If the relationship between husband and wife develops to no feelings, no trust, no married life, this "three no" status quo is the core and basic situation in the relationship between husband and wife, what can we do? There are two outcomes.
First, divorce. There is no love, trust and life between husband and wife. They are strangers together and treat each other as air. There is no need to delay. The heart is dead, and the feeling is gone. There is no nostalgia, no reluctance, and no good thoughts. They are not happy or comfortable together. Divorce may be the best relief for each other.
Second, make do. It may be the idea and practice of most people to maintain and make do with it. Because of the problems of house, work, children and interests, living in a different bed. It is also because, in middle age, marriage is no longer a matter for the wife and husband, but for two families, or even two generations. Emotion is the feeling and mood between two people, which needs mutual cultivation.
1. There is no trust in the relationship between husband and wife, which is one of the most taboo things in the relationship between husband and wife. When encountering this problem, you should first face up to yourself. Why does your lover not believe me and what I say. Only when we have the courage to recognize what we have done wrong, can we find out the reason for losing trust. When you realize the reason for losing trust, as the saying goes, "You have to tie the bell", it depends on your sincere attitude.
2. When getting along with a husband and wife, we must know the meaning of frank treatment, and we should avoid concealment, and more importantly, we should avoid saying one thing and doing another. Because people get along with each other, it is difficult to believe that a person is established, which needs time to demonstrate. So when living together, husband and wife should not cheat each other, or do something to hide from each other. When you are distrusted by your lover at the beginning, you should take a sincere attitude to communicate with your lover and make sure not to make internal mistakes. As long as you have a sincere attitude, you can usually forgive your first offence.
3. There is distrust between husband and wife, which may be a misunderstanding. The misunderstood party must find reasonable evidence to clear up the wrongs for themselves, and do not let the misunderstanding get deeper and deeper, so as to eliminate the suspicion and suspicion of the lover. Return to the mutual trust of the family. In a marriage, without trust, the relationship between husband and wife will exist in name only. The husband and wife must pay attention in the common life. They can't commit things that make the other party distrust again and again. The number of times people get along with each other and trust one person is very limited. Please cherish it! Once you let your lover believe you and feel disappointed repeatedly, trust will be difficult to build up again.
There are thousands of reasons for suffering, and the reasons for happiness are probably the same. There may be many direct reasons for the loss of trust between husband and wife, but these are no more than personality problems, moral problems, style problems, and financial problems. No man is perfect without a foot of gold. Everyone has certain shortcomings more or less. Many people sigh after marriage: How could I find such a person? It's really blind.
It is impossible to find the person who is most satisfied with your heart. In real life, there are many constraints that affect the realization of our ideals, such as economic conditions, cultural beauty, three outlooks, height, face value, work ability, hobbies, and time. If you want to pursue the ideal spouse, first check whether your own conditions match and whether you are also the ideal candidate for the other party. Even if it is found, the time may be wrong. Therefore, meeting the right person at the right time is a kind of fate that can be met but not sought.
To say the least, even if you get the ideal object of your dreams, after spending a long time together, you will find that he or she also has shortcomings that you can't bear, so the ideal object only exists in dreams, not reality.
Even the old couple who have lived together for decades have come through constant quarrels and run in, and they have many impulses to divorce. Perhaps the secret of staying together forever is to appreciate each other's advantages rather than endure each other's shortcomings.
