When others ask us questions, we should use high EQ response skills to answer them, because in many cases people ask us questions in order to dig holes for us, and they will fall into the holes dug by others if they are not careful. High EQ response to other people's questions can not only avoid entering the hole but also raise ourselves. Therefore, it is very necessary to learn to answer other people's questions with high EQ.
First, don't answer directly.
Whether in life or work, you will inevitably encounter some difficult choices. For example, in an interview, a reporter asked Huang Bo, "Who do you think is more beautiful, Lin Zhiling or Gao Yuanyuan?"
Huang Bo gave a textbook answer. He said: "I usually feel dizzy when I hear one of their names. Today, you said two at once, which made me lose my way."
Children make choices. We adults, you know. This reply amused the audience and successfully avoided offending topics.
Second, deliberately misinterpret graft.
You should know that the people around you hope you are good, but they do not necessarily hope you are better off than him. For example, a friend asked you, "Look, you have made a lot of money in your recent project, right?"
If you say, "Yes, it can be regarded as fruitful. After ten years of sharpening, you have earned 200000 yuan."
On the surface, the other party may applaud you, but in his place, it is like overturning the bottle of vinegar, which will only misinterpret your success. Maybe everyone will say that you are a speculator, being led by the hidden rules, or that your project is not visible at all.
And how should High EQ respond: "Hey! How can it compare with your project? It's just enough to support myself, but I don't earn much money, but my fat has increased a lot. I've been going to the gym every day recently, and you should join me." This is a deliberate misinterpretation of transferring to other problems.
Third, inner square and outer circle.
You should often be asked which is more powerful between you and your competitors. This question is a double-edged sword. If you answer that you are more powerful, it is to leave a handle on the other side and attract malicious competition. If you answer that the other party is good, you will send the person or customer who likes you to the other party. What is the answer to high EQ?
As for the story of Huang Bo, he was asked by Lu Yu: "You are the movie king, can you replace Ge You soon?"
Huang Bo said seriously: "This era will not stop you from shining, but you can not cover the brilliance of others. Teacher Ge You is an old elder. We just continue to move forward with the glory of others. Although we have made some achievements, it is absolutely impossible to take the place of others." This means that we have both raised the other side and shaped ourselves, which can be said to be watertight. Many times these problems may be a trap for you to fall into, or a ladder for your success.
