What is the correct order for chasing girls? Many brothers don't understand, even if fate comes, they can't catch it. Today, I will explain the correct order and wrong order of chasing girls.
The first stage is attraction.
After you know a girl, you don't want to do anything. You only need her to do one thing, which is to attract her. How to attract girls? Remember, value generates attraction. Girls only like excellent men. In fact, you men are also the same. Most men prefer young, beautiful and well built ones when chasing girls. You will like this girl when you see her. You don't need to do anything. Why do you like her? Because she has the value you seek. If a girl is old, ugly, short and fat, and you can't eat lunch after you meet her, then no matter how kind and sincere she is to you, will you like her?
Many boys have such a misunderstanding. He thinks that if I chase a girl, I will try my best to be good to her, spend money on her, care for her, take care of her. I will move her and she will fall in love with me after a long time. This idea is totally wrong. Think about the above example, that old, ugly, fat, short woman. How nice she is to you, will you like it? Girls like you not because of what you have done, but because you are an excellent man. So the first stage of chasing a girl must be to attract her
The second stage is security.
Think about it. When a girl is attracted to you, she thinks you are excellent and she likes you very much. What will she think at this time? Her first thought was: I like him very much. Does he like me? If only I like him, but he doesn't like me, let's talk about it. In the end, he takes advantage of my body and dumps me, what shall I do?
So what girls need most at this stage is a sense of security. You should tell her through your speech and behavior that you are distracted, that you are serious about this relationship, that you can care about her, praise her, praise her for her unique points, take the initiative to chat with her, take the initiative to date her, and express your interest in her, but pay attention to the scale.
The third stage is to stretch the relationship.
You also like her, and she also likes you. Your relationship will develop and break through quickly. If you just talk about some plain content and some plain boiled water, you will not become a couple after talking for ten years. Be sure to talk about some topics between lovers, which are ambiguous topics. Of course, we should also hold hands, hug and kiss in the dating.
The fourth stage is intimacy.
Intimacy is being distracted when you call. For example, you kissed him on a date today, but you can't leave her alone after the meeting. You should send her home safely. Give her a hug before the holiday, and call him after returning home to say good night and rest early. You will climb the mountain together to watch the sunrise. If she can't walk, you will carry her on your back. This stage is also the most enjoyable and feeling stage for girls.
The fifth stage is to establish the relationship.
Six minefields for establishing relationship:
The first minefield is called good man card. You like a girl very much. You treat her very well, but the girl says to you, "You are a good person, but we are not suitable." Why do girls give you a good person card? Because you didn't follow the correct love process. I just said that the first stage is attraction, and the second stage is security. How did you do it? You skipped the first stage, did not attract, and directly established a sense of security. You came up to express how much you like him. You bought him gifts, gave him red envelopes, and asked for help. You showed your sincerity and said how much I love you. Just like when you go to a company for an interview, you don't show your working ability, and people don't want you. You tell your boss that I love your company very much. Boss, I love you very much. As long as you admit me, I will work hard and will not change jobs easily. Does the boss think you are stupid? He will only say thank you for your approval, but you are not suitable for our company.
The second minefield is prematurely ambiguous. The first stage attracted you. My sister is really interested in you, but you didn't do the second stage to establish a sense of security. You skipped it directly and jumped from the first stage to the third stage.
The third minefield is missing the window period, attracting and feeling safe, but you have not been able to promote your relationship in time. You have dated girls many times, and you do not know how to hold hands. You have frequent and numerous conversations, and you do not know how to upgrade relationships and talk about ambiguity. Men must actively upgrade relationships. Because girls are passive and reserved, you can't expect girls to actively hold your hand and hug you in the process of dating. Girls can only be a window of release. What is a window? Is frequent and massive chat a window? I don't like you. I talk to you everyday. Why? I don't want to go on with you. I've dated you three, five, eight times. Why? Some boys go on eight dates without holding hands. Isn't that stupid?
The fourth minefield is that the possibility of attraction is too high. That is, the first stage attracted you too much. The girls really liked you, and then you entered the security stage. But you did not grasp the scale. You said too much, and you exposed a strong sense of need. You come up and tell her. Because human nature is something that people don't like easily. At first, I thought you were a good person and wanted to have a good talk with you. Later, I found you were a free gift. If you post backward too actively, you will lose interest in you instantly.
The fifth minefield is repentance after the event, which means that you did the first phase of attraction. My sister really liked you, and then did not do the second, third, and fourth, but did it directly. The fifth stage is relationship.
The sixth minefield is the friendship zone. Many boys have such an idea that I will first make friends with a girl, first contact her as a friend, and when I get to know her, I will tell him that I like him, so you will fall into the friendship zone, because in the eyes of girls, you are her good friend and boyfriend, and you are sexless. You are not a man in his eyes. She only talks with you, but she will never fall in love with you. When you tell her that you like her and you love her secretly, she will feel awkward and uncomfortable. You will think that you are too counselling. You dare not chase a girl if you like her. What else can you do?
