How not to be a topic terminator? There are skills in chatting with others. Some people can master the skills to talk with anyone. Some people do not understand the skills of chatting, and opening their mouth is the topic terminator. Now let's teach you the principle of "three more and three less" to chat with anyone.
First, encourage more
Encourage others to express more, because everyone has a desire to express. As long as you let the other person express himself in front of you incisively and let the other person express himself well, the other person will associate that kind of enthusiasm with you, and he will feel that he gets along well with you, and will especially associate with you in the future. So you can use the following sentence pattern to express to others: Really? And? fantastic! so what? In this way, you can encourage others to express more. Even when others feel your interest, curiosity and desire for knowledge, they are more willing to impart you their unique knowledge. Therefore, you should always bring more encouraging communication methods to let them express more.
Second most: more catering
We will talk with each other about what they are talking about, and we will talk more about what they are interested in. Because there are always endless topics in interest, so the other party will be more and more happy. The other party will link the degree of happiness with you, and think it is to get along well with you, so we should find out what the other party cares about in detail. For example, what kind of famous brand does the other party wear? Let's talk about clothes.
Third, multi guidance
If we want to grasp the dominant power of topics, we should be good at guiding others to new topics. Be good at using each other's words to talk about new words. For example, if other people like to talk about beautiful women and they are already excited, you can guide how to talk on this topic to attract more beautiful women.
The first is less: less questioning
Because no one likes the interrogative dialogue with the police. For example, it's like knowing the hukou. Ask people how old they are, where their hometown is, and how many people are in their family. Some friends can't open their mouths to ask women's age and men's wages, which is a taboo for chatting. So try not to cross talk, let alone cross question others' taboo questions.
The second least: less opposition
Don't casually and emotionally oppose the other party's remarks. Such words not only make others think that you are impolite, but also make others think that you speak poorly, think shallowly, and lack the ability to listen deeply and think deeply.
Third, less judgment
We should not easily use our own views to influence others' views or even hedge against others' views. For example, when someone talks about family travel plans with you, you come up and say that you can't go to a certain place for a recent trip, and some places are suitable for a trip now. This is an impolite way of speaking.
It is very important to avoid becoming a topic terminator and master the chat skills. Be good at exploring topics, and let the right of expression be handed over to the other party, so that the other party will be more willing to communicate with you. I hope the above tips can help you avoid being a topic terminator.
