When it comes to relationships, many love experts say that communication can solve 80% of the problems in relationships. As long as two people can communicate effectively, it is not difficult to manage feelings. But what if the object refuses to communicate?
1、 You should adjust yourself first.
If you are unlucky to encounter someone who refuses to communicate, you should not be too distressed because such a man will not change or shrink because of your grief or sadness. Then your pain is your own pain, and he doesn't understand it at all. Facing such an attitude, your pain will be doubled. Therefore, first of all, we should adjust ourselves, not be hurt, and be happy. If you are in good condition, his arrogance will disappear.
2、 Understand the situation and the reasons for not communicating.
You should know that the reason why he refused to communicate was because he ignored it and felt that communication was unnecessary, or that he was such a character? Or, is it because of some contradiction that he has a knot in his heart, or is it because he wants you to correct what you did wrong? Only by finding the reason why he doesn't communicate, can you find the channel to open up communication.
3、 Try every means to convey your voice and meaning.
The most direct way to refuse to communicate is not to talk, not to talk about too many irrelevant topics and not to talk with you. Therefore, when facing him, you are often speechless, or you have not spoken yet, and people have become too angry to speak. In this case, you should find a way to convey your inner feelings to him. You can use many forms. The current communication is very convenient, such as SMS, WeChat, QQ, email, and even some space messages. You don't have to get his response to communicate, you just need to convey your voice to him, which is also communication.
4、 Give yourself the choice.
If you try all kinds of methods, and he still doesn't communicate, respond, and see no change, then this is his attitude, which has shown everything, so you don't need to wait for him to say the words to continue or give up, and persuade yourself to make this choice of marriage disposal, and don't let yourself passively wait for someone else's sentence, You can make your inner choice. If you can accept it and endure it, you can continue to live without caring about it. Otherwise, you can't stand it. It's very painful. Give him the divorce agreement directly, or the court summons him. This kind of stubborn person will not realize the seriousness of the problem and will not change himself without a decisive attitude. Therefore, success or failure depends on this action.
Most people who fail to communicate with each other will like Aaron to emphasize how right they are, but the other party can't listen. In fact, communication without good results, no matter how right it is, is useless. If a surgeon tells you that the operation was very successful, but the patient died. How would you feel? The purpose of the operation is to save the patient. Now that the patient is dead, the significance of the operation is completely lost.
What I said is to have a good communication effect. Now there is no such effect. If I emphasize again, it is just to make myself blind to the need to change the communication method. If the other party can listen to what you say, you can know as long as you pay attention to the other party's response, unless you cover your ears, close your eyes, and do not listen or see the other party's response. When the response is not what you expect, you need to review and change your communication methods.
There is no right or wrong way of communication, but the communication effect is good or bad.
The communication effect depends on the response of the other party. It is meaningless to emphasize whether the words are right or not. It is most important to say well. Because good communication effect is your goal, you should never stop to emphasize that you are right. Instead, you should constantly change your communication method until your desired response appears. Then, you should continue to use this communication method to maintain good communication effect.
According to statistics, men talk half as much as women every day. Even this half of the language is used by men for work and friends in their circles. The average man uses less than 15 minutes of words every day to chat with his lover. The amount of words used does not exceed 10% of a day. What a terrible number. This can not even reach the time of an episode of cat and mouse cartoons. The most intimate people can not even achieve the minimum communication. They talk about love and happiness. No wonder that Chinese couples have the lowest proportion of happiness in the questionnaire.
