Mencius once said that the trouble of man is to be a teacher. Most people like to show off and show off themselves, hoping to be more powerful than others. People who like to be teachers often have two psychological characteristics. One is that they are very self abased and want to prove themselves, and the other is that they are very arrogant and look down on the people around them. They want to let others recognize themselves through being teachers. Both are excessive.
The reason why being a good teacher can be hated by others is that sometimes when you clearly want to show your strength, what you expose finally is your ignorance and lack of self-awareness. Socrates is known as the most knowledgeable person. Every time someone asks for advice, he still feels that he doesn't know too much. Knowing that you don't know is actually a kind of knowing.
The more cultured people are, they know that we need to fear too many things and people. A teacher once told me that there are always some people who are too critical of certain things in life, such as science and superstition. They think that the two are incompatible, but to some extent, they have their own reasons. Youwei philosopher once said that existence is a kind of rationality. If we completely criticize some views, we can't see the essence of the facts. This is what we need to be on guard against most.
Being a good teacher is different from being a good teacher.
1. Be a good teacher: I have the strength to inspire others and help others grow. Such people are convincing, respected and worthy of long-term exchanges.
People who are good at being teachers may be:
People who spend a lot of time and energy to care about and understand you, such as parents, elder sister and elder brother, relatives and friends, and honest and friendly colleagues; 2) Nodding acquaintances or strangers who can provide clear methods and answers to your doubts. They have more experience and experience than you in a certain aspect, or have in-depth exploration ability in a certain field, and are willing to share their insights and feelings gained with their own time and energy to you; 3) Cultural virtues and practitioners who have a deep insight into life and the wisdom of the world, in order to redeem and promote good knowledge on a broader level, they tirelessly practice, write books or talk about charity.
2. Be like a teacher: it is easy to evaluate others from the perspective of self, use your own prejudice and so-called authority to influence and influence others on the basis of a little knowledge.
Their goal is to obtain a certain sense of intellectual and ideological superiority, and to obtain emotional value from each other, so as to achieve self satisfaction.
Being a good teacher usually has the following performances:
1. They are self righteous and like to show their seniority. 2) They show off themselves and criticize others to show their erudition. 3) They always feel that they are better than others. 4) They always feel that others are stupid. 5) They always feel that it is great to be able to teach others. 6) They are easy to take others' things as their own. 7) They are easy to deny others' practices with their own experience. 8) They can't help but teach, suggest or criticize others. Welcome to leave a message to add!
1. Be conceited. This kind of people, whose self-confidence exceeds a certain limit, always measure others by their own standards. They often pretend to be educators, always look like they understand, think themselves right, like to play the role of seniors, and impose their own views on others when others don't need them (my first counterexample is about this). They seem willing to help others, but they don't respect others and think others are inferior to themselves.
2. Be arrogant. Such people like to stand on a commanding point, look down at all living beings, and wave their swords. They have the feeling of giving up. They are used to calling themselves wise people, elders, and past people. They "eat more salt than you eat", "cross more bridges than you walk", and consciously or unconsciously like to "guide people". I like to chat, aimlessly, broad-minded, full of joy, but only for "mouth". Over the years, I have said a lot of "crazy", "nonsense" and "stupid bragging" on many different occasions, which has brought me many problems and troubles for myself and others. I don't think I can change my tireless character of being a teacher and destroying others.
3. Inferiority complex. This kind of people want to seek self-identity and proof through "being a teacher". They do not really want to help others and solve problems, but want to enhance the so-called sense of superiority, and define their status by the relationship between "teacher and apprentice". Their purpose is to prove that they are superior to others, but they can't see their own shortcomings. Once the latter is above him, he can't bear it. This is the typical thinking of the weak. In fact, the really powerful people often choose silence, unless the value of speaking is greater than silence.
In fact, everyone is more or less inclined to be a teacher, because in the process of teaching others, our hearts can be satisfied, we can get a sense of achievement and respect, and even a sense of superiority. Therefore, many people have formed a bad habit. They always want to educate and guide others, and at the same time feel that the other party should thank themselves.
But most people actually hate that others tell them what to do when they are doing things. They also don't like that others instill values in them, and they don't like that you have a superior face when guiding them. No matter what you say is right or wrong, no one wants to be regarded as a fool by others. Therefore, the correct approach should be: Don't tell others if they don't ask you, and answer them when they ask you.
