Others don't treat you as a friend, we can meet a lot of people in our lives, and we will make friends with different people, friends mean like-minded people, like-minded people. People who have a relationship with each other generally refer to people who have a deep friendship, and the following shares the performance of others who do not regard you as a friend.
1. Always pick and choose from you
I don't know when, some people used to hurt you for your own good. They yell at you, speak coldly at you, and seem to be full of dissatisfaction with everything about you.
They like to skimp on little things that don't matter, and when you think they're too harsh, they say they value you. Some stupid Bai Tian also believed this sentence, thinking that the other party's criticism was really for their own good.
However, they can't say a reasonable basis and solution to your fault, they just blindly tell you that you are wrong, you are wrong, he is not satisfied, and even looks down on you.
When you meet this kind of person, don't listen to them, they just want to make you unconfident in this way, so there is no need to be friends with them.
2. Deny your success
When you achieve something, you often want to share it with your friends. But always in exchange for his sneer, like a bucket of cold water instantly extinguishes your enthusiasm. More so, it will tell you the significance of these achievements, and there is no need to show off.
They may not care about the results of what you do, they just think that everything about you is meaningless, and they are stingy with compliments, and they are always trying to suppress you.
If a person always thinks you're bad, they'll always scoff at you, no matter what results you've made. In front of you will always be arrogant and commanding, then you don't need to take them as friends. There is no need to share everything with him, let him immerse himself in his own world alone, and he doesn't need to pay too much attention to him.
3. There is an implicit bias against you
Prejudice originates from ignorance, and some people let prejudice grow, and are even more reluctant to take the initiative to understand. This can also happen in interpersonal interactions, and some people never take the initiative to get to know you and will have some stereotypical biases against you.
Their most obvious manifestation is that they always say casually: XXX is this kind of person, this thing must have been done by XXX, XXX was born with this problem......
Some of these statements may sound reasonable at first glance, but they don't stand up to scrutiny. But they don't care about the irrationality behind it, but firmly stick to their own ideas and opinions, and don't allow others to defend them. They think they know everything, so they choose the country and do not accept outside voices. Over time, my heart unconsciously became distorted.
If someone in your so-called friends always has these 3 behaviors, there is really no need to continue dating, the best thing to do is to stay away.
Here's how others don't treat you as a friend:
1. Often make fun of you, use excessive jokes to ridicule you, ridicule you, belittle you, and ignore your feelings, so that you lose face and can't get off the stage.
2. If you encounter any good things and achieve any achievements, you will not be sincerely blessed, but will say some strange words, and if you can't see you, he will be jealous of you, and he will find you uncomfortable.
3. Always like to take advantage of you, but unwilling to let you take advantage of him. For example, he always asks you to invite him to dinner, or he always asks you for a cigarette, but a true friend does not want to invite you to dinner or give you a cigarette.
4. I asked you to borrow money and promised to repay it soon, but when you lent it to him, it was like there was no such thing, and I never mentioned it. You go to him to ask for it, but he either makes excuses to shirk it, or plays missing, and will say: I borrow you some money and chase it all day long, it's really not enough friends.
5. Say good things about you in front of you, but behind your back they will scold you, or say bad things about you in front of others, just like a yin and yang person, one thing in front of you and one thing behind your back.
6. When you have nothing to do, I never take the initiative to contact you, and when I need your help, I come to you, I am extremely enthusiastic, and I treat you as a "real" friend.
Genuinely be a friend
1. A true friend will choose to believe in you
If your friend is not sincere with you, he will not believe you, and once you do something wrong, he will make trouble for you, no matter how you explain it, he will firmly believe that you are lying to him. And a true friend will choose to trust you, because he believes in you and understands you.
2. A true friend will help you when you are in trouble
As the saying goes: "Seeing the truth in adversity" will not abandon you because of interests when you are in trouble, but will try its best to help you out of the predicament.
3. A true friend will show his true self in front of you
"Hypocrisy" is born for profit, hypocritical friends hide themselves for the sake of profit, show the best side to you, in order to gain your trust; True friends will not have too many shadows in front of you, try your best to show the most authentic appearance. Sometimes scruples are the truest thing.
Not every time we pay true affection, we can get true intentions, at this time it is very important to stop losses in time. If he shows you these three things, it means that he doesn't treat you as a friend.
You are always left behind when you are invited to dinner. Whoever you want to share your happiness with first, that person must be a very important person in your heart. In the same way, the person you think your friend thinks of when he treats him to dinner is also what he values. If you are not invited once or twice, it is normal, because it may be out of business or to repay other friends, so it is inconvenient to invite others.
If you are always left behind, and you know that he has invited a lot of people, and some people have a relationship with him and you and him, you think it is almost the same, but you invite him but you don't invite you, then your relationship is worth scrutinizing, whether he treats you as a friend, and whether you should put him in an important position.
When you have something to do in your house, you can't only be with people. Although many netizens will joke that this is very good, you can collect money without having to buy so many dishes to entertain. But if you're not someone who only thinks about taking advantage of others, you won't be happy when you encounter something like this. If there is a happy event at home, you go and inform your relatives and friends, hoping that they can share the happiness with you, as long as the gift money is within your ability, it is important that everyone celebrates it together.
He asked someone else to send the money, or directly transferred money to you and said that there is something to go to, if the day you arranged is not very good, it is really inconvenient, then it is nothing, but if you think he can come but he does not come, it means that he does not value you so much in his heart, then you have to think about how to return this favor.
Always contradict you in front of others. Everyone will have times when they are confused, and everyone will make mistakes again, but friends who really think about you, because they are afraid of hurting your self-esteem, will not refute you in front of everyone, but will pull you after the end of the show and say, which point you did not do well today, which sentence may offend people.
There is also a situation where everyone has different opinions on the same thing, which is normal, but he has to compete with you and has been theorizing with you, which makes people a little unable to get off the stage. Maybe you just put forward your opinion on something, and then he wants to argue with you about it, and you just said it in passing, and who knows that the page won't be turned over. Such a person is just to show his abilities and satisfy his superiority, and it doesn't matter to you in his heart.
In either case, we can't care about it once or twice, because if we care too much, we will live a tired and aggrieved life, but if we have more times, we can see clearly this friend we think, and we should stay away from it at this time.
