our core competitiveness. If your colleagues have learned all your unique skills, how can you still mix.
5. Don't stand in line casually - keep independent.
Cooperation among colleagues is inevitable, but some things cannot be summed up with colleagues casually. There is a competitive relationship between colleagues. If you speak ill of your boss behind your back and your colleagues tell you the secret, you will have to eat more than you can chew.
And if colleagues in the company often whisper together, the boss will think that you are building a small group, and the consequences will not be very good.
