Divorce is something that everyone does not want to encounter, but there are many problems that are prone to occur in marriage, and both husband and wife need to solve them together.
How can the husband file for divorce
1. After the husband files for divorce, since you don't want a divorce, you still want your husband to come back to you, the first thing we need to do is to calm ourselves down, when we can face this matter with a calm mind, sit down with your husband and talk calmly, see what kind of thoughts he thinks now, maybe your attitude is much better than your loud noise.
2、 Find out the reason why the husband wants to divorce, only if we find the reason, can we find a good way to recover, if it is because you are now very different from before, or you are now a woman who does not pay attention to dressing up, so you will let your husband file for divorce from you, then we have to live for ourselves from now on, to make you a confident woman again, to become a beautiful woman, I believe that when we appear in front of the husband with a new image, then he will definitely be attracted to you again。
How to get back the husband's iron-hearted divorce
In fact, the most important thing depends on the woman, if he doesn't want to divorce, or after the husband files for divorce, the woman will try to save her husband, and on the road to recovery, she has also done a lot of things that move her husband, and naturally the man in front of him will definitely not be ruthless, after all, two people have lived for so long, it is to say that they have completely no feelings for each other, and no one will believe it. So as long as we learn from the pain, as long as we work hard to redeem it, as long as we can find a suitable way to redeem it, and can impress this man again, then you will be able to successfully pull this man back to you again.
1. Be clear about the reasons why your husband wants to divorce
As the saying goes, there must be a reason for everything, when the husband wants to divorce, we must understand the reason why he wants to divorce, if we can't find a breakthrough, then it is difficult to find a solution. And you also have to know how to reflect on yourself, to see if you are usually too strong, or if there is something wrong with you, which completely angers the other party, if so, these are likely to become the fuse for him to want a divorce. Therefore, if your husband wants to divorce and wants to save him, you must first understand the reason why he wants to divorce.
2. Learn to communicate
Husband and wife must learn to communicate, and communication is of great help to maintain the relationship between two people. When quarrelling, we must not use words to stimulate the other party, because we all know that the same sentence is said in different tones in different people's mouths, then the meaning expressed will be different. Not only that, love and marriage are not the same, and men will be under more pressure after marriage, so in daily life, we should also understand our husbands more and give him a little more love.
3. Work hard to improve yourself
When the husband wants to divorce, the best way to get him back is to work hard to improve himself and make himself better, the appearance is given by the parents, we can't change it, but we can dress up a little more delicately and look more feminine. Because many men like the new and hate the old, we must know how to improve ourselves and make him more interested in themselves.
Psychological thoughts of a man a year after divorce
1. Men will be a little lost when they are just divorced, but this emotion will disappear in less than a week. If the man has no feelings for this woman, he will go out to find other women, but if there is affection between the two people, at this time, he will not be able to get out of his heart in a short time.
2. In fact, sometimes it depends on how the relationship between two people is, if it has been a year since the divorce, there is no relationship between men and women, at this time the man will reconsider the relationship, maybe he has fallen in love with someone else. But if the man is still very nostalgic for the other party and is unwilling to remarry, it means that he was very reluctant to divorce at the beginning, and at this time he needs to take the initiative to find the other party to see if there is any possibility of compliance.
The right way to redeem it
1. Accept and face
If you want to save your love and save your marriage, you have to choose to accept this fact. In the face of the collapse of marriage, most women are reluctant to face the facts, always feeling that this is just a temporary setback, and the other party's cold war is just a temporary unthinker. But what's the point of deceiving oneself like that? The safest thing for you to do right now is to accept this reality and realize that your partner's attitude has changed, and that you can only have the courage to face it if you are willing to accept it.
2. Responsibility and Assumption
It will not be a person's fault if there is a problem in any relationship, and since both of them want to enjoy the beauty of the relationship, they should bear the responsibility in their married life. In the past relationship, you may not have done it perfectly, and now that your marriage is wrong, it is necessary to let your partner know that in fact, you have realized your mistakes, you are willing to accept his attitude, and you want to be able to continue to take on the responsibilities of the marriage. In fact, getting your attitude right is far more impressive than humbly asking for reunion, and it often brings you unexpected surprises.
3. Tolerance and regression
In the face of her husband's cold violence or cheating, some women will put on an aggressive posture to completely suppress his arrogance and show off his might. In the movie "Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart", the wife also became aggressive after discovering that her husband was cheating on a female colleague, and would always take the opportunity to sneer at various occasions, thinking that she could suppress her husband for a lifetime, so that he could not hold his head up, so he could only live a down-to-earth life with himself, but the final outcome was that the husband could no longer bear it, left a suicide note, and committed suicide by jumping into the river. Since you choose to keep your marriage, it means that your heart can forgive him, and since you want to return to the original state, you must stand in a state of equality. Cneering will only make your state worse; Rational forbearance and regression can be exchanged for his return.
4. Change and rebirth
Only change can bring about a new lease of life. In your married life, there must be problems of one kind or another, you didn't realize it at the beginning, but now the marital problems are a wake-up call for you. It's time to make a change, don't just live for yourself, but also learn to light up the colors for your partner in life. Think about what behaviors of yours are restricting the development of your marriage, and what are the ways in which you can improve so that he can be convinced of you and obey you? Believe that this is the direction in which you have changed, and only change can give you a new lease of life.
5. Proactive and regressive
Since you choose to redeem, since you are willing to retain your emotions, then when you make this decision, it means that you have chosen to "take the initiative". In fact, you don't have to just wait for him to change his mind, during this time period, you can take the initiative to find yourself, return to the circle that once belonged to you, go out to travel, develop hobbies, of course, if you feel that this continues, it is too depressing, you can find an emotional counselor for counseling to relieve your worries. And in the matter of restoring contact, only if you take the initiative, can you really re-establish contact, otherwise he will only hesitate, after all, it is he who made the mistake, and his heart will be unconfident, and he will feel that it is difficult for you to really forgive him, and this is your initiative, which will give him a kind of strengthening, so that he understands that you are willing to accept him again.
6. Establishing a connection Re-establishing a connection does not mean that your relationship has been restored to its original state, nor does it mean that your marriage is back on track. Just like the two sides of a business, sitting at the negotiation table does not mean that the business has been finalized, and the negotiation process is relatively long. Reconnect, don't try to solve all the problems of your marriage at the beginning, because when you put all the problems of your marriage on the bright side, it may only put pressure on him again, if he really can't support it, maybe he will run away again, and your state will return to square one. Getting the recovery connection right can help you get yourself on your feet by focusing on good interactions, cultivating a good vibe, and letting him realize that you're willing to re-accept him.
7. The best way to communicate
Communication is sufficient, and when he also realizes his mistake, no longer uses a threatening tone, and repeatedly emphasizes the divorce, but begins to recall each other's happiness, it is the time for you to pave some to the surface. Of course, everything must be done on a case-by-case basis, don't turn over old accounts, let alone have radical language, and tell him lightly: "I am willing to forgive you, after all, it is not a person's fault, we must learn to communicate better, maintain enough tolerance and patience, after all, this is the long-term way of marriage." Successfully completing the above operations, coupled with the atmosphere at this moment, with your words, he will definitely understand your true feelings.
8. Consolidation
When he is willing to come back to you, it is necessary to reorganize your emotional patterns. After all, the former marriage business model has failed, and only by finding your marriage business model again can you really bring everything back on track and completely consolidate your marriage. However, don't be in a hurry, after all, this is a step-by-step process, you must be good at observing, perceiving the change in your partner's attitude, and observing every change point in your marriage, and only in this way can you find the real way of marriage management in mutual tolerance, work together, and be happy forever.
Many people will choose to divorce as soon as possible when they encounter a relationship breakdown, although this practice is understandable, but sometimes they go the wrong way on the issue of feelings, let themselves go on the wrong path, and finally ruin themselves. Xiaomei is a very successful girl who works outside, she is a very capable and beautiful girl, but many boys find Xiaomei very attractive. Xiaomei also knows that there are many boys around her who are very good to her, but she just thinks that Xiaomei is very good to her. However, one day after Xiaomei heard about Xiaomei from others, Xiaomei felt that she had met a boy who was really good to her, but she couldn't accept her doing so, so she plucked up the courage to propose a divorce to the boy later.
1. Don't mention the issue of divorce first
If he already has a heart for you, then at this time you should put down your dignity and don't bring up the issue of divorce after he has feelings for you. If you really want a divorce, then don't say it before he files for divorce, it will cause him a lot of uncertainty. He wanted a divorce, but he couldn't make such a request, which only made him more upset. Therefore, if a man wants to divorce you, he must have money and a house, otherwise there is no way to live; Therefore, after the breakup, don't bring it up when he gives you this advice; Although a man is very uncomfortable in his heart when he breaks up, it is also necessary to make him have a better impression of you; When the other party mentions these words to you, you must remain sensible, not because you want to let each other go further; When the other party mentions these words to you, you must not mention to the other party that this person gets along with him too well, or that the other party no longer loves you; So don't break up with him, because it will only make him think you're a bad man!
2. Find the real needs of the other party
When there is a problem in your relationship, if you don't think about how to solve it, but blindly entangle with the other party, it will only make the other party more and more angry and annoying. Only after finding what the other party really needs can we really solve the problem. For example, if we go out to dinner with him and make him feel very comfortable, it will make him feel that there is nothing wrong with the two of you. But if we don't pay attention to him at dinner, then he will definitely not feel happy, and he will feel that we do not love him and we are not satisfied, which will make him feel very unhappy. Therefore, we have to find a suitable point to coax him, and we can also appropriately change our attitude and way to coax him, only then will he be willing to be happy with us.
3. Choose the right way to divorce at the right time
In fact, if you want to continue living in marriage, you should give yourself a chance to breathe in marriage. Because only at this time can the marriage be truly stable. Therefore, when you choose to divorce in the face of a relationship that has completely broken down, you should give yourself a chance to deal with the marriage. If you don't want a divorce now, then don't let yourself show up again, and you should manage your marriage well. If you choose the divorce method, then you should set aside time for yourself to adjust and change your marriage.
4. Leave some free space for both parties
In fact, after two people get married, it is not a simple thing to get along with each other, if two people get along for a long time, you will find that there are often some problems between each other, and sometimes you will unconsciously ignore each other's thoughts about each other. So, don't limit each other at this time, but leave some free space for each other, so that there is some space between the two of you to contact each other. Sometimes when two people encounter a lot of confusion and problems in life, only by giving each other some free space can the relationship between two people be more stable and long-lasting. However, it is better not to let the other party close themselves off here, but to leave some free space for the other party to solve some problems, and it is better not to disturb their own lives until the other party has solved these problems with themselves. When both men and women are ready to think about breaking up, can they think about what to do?
5. Calm down and think about the next steps
In fact, many men will not directly mess with you after divorce, he will be friends with you first. When he knows that you have lost your feelings, he will start to cold war with you. So in order to prevent him from continuing to entangle, the woman must calm down and stop losing her temper with him, but should calm down and think about her next actions, so as to give him a good attitude, otherwise it will be easy for him to file for divorce again after the Cold War. Of course, if a man has no choice, then after he files for divorce, he may wish to go with you to meet the world, and you can learn how to make love better. If possible, you can still choose to meet and communicate once.
If a man is determined to divorce, as a wife, it can still be recovered, and you need to use the right method to redeem a man who wants to divorce.
1. Find out what is wrong with you
If you get along well with your husband, your daily life is a model of raising eyebrows, and he will definitely not have the idea of divorce. When you decide to give up, it must be because there is a problem between you, so when you try to redeem it, you must find out the fundamental contradiction, otherwise all your actions will go in circles around the essence of the problem.
2. Leave room for the other party to calm down
Try to leave room for the two of you to calm down when you recover, because the two of you are likely to quarrel because of differences of opinion, at this time, you need to calm down and calm down yourself, otherwise the two of you will directly deteriorate your relationship if you quarrel and blush.
3. Create opportunities for communication
Creating some opportunities for two people to sit down and chat can make it more likely to recover, and a man mentioning divorce may be cheating and changing his mind, he may be disappointed in you, or he may feel that he does not get along well in married life, in short, there are many reasons, find the right point to chat. Of course, when chatting, remember not to have too strong a sense of need, like resolving conflicts between friends, to be calm, to apologize, to communicate, not to get angry and accuse the other party, cutting off your possibility of recovery.
4. Understand your husband's inner needs
If a woman wants her husband to love herself more, be considerate of herself, and return home on time in her daily work, she must first be a good wife in her husband's heart and understand her husband's inner needs.
Fifth, take the initiative to show weakness
Take the initiative to show weakness to the other party, don't agree to divorce first, you can choose to separate for a period of time, this period of time is the time for your own cultivation, improve your sense of responsibility, ability, and personality charm as a woman.
