Most couples break up for nothing more than two reasons – unmet emotional needs; There is no hope for the future. From the underlying logic, a girl falls in love with you for happiness, if she doesn't feel happiness or has a premonition that she will not be happy in the future, then breaking up is almost inevitable.
10 signs that a breakup can be reversed
1. If the communication between the two people is still very open after the breakup, it proves that there is still a chance to save.
2. If the other party still cares about you after the breakup, it can also indicate to a certain extent that the relationship has not completely broken down.
3. It's still very comfortable to get along with each other.
4. You will still feel happy together.
5. Be willing to make changes for the other party.
6. There is still a desire to contact each other.
7. Have a sense of security, it is more important for women to have a sense of security when looking for a partner, if your girlfriend still feels a sense of security from you, then it proves that there is still a possibility of saving.
8. They still keep each other's belongings.
9. Choose to break up when you are angry. When a person is angry, he will act aggressively, and that kind of behavior is irrational.
10. Still loving each other, this is the most important sign. Even if two people break up, but the heart is honest, as long as there is this kind of power, it is not impossible to redeem it.
3 tips for saving love
1. The right mindset to redeem
Without a good recovery mentality, any recovery technique is equal to zero. Redemption is a long-term process, a real self-growth and redemption, not a few tricks to trick the other person.
2. Don't blame yourself too much
Maybe after the breakup, you have realized all kinds of mistakes in your relationship, and the sense of reality gap makes you start to blame yourself...
However, painful negative emotions will not increase your chances of recovery, on the contrary, they will make you worse, your emotions will be more unstable, and you will spend a lot of time on self-torture and self-explanatory every day, and the cycle will repeat, and then you will not do any realistic and meaningful actions for a day.
3. Wait for the right moment to recover
When the girlfriend's attempt to regain a new relationship fails or does not go well after the breakup, she will become uneasy and anxious because of the lack of "need for belonging and love" + "physical need", resulting in a sense of loneliness and emptiness both physically and psychologically.
At this time, it is the time you have been patiently waiting for to recover, and then it will be up to you to behave.
10 signs that you can recover after a breakup:
1. It's been a long time since the breakup, and the ex-boyfriend still remains single
After the breakup, the boy returns to a free state of love, and if he lets go of this relationship, he will try to develop the next relationship. But he hasn't been in love since he broke up, he hasn't had an affair with anyone, and he hasn't made it clear that he likes another girl, so it means that he still can't let go of you. Maybe you've just been busy doing something else lately, or maybe he hasn't met the right girl. But people's hearts are always easy to be lonely, people have emotional needs, and breaking up does not mean that he has cut off his lust. It's been a long time since you broke up and still remain single, and there is only one real reason, your ex-boyfriend hasn't really let go of you in his heart, and he can't get out of the past with you for the time being. This also shows that there is still a chance for your relationship to be salvaged.
2. Your couple supplies are well kept
Why is this a sign that it can still save love? In fact, this is not difficult to understand. When you and your boyfriend are in love, you will use more or less common items: couple shirts, couple rings, couple cups, etc., which imply that the two are together emotional tokens, and he has been reluctant to throw them away after breaking up, indicating that the ex-boyfriend still has you in his heart.
Some guys even have a lot of intimate photos on social media such as Weibo, which are items that symbolize your relationship, and if he doesn't completely dispose of them, but still use them, it means that he still can't forget about you.
3. After the breakup, the ex-boyfriend frequently posts social updates
If he doesn't usually post much news, he can turn on the screen swiping mode after the breakup, with emotional chicken soup on one side and then life insights, as if he can realize it overnight.
In fact, these dynamics are probably deliberately written for you to see, and the words in the dynamics are actually a change in his attitude towards you, and he knows that even if you can't directly see your mutual friends, they will convey the past.
4. He always finds excuses to contact you
Maybe your ex-boyfriend took the initiative to find you just to pick up the things left in your house, just to care about the pets you have together. But once or twice is relatively normal, but always looking for excuses to contact you is actually trying to test your attitude towards him.
5. He won't refuse kindness from you that transcends friendship
When you're in a state of breakup, there's something that goes beyond friendship that he shouldn't have accepted. If he accepts your efforts with peace of mind, neither shirking nor thanking, this is a certain degree of acceptance that your apology is a sign of forgiveness for you.
6. After the breakup, you will also fulfill the promises you once made
If your ex-boyfriend continues to do some things after the breakup to fulfill the promises you once made, then it means that he is too infatuated with you. His heart is actually courting you, but he doesn't want to take the initiative to say it.
I want to know if I can still win back my boyfriend's heart, pay attention to my ex-boyfriend's behavior, and understand the other party's compound intention through some small details. These behavioral signs will not only boost your self-confidence, but also make recovery easier.
7. Follow your feeds.
When you send a new message on Moments or Weibo, your ex-girlfriend will always leave a few messages, or every time you open a space, you can see her among the recent visitors.
8. Will appear in front of you often
Maybe he will appear in front of you from time to time and let you notice him, in this case it means that he wants to get back together with you, he is afraid that you will forget him, and deliberately appears in front of you to remind you of his existence, so that you can't forget his existence, if this situation really has arisen between you, then go and redeem your ex, don't miss out on a love.
9. It often makes you angry
After you break up, your ex will often come to make you angry, deliberately say something to make you angry, or deliberately bring someone who is ambiguous with him to appear in front of you and make you jealous.
10. Ask a friend tactfully about your news
Even if it's a peaceful breakup, there will inevitably be embarrassment. Therefore, if he can't tell you directly, he won't be able to understand you. For people who are very familiar with the information is always habitually understood, and some people really can't let go of it in their hearts, driven by curiosity, they get your information from the mouth of their friends, so it's safer, after all, men and women don't kiss, you still have to marry, he has to marry a wife.
Here are 10 signs that you can recover after a breakup:
1. After the breakup, you did not block or delete your contact information, including phone, WeChat, QQ number, etc., indicating that the other party still cares about you and does not want to completely cut off the relationship with you.
2. After the breakup, he will also visit your social space such as Weibo in the circle of friends, which shows that he is still silently paying attention to your dynamics and still cares about you.
3. After the breakup, they will communicate with you normally, and there is still the same circle of friends, which means that the other party does not want to draw a line with you.
4. After the breakup, you still ask your friends about your current situation, indicating that the other party still can't let go of you and still has feelings for you.
5. After the breakup, I didn't tell anyone other than the two of you, which means that the other party is unwilling to let others know that you broke up and wants to get back together.
6. The couple's screen name and couple's avatar used during the relationship period after the breakup, and the other party has not changed after a long time, indicating that the other party still cares about the relationship.
7. After a breakup, if you see that you are very close to other members of the opposite sex, the other party will show that they are very angry or come out to disrupt your communication with others, indicating that the other party still cares about you very much, so they will be jealous when they see you with other members of the opposite sex.
8. After the breakup, you did not cut off contact with your family and friends, which shows that the other party still cares about your feelings.
9. If you don't disappear into your world after breaking up, it means that the other party doesn't hate you, but still wants to be with you.
10. After the breakup, I will post some sad texts in the circle of friends, about your relationship, indicating that the other party has not let go of this relationship.
Manage your feelings
Loving and being loved is not as good as falling in love, in a relationship, if it is only one party unilaterally, after a long time, anyone will feel tired, and this relationship will disappear without a trace. Long-term love needs to rely on two people to pay together and manage together.
Many people are on the road of affection, obviously love each other very much, but they still don't get a good ending. Maybe it's the wrong way to express love, you can't love too much, you can't help but express your love, and you keep your love in your heart. Learning to manage your feelings may make your relationship have a good ending.
If you want to learn to manage your feelings, you can't learn it all at once. It takes you to have enough patience and energy to change yourself little by little and improve the way you get along with each other. We can't eat hot tofu in a hurry, and it takes time to manage a relationship, so we must learn to understand and endure and consider more from the other person's point of view.
