Lovelorn or even normal life, every day someone tries a new relationship, and some people abandon a relationship. But some people are often very painful after lovelorn, immersed in the past, unable to let go of that person, but do not want to get back together. Is there a way to quickly forget someone?
1. Accept the facts
When many people face a breakup, because they have just separated from the intimate relationship, they have great discomfort both physically and psychologically. Our bodies are unwilling to accept this result, and our brains are unwilling to accept it. So, in order to alleviate this pain, we will cheat ourselves, including coming up with all kinds of reasons to prove that the other party still loves us, explaining that it is still possible between you through all kinds of methods, and even someone will force the other party to continue to be with us by death.
2. Don't blame yourself too much
Don't blame yourself even if you can't forget it. From the perspective of cognitive psychology, people will evaluate past events, explain current events and predict future events. The process of repeated evaluation, explanation and expectation will affect people's emotions and behaviors. Therefore, this is a very natural phenomenon. It is normal that no one will not be affected by the past people and events, and it is difficult to forget. No matter what happens, don't take too much psychological burden on yourself.
3. Let him disappear into your life
If you want to forget a person, don't think about him bit by bit, let your life become irrelevant to him. Let him disappear in your life. When he doesn't appear in your life for a long time, slowly time will help you wash away all the memories about him. Delete his contact information, change the environment, and take the initiative to avoid everything about him. When you do this, you can try to start a new life. In this new life, there are no memories of him, only wonderful days.
4. Regulate emotions
Faced with a lot of internal and external pressure, I will feel more painful. You should know that lovelorn is not terrible. It is much better to end an inappropriate relationship earlier than to settle down all the time. Some people will worry that other people can't see themselves correctly after falling out of love, and some people will beg the other party to get back together again because they can't bear the pain after falling out of love. Obviously, these two methods will cause secondary emotional damage to the self. Sometimes the more you want to deliberately forget a person, the more difficult it is to forget. This is because when people are in a tense state, subconsciously they will repeat and re remember this relationship, which will only make a deeper impression. Therefore, we should actively adjust our own emotions and states and choose some reasonable ways to vent, rather than pretending to be calm and afraid of being known by outsiders. For example, you can cry or talk to others, and you should not be too depressed.
5. Divert attention
When people feel pain, it is the best way to shift their attention. If the internal psychology cannot bear it, then they can release it through the outside world. The friends and relatives around will become a kind of self motivation. Through their advice, self psychology can correspondingly obtain a sense of comfort. Some people like to lock themselves in a room, which is not conducive to self troubleshooting, but will focus on the current painful things. In addition, actively engaging in work can also divert your attention. During busy times, some emotions will gradually fade away over time. After the self emotion is stabilized, it can also play a very good healing role to enter a new relationship.
