The difference between leaders treating confidants and outsiders is mainly manifested in the following two aspects: first, different attitudes towards achievements and mistakes; Second, when you take your subordinates out for activities, the location of the outing is also different.
1. About grades and mistakes:
Confidant: Boasting in front of outsiders, closing the door and scolding. Everyone notices your accomplishments, no one notices your mistakes. Outsiders: Scold in front of outsiders, close the door and quietly boast. Everyone remembers that the leader dislikes you, but they don't know that the leader has also praised you.
2. About taking subordinates out for activities:
Confidants: Bring important occasions and important people. After a circle, there are a bunch of awesome people in WeChat. Outsiders: Only go to the countryside to conduct research and guard the road on duty, and at other times, obediently write materials in the office and do chores.
Leaders treat you as their own:
1. Let you join his circle
There are various circles in China, such as film and television circles, writers' circles, these circles bring together people in this industry or this field, so that you can have an in-depth understanding of the resources and platforms about this circle, and you can also learn what you want in these circles, and you can also get some resources. So if the leader will take you into the circle, it proves that he values you very much.
2. Willing to handle personal matters for you
Many workplace leaders are very public-private, and they will never care about your family affairs or help you with personal matters. Because most leaders will only use your value to help them do things, so if you meet a leader who is willing to use your connections and handle things for you, you must cherish it.
3. Willing to take responsibility for your exculpation
In the workplace, there will inevitably be times when mistakes are made. Some leaders, as soon as you make a mistake, they will pass all the faults and responsibilities to you, and they will not care about your life or death, and will protect themselves first. But the leaders who treat you as their own people are different, when you make mistakes, they will stand up for you as soon as possible, help you avoid danger, and they will understand your difficulties.
The difference between a leader and an outsider
1. He gives you important work
In the workplace, the work is different, some are more important work, some are very general projects, and the difference is quite big. Doing two big projects in a year is more important in leadership than doing five or six general projects.
If you are usually assigned important projects by your leaders, then congratulations, you should cherish and try to seize this opportunity. Generally speaking, leaders will give important work to their henchmen, and if you find that the work you have is important, it means that the leader treats you as their own.
Second, he plots a way out for you
The position is different, and the new drama you are exposed to is also different, usually the leader will plan a good path for you for the people you value, so that you can avoid many detours. It is more obvious that if you go out for training, talk about projects or hold meetings and exchanges, etc., some leaders need to attend by themselves, and he will also consider bringing some subordinates who focus on training together.
In any case, if your boss often takes you to more important social situations, it means that he trusts you more. He usually thinks of you at the first time when he has benefits, whether he will give you some benefits and rewards, in fact, it is a hint that you don't want to go, follow him to have meat to eat.
Three, he will pull you
In the workplace, it is inevitable to make mistakes, but some mistakes are small mistakes, and some mistakes are big mistakes. If you accidentally make a mistake, the attitude of the leader can tell whether he treats you as his own person. If he treats you as his own, then he will help you and pull you, if he doesn't treat you as his own, you will be fired or fined, what does it matter to him?
In other words, if the leader doesn't treat you as his own, he may push you out of the dark pot, but if you are valued by the leader, he will help you when you encounter difficulties or make mistakes.
What are the differences between leaders treating henchmen and outsiders? To know whether the leader in the workplace is suppressing you, I think you can judge it from the following four aspects:
(1) Treat you differently from others.
For example, we have an eldest sister who inadvertently offended our leader because she spoke more straightforwardly. Later, every time the leader assigned a task, he gave her some unimportant and miscellaneous work, and the workload was twice as much as that of others. Once or twice in the past, every time it was the same, the eldest sister couldn't stand such differential treatment, quarreled with the leader, and finally took the initiative to leave. By treating you differently from others, your boss is suppressing you and forcing you to leave your job voluntarily.
(2) Pick on your faults.
For someone who is waiting to find fault with you, everything you do is wrong, and everything you do is wrong. is still the eldest sister mentioned above, because she offended the leader and was suppressed by the leader, she was often found fault by the leader. It's either that things are not done well, or they are not done right, and it is useless to belittle her. In fact, the eldest sister is an old employee, and many things are familiar with the road, so there will not be so many mistakes, the only explanation is that the leader deliberately picks bones in the egg, that is, deliberately suppresses her.
(3) Hold on to your mistakes and don't say a word about your merits.
When you make a small mistake, the leader grasps it, and deliberately magnifies the mistake, making it as if it is a big mistake, but when you make achievements in your work, the leader doesn't see it, doesn't mention a word, let alone a reward, or even verbal praise. It's obvious that the leader is suppressing you.
(4) Suddenly set you a goal that is difficult to achieve.
When the leader suddenly sets a high goal for your work, and this goal is completely impossible to achieve, it means that the leader is suppressing you. He deliberately put pressure on you, wanting you to be unbearable and take the initiative to leave.
Through the above four ways, you can tell if the leader is suppressing you. I hope my answer is helpful to you.
