How to deal with your husband's bad treatment? What is a husband to you? When you are angry, he is willing to coax you. In life, he is willing to spoil you and take care of you. He will take your words to heart. How can I guide my husband to become such a person? Teach you a way to control men easily.
First of all, I must tell you a common mistake women have, that is, you always think that men and women are the same, in fact, there are really great differences between men and women. To take a small example, if you say that a woman is not beautiful, what is the reaction of most women? I want to learn how to be more beautiful. But if you say that a man is not handsome, most men will respond that you have poor taste and poor judgment. So women like to criticize, accuse and nag men. They think that men will correct in this way. They think that this is education and guidance, because women's generation say that they will, blame themselves, reflect and correct. But the more you nag a man, the more he feels that you are attacking him, and then he will activate the defense mechanism, ranging from boredom and evasion to attacking you in reverse. So you can see whether a man is most annoyed by his wife's nagging. The more nagging his wife is, the more indifferent he is and the faster he runs.
So how can we effectively guide and educate our husbands? Give him coquetry. Note that being coquettish here is not to make you say something cute. If you are so coquettish, your husband must run faster. Of course, coquetry is not that kind of crude. The old woman in the TV series, oh dear, I want that pair of shoes, I want them, and then stomp, shake, and act innocent. Don't say that you are such a coquettish adult woman, but your children are so coquettish to you. Do you want to start? Therefore, we must not learn these special low ways of pettishing. Not only women can't stand it, but also men can't stand it.
So what is the real coquetry? In fact, coquetry is a set of communication skills with high EQ. For example, if your husband hides in the toilet at night and doesn't know who to chat with, even if you may feel that nothing is going on, whether he is more or less jealous, upset or angry is a normal reaction. What if you wait for him to come out and ask who you are chatting with? Talking for so long? He certainly won't say that because he is questioned, his instinctive reaction must be defense, so he will either say no one, or he will say that you don't want to make trouble. Are you two going to have to fight or not fight because of this? Your heart is still stuck there. Besides, this kind of quarrel will make your relationship worse and worse, and nothing will come out of it, and the knot will never open.
But if you say, "I think you should be very happy when you stay so long in the toilet today, but I'm not happy when I wait for you outside. Who makes me so careful? I'm jealous when you talk so happily with others."
Then you can add some funny ways to say it after saying it, so I will also talk with you about what you think and what you can do for yourself. Generally speaking, even if a man says, "What are you talking about? Go to bed right away," his attitude will soften and he will talk to you well.
