Excluded girls are often very good, geniuses are always out of step with the crowd, because they are too good, which is probably why many non-communicative geniuses seem to be withdrawn and arrogant and do not contact people.
Excellent girls are often excluded by other girls in the class, in addition to envy, jealousy and hatred, it may also be that the girls themselves are not good, not necessarily because of a bad heart, maybe the way to deal with others is wrong, or there is a characteristic of attracting others to bully.
Generally speaking, there is a certain coincidence that a person will not be bullied, and a person who bullies others can get satisfaction, pleasure, and vent dissatisfaction from insulting others, including jealousy and the like, in other words, if you want to break the game, you must first let her "put down her body".
Be an ordinary person, don't always think about your good family background and beauty, this is not good in the process of dating, first find something that is not too much for her, step by step let others understand her, if you blindly go with the flow, you can only be bullied until graduation, or people are not interested.
If you want to change yourself and not be bullied by others, try not to dress too ostentatious, so that it doesn't look like it will directly exclude you. In addition, participate in more group activities, often help classmates, be sincere to others, smart and kind, a beautiful and kind and enthusiastic girl, will be popular wherever she goes.
Why are good people being excluded? The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it; Heaps out of the shore, and the flow will be turbulent; Walk above men, and the crowd will not. These few sentences rebuke the sinister customs of the world, which means "shooting the first bird with a gun". Whether in the workplace or in life, employees with outstanding abilities are the objects of the company's focus on training and reuse, but often such people are more likely to suffer the fate of being excluded and suppressed, or even fired. The reason for this ending is mostly because of the following taboos and not knowing it:
1. Be proud of your talents
During the Ming Dynasty, Wang Shizhen made the first "Shoufu Biography", which praised Xu Jie, but included Yan Wei in the list of traitors. Who is Yan Hui? How can I bear you being so blatantly disgraced. Naturally, he took revenge for personal gain and found an excuse to arrest Wang Shizhen's father Wang Chen in prison. In order to save his father's life, Wang Shizhen personally knelt in front of Yan Song's house and kowtowed for several days and nights, begging Yan Song's forgiveness. But Yan Song finally secretly acted and put Wang Chen to death, and Wang Shizhen paid a heavy price because of his arrogance. This kind of excellent employees in the workplace, because they are too talented and outstanding, are often not easy to listen to the opinions of others, empty eyes, rarely look at others, and finally it is easy to offend others because of their talent and arrogance and pay a heavy price.
2. The master of high merit covers
Yue Fei, a famous general in the Southern Song Dynasty, waved his Northern Expedition, successively recovered Zhengzhou, Luoyang and other places, and defeated the Jin army in Yuncheng and Yingchang, marched to Zhuxian Town, and the Jin soldiers were defeated. However, Song Gaozong Zhao Gou saw that Yue Fei's credit was too great, and was worried that Yue Fei would not be controlled, so he ordered the army to withdraw with twelve "golden plates", Yue Fei returned to the dynasty in desperation, and framed Yue Fei for rebellion in Qin Hui, Zhang Jun and others, and was finally killed on trumped-up charges. In the workplace, employees are too good, and if your boss is a small-minded person who is not threatened for the sake of his own status and interests, he will naturally find opportunities to suppress you everywhere. Even if you don't sin to death, as long as you overshadow him, you will be suppressed and one day you will be swept away.
3. Difficult to control
Because of their ability, excellent employees often do not listen to instructions and are difficult to control. I have my own ideas about doing things, and from my own point of view, I rarely listen to the opinions of others. In this way, it is easy to get into trouble with your boss or colleagues. During the Qing Dynasty, Nian Qianyao was the domestic slave of Prince Yong. Under the promotion of Yongzheng, he made a lot of contributions, and when Yongzheng succeeded to the throne, he successfully controlled Yongzheng's younger brother Yinchu; When pacifying the chaos in Tibet, he led the Qing army to pacify Qinghai Luobzang Danjin, and also made great achievements. Yongzheng can be said to be very important to Nian Qianyao, but Nian Qianyao has been proud of his achievements since then, and he did not listen to Yongzheng's greetings, and was finally given a self-judgment.
Excellent people will indeed be isolated, and there are some people who are very good, standing at the top, then they will lack some sincere friends around them. And it may indeed be because you are particularly good, causing others to feel very inferior with you, so we are always alone. Some excellent people, although they are very down-to-earth and very loving, but others may think that you are particularly good, and being with you may affect you, so they will slowly withdraw from your world.
When it comes to work, excellent people will have more benefits, while other colleagues may be more blushing. Other colleagues feel that they are working very hard, but they are not good in all aspects, so it may make other colleagues unhappy. The so-called high place is not cold, excellent has brought us a lot of things, but it has also made us lose some things, we can also pay a little attention to interpersonal communication.
At work, excellent people are easy to be favored by leaders, and other colleagues are not treated well by you, you will have a feeling of jealousy, and over time, you will keep a certain distance from you. In fact, there is no need for people like this to have a relationship, even if they are with you, they may have some bad intentions. We can have a clear conscience, work hard to learn, improve ourselves, use excellence to impress them, use excellence to show them themselves, let them shut up, at this time we don't have to worry about interpersonal communication these things.
People who are too good are indeed easy to be hated, and jealousy is a phenomenon that occurs in everyone. You can also show weakness to get along with others appropriately, and appropriately please colleagues, if not, there is no need to socialize. Maintaining unnecessary relationships can be very tiring and affect our lives.
