If you can't get out of a failed relationship, do you know what you will become? I use many years of consulting cases to sum up the seven hazards of a failed relationship. If you already have a rotten love, then please don't let your life continue to suck.
First, your body and appearance will collapse quickly.
A good relationship can nourish your face, but lovelorn can disfigure your face. In a precarious relationship, you may not want to eat or drink, stay up late at night, and many people will lose weight when they are lovelorn. For a long time, there are not few people suffering from anorexia and gastrointestinal diseases. Rough skin color, eye rims, eye bags, hair loss, etc. are common phenomena. If you are immersed in this emotion for a long time, your body will collapse from inside to outside, so it is actually a lifesaving way to say goodbye to the past.
Second, your personality and character will develop in a bad direction.
Long term unstable emotions. It will make you sensitive, irritable, sentimental, depressed, anxious, pessimistic and negative. Maybe you used to be a lively and enthusiastic person, but in a long-term unhealthy relationship, no matter what kind of personality, character and quality of people, they can't withstand this kind of destruction.
Third, your social function will be damaged.
The continuous bad mood of emotion and depression will make you unconsciously far away from interpersonal communication, resulting in social maladjustment. If you focus too much on one person, then over time you will be unable to take care of others, estranged from friends and relatives, and tired of normal social interaction, and eventually become lonely.
Fourth, work and career will be blocked.
Negative and changeable emotions and attitudes are easy to be afraid and evasive in work, your intelligence and memory will also decline, your attention will be greatly distracted in feelings, your work will not be able to put your heart into it, your performance will decline for a long time in the past, your leaders will censure, colleagues will reject, many people will also suffer from career and poverty after losing love.
Fifth, the change of love concept.
Unstable and unbalanced relationships must bring you negative and contradictory emotions. Some people are very pessimistic and distrustful towards love because of a lovelorn experience. They are also difficult to get involved in love again, and even more difficult to fall in love with others. They even begin to protect themselves excessively and dare not explore and strive for.
Sixth, self denial.
If you have been rejected by a person for a long time and not accepted by a relationship for a long time, you will feel deep self doubt and self denial, resulting in a sense of self worthlessness. Therefore, you will easily fall into a vicious circle in the relationship. With a lower sense of self-esteem, you will magnify the strengths of the other party and raise the value of the other party. So the more humble you are, the more attracted you will be to this person, and the more inseparable you will be from this person. The more humble you are, the more reluctant you are to let go. In the eyes of the other party, you will lose your charm. The stronger the stronger, the weaker the weaker.
Seventh, you may really lose this person forever and completely.
Because anyone with the above six negative characteristics is not attractive to his predecessor. No one will sympathize with the weak, and will not find you attractive because you cry, collapse, or humble. On the contrary, they will think you have no value to own. The premise of social exchange is that the value of both parties is basically equivalent, uneconomical or even loss making. No one is willing to do it. If you are garbage, no one is willing to be a garbage can.
Some people say that I have paid so much. If I give up now, all my previous efforts will be burned. I am not reconciled. Smart people all know that instant stop loss is like gambling. At first, you win a hundred thousand, and then you lose a hundred thousand. You are not reconciled, and you continue to hit the inside again. You hit another two hundred thousand, and finally your family is destroyed. People must learn to calculate accounts wisely. If you fall back on a wrong path, you are making progress. If you want to bet on the future, you may have nothing. Others said that I was worried that I would miss this person, and I would not find a better one. In fact, we will fall in love with many people and fall in love countless times in our whole life, otherwise there will be no such word as fickle. Whether you can find a better one depends entirely on whether you are willing to find out whether you are among the best people.
