You know, love is the most beautiful feeling, because it only belongs to you and him, but then again, after all, it was before, it may be very sad, it may be a lifetime can not be forgotten, people can't always live in the shadow of the past, the greatest bosom friend is actually time, after a long time, it will slowly fade away, if you can start a new relationship, it would be great, but don't take the new relationship as a template for the previous relationship, how to cross this step in your heart? In the end, it depends on yourself, I am me, whatever is yourself, how you see yourself depends on you, others can't help.
Of course, it is very difficult, and the shadow of that relationship will always hang over you, which will make it difficult for you to let go of your body and mind to accept others. Countless film and television works and real-life examples have confirmed this, when someone falls out of love, they will become depressed, how deeply they loved at the beginning, and how thoroughly they are hurt now. So when his mental state can't be adjusted, he can't start a new relationship at all, because he still can't let go of his ex in his heart. This pain has been haunting him, and he will be very afraid of starting a new relationship because he is afraid that something like this will happen again. In this state, even if you forcibly associate with others, it is absent-minded, and the other party will definitely be suspicious. So what can you do to get yourself out of the emotional wound and start a new life?
First, completely abandon the past
The reason why people are suffering is because they are too persistent, and they can't let go of some things in their hearts, but the reality can't go as they want at all, and this contradiction brings pain. And the so-called "emotional injury" is the same, the other party has become a thing of the past, and the relationship between the two has come to an end, but he has always been unwilling to let go, and he still has the illusion of being willing to eat those beautiful things, so the cruel reality is like a whip slapping on himself, which is also the reason why many people are completely sinking. So if you want to get rid of this pain, you have to completely abandon the past and let it become a memory forever. Let go of your ex, forget about your ex, focus on the present moment and start a new life wholeheartedly, then all the good things will come as scheduled.
Second, embrace a new life
After letting go of the past, you have to start a new life, which is the same as cleaning the house and then inviting guests, the key is in the sentence "new people and new atmosphere". For example, you can change your life in a different city, find a job that you like more, actively cultivate various hobbies, and make some new friends. Let the whole person fully integrate into the new environment and be filled with all kinds of new experiences, so that the painful memories will be slowly covered and your own mentality will also change.
Third, trust the person in front of you
The reason why a person who has been hurt emotionally is reluctant to get involved in new feelings is mainly because he is afraid that he will be hurt again, and he projects the shadow of his ex onto the person in front of him, which is obviously a very negative thought. The other party is not a substitute for anyone, and the relationship between herself and her is a new beginning, so you must try to trust each other, and you can't let the pain of the past destroy the beauty of the present.
To be honest, it's really not easy to get someone who has been hurt emotionally to like someone again. Because it's only when you've really been emotionally hurt that you can understand how hard it can hit a person. Of course, due to the different self-regulation ability of each of us, some people may quickly come out of this failed relationship, but some people may be troubled by this relationship for many years, so this kind of thing is also to be said separately.
For those who have a hard time forgetting a relationship, it is really difficult to get her to come out of the previous relationship and like someone again. And emotional matters really depend on feelings and fate, not all of us will work hard to achieve results. But then again, since everyone wants to make such a hurt person like themselves, then they definitely need to put in a certain amount of effort for the sake of this relationship, no matter what the final result is, at least everyone has tried. Next, I will talk about how you can do it, and the probability of success will be higher.
1. Let the other party see your sincerity.
Since you want him to like you, you must let him see your feelings for him. Especially this kind of person who has been emotionally hurt before, they definitely don't dare to start a relationship easily, let alone trust someone easily, so the most important thing for you now is to let him see your sincerity and let him understand that you really like him, so that he may try to accept you.
Second, let him understand that you are different from the people before you.
Of course, there is also a very important point, that is, you must make him realize that you are different from the person who hurt him before, as the so-called once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope, because they have been hurt before, they may have a fear of love, for fear that they will repeat the previous path. So you have to make him understand that you are different from other people, and you can't just talk about it, you need to prove it with practical actions.
