Real experts talk in reverse. Be careful when you meet someone who likes to talk like that. He can be your good friend, but he must not be their opponent. For example, if you invite your friends to dinner at home and want to show off their cooking skills, most people will start bragging before cooking: "My cooking is very delicious, especially Sichuan cuisine, which is unique." In this way, even if your cooking skills are very powerful, but because they are fierce, it is very delicious, especially Sichuan cuisine. In this way, even if your cooking skills are very good, they will not be surprised when they eat food because they have already had psychological expectations. If they play regularly, it will be even more embarrassing.
So all the experts said, "I'm sorry, the craftsmanship is not playing well today, and the dishes may not suit your taste." Then they put the dishes on the table. At this time, the psychological expectations of friends will become very low. After they eat the food, they find Ouyou tastes really good. At this time, they will appreciate you very much.
This reverse thinking can still be easily solved in dealing with emotional problems. For example, today is Valentine's Day. You agreed to have a date tonight, but you can see that it is almost over. You said to the other party, "I can't make it to dinner. I'll invite you to see a movie later." At this time, the object must be in a state of mind, right.
And the expert would say, "I have a bad news to tell you. After that, you may hit me, scold me, and punish me. I can accept it. Even if you let me kneel, you just hope you don't break up with me, okay?" Then the object would surely say, what is so serious?
Then he added the reason: "The leader suddenly arranged me to work overtime tonight. It was more than ten o'clock. I was redoubling my efforts, and I could arrive at about eight o'clock. For the past two hours, you can think about how to punish me, OK?" At this time, the object would surely think, oh, how serious it is. That's all. Do you think he will get angry at this time?
For another example, the catchphrase of top students is "Oh, I didn't play well in this exam, we should play well."
People with high expectations often say, "Alas, this time we prepared in a hurry, and many places were poorly served."
This is the method of pulling out the thorns to communicate the bad results. Give the other party the worst expectation first, and pull out the thorns you feel the most uncomfortable in your heart first. But the real situation is that no matter how bad it is, it will not be worse than what I said before. Then the results will naturally go to the good places. So in ancient times, how to judge whether a person is a man? To be able to bend and stretch is to be a great man.
