Don't change the relationship between friends of the opposite sex, as long as it's too ambiguous, you won't be able to make friends.
Making friends as long as you are like-minded is always men and women, if you don't have a lover, how to be comfortable naturally, but if you already have a lover, then when you get along, please remember not to do "out of line" things to misunderstand your lover.
No matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex is, please don't do 3 things easily, it is easy for people to misunderstand.
1. Take each other to meet their parents
One of the default engagement customs of the Chinese is to meet their parents after the two people have been decided, which means that the two people are ready to get married, and inform the parents before marriage to show respect.
If two people are just friends of the opposite sex. There is no need to bring your parents in, your feelings are just friends, and you don't need to tell each other's parents if your feelings are just friends.
After all, who doesn't have a friend in modern society, do you have to meet your parents one by one, and you don't need parents to identify their character for you, you are not a child, you need to obey your parents' arrangements who you should be good with, who should not be good with whom. Same-sex friends bring back to meet their parents generally have a good relationship, not to mention friends of the opposite sex who can make people misunderstand.
2. Too intimate in public
Physical contact is actually a little awkward between people of the same sex if the relationship is generally in general, let alone between sensitive people of the opposite sex.
There is a time when two people of the opposite sex who do not have an ambiguous relationship will be a little embarrassed to even accidentally touch each other's hands, not to mention other intimate actions, hooking shoulders and backs, rubbing other people's faces, these same-sex friends who have a good relationship can actually toss between each other, but if it is a relationship with a general relationship of opposite-sex friends, doing so will make outsiders have a feeling that two people are lovers.
It's not that others think too much, it's that your actions go beyond the ordinary relationship of friends of the opposite sex. Friends of the same sex can naturally have the opposite sex, but after all, they are of the opposite sex, so don't be as casual as the same sex when getting along.
3. Attend with each other on any occasion
It is normal for two people who have no ambiguity in their relationship to meet by chance.
But if you meet together every time, it's either deliberately made, or it's too fateful between you, and if you don't get together in this case, you're too sorry for the fate between you.
Or two people are just ordinary heterosexual relationships but every time they meet together to participate in various activities and attend various occasions, with the brain circuits of normal people, they know that there must be ambiguity between two people, otherwise how can it be so coincidental, every time it is him/her, every time they choose to attend with him/her.
If it is just an ordinary heterosexual relationship, you must learn to keep your distance appropriately, which is the best way not to cause misunderstanding by others.
In this world, there will always be some people around you who can talk to each other, and there are people of the opposite sex who have a better relationship. For those friends, they are probably the ones who know themselves best.
But no matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex is, it is necessary to grasp the proportion, otherwise it is easy to destroy the relationship between each other.
Friends get along with each other, and you can't make mistakes. No matter how much you can talk, no matter how good the relationship is, you should keep your due distance, don't care about things that shouldn't be managed, and don't touch relationships that shouldn't be overcome.
Therefore, these three things, no matter how good the relationship between two people is, don't do it, otherwise the relationship will be difficult to be pure.
01, complaining about your other half
In fact, a lot of things start with complaining about each other. Originally, there was only a little contradiction and quarrel between two people, which is the most normal thing for normal couples and couples.
But once you are relaxed with others, your position may change, and the other party may not be able to treat your other half as well as you.
For mutual complaints between the same sex, it may be to vent emotions, but in front of the opposite sex, the other party may think differently from you.
This will cause misunderstanding for the opposite sex, and they will think that you are not happy, and they may have other ideas and ways to help you, or maybe this is a situation that you don't want to see at all.
may be a simple complaint for you, but in the eyes of the other party, it will make him have a different understanding.
When getting along with the opposite sex, you can't be too intimate and say everything, which will be easy to have ambiguous feelings.
Therefore, the best way to encounter problems is to calm down and talk to the other half, instead of choosing to complain to friends of the opposite sex, which will not solve any problems at all, but will only increase unnecessary troubles.
02. Words and deeds are ambiguous in communication
In a relationship, the most feared thing is that there is a good partner of the opposite sex around you, this is a time bomb, whether it is for men and women, this is an obstacle between the relationship between two people.
Especially when encountering something, they will always talk about it, and they will be suspicious of each other, which will easily make the other party insecure.
So when you get along with the opposite sex, you must learn to know how to avoid suspicion, don't get in close contact, and don't be ambiguous in words and deeds, which will cause misconception to the other party.
Because the relationship between people is wonderful and can change in a moment, and the best way to avoid it is to keep a proper distance from the opposite sex.
In love, it is absolutely not allowed to have another person intervene, and many emotional problems are caused by the lack of boundaries with the opposite sex, the way of speaking, and the behavior are too intimate.
If you want to maintain a good relationship, don't break the distance between each other at will, and maintaining appropriate boundaries is the best way to maintain the relationship, not only will not cause misunderstandings to the other party, but also will not hurt the person you love.
03. I don't know how to refuse when I get along
For getting along with the opposite sex, the more you really know how to keep your distance, the longer the relationship may last. Then it is the safest way to get along with each other and learn to refuse appropriately.
Although it is said that blue faces and confidantes are hard to find, don't hurt the people around you just because they fit each other.
For the opposite sex, it is a lifetime of luck to have someone who understands you and can understand you, and you must not break this relationship. Once it becomes love, it may not be so strong.
After all, friends are for life, don't easily destroy this feeling. The more intimate you are, the more you have to learn to say no and not cause unnecessary trouble to the other person.
Maybe sometimes, when you encounter a conflict in your relationship, you will want to meet someone who really understands you, so you may be tempted by friends of the opposite sex, but a person still has to be principled and can't change his mind because of a little thing.
When getting along with the opposite sex, we must learn to restrain and know how to refuse, which is respect for each other and awe of feelings. And a real friend of the opposite sex, he will think about you and will not cause you unnecessary troubles.
The relationship between adults is important to have a sense of proportion. No matter how like-minded you are, friends are always friends, and don't hurt the people you love because of this.
And a true friend, he will not do anything to hurt you and destroy your feelings. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship is when the opposite sex gets along, don't do these three things, otherwise the relationship will be impure.
Do men and women have pure friendship? Someone answered bluntly: "Of course not". Of course, you wouldn't believe that there would be a pure relationship between a man and a woman without a better friend of the opposite sex. They think that they have a good relationship but are not together, and they belong to people who play ambiguous and improper. No matter how good the relationship with the opposite sex is, you can't easily "give" these three things.
1. Movie tickets
Movie ticket cinema is a very romantic and warm place. People who love each other often go to the cinema to watch movies. Two people sit close together, holding hands and watching horror or romance movies. Friends rarely show up on such occasions, even if they are particularly good friends. If the opposite sex often goes to the movies, it will cause misunderstandings among the people around you. Two people just want to be ordinary friends, they don't want to be lovers, they don't want each other to lose their innocence, and they don't affect the love between each other and others. If you want to watch a movie, buy yourself a ticket to see it, or bring your parents.
2. Warm hugs
Warm hugs can be good friends between men and men, and men and women can be good friends. Two people can play together, eat together, talk about their dreams and the life they want. When a man is under pressure, a woman can comfort him and accompany him, but she can't hold him. Two people are just friends, not lovers, and a warm hug is not for each other. When a woman can't do anything, she can turn to a man for help, but don't rely too much on him. Don't ask him at any time. He takes care of things for you. To thank him, you treat him to a big meal instead of hugging him excitedly. Although you don't think much, it doesn't mean that he doesn't think much. Many times, men and women think differently. Two people are often united by something, there will be misunderstandings, and it is easy to be different about this matter!
3. Valuable gifts
Valuable giftsDuring the Spring Festival, friends will send blessings, and sometimes in order to express their feelings, they will also send a small red envelope. Friends don't care about the value of gifts, they care about feelings. They formed a relationship and became a couple. It makes sense to give anything. Because there is love in the heart, because of love, everything will think of each other, and the occasional gift will make the relationship of two people more intimate. No matter how close a friend you are, no matter how many years you've known each other, don't give them a precious gift. Two people will come closer because of a gift, and they will go further because of a gift. Between friends, there is no need to give expensive gifts.
