The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a headache for many people. How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, men play a very important role in the middle. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been very difficult, and men should do a good job in regulating it.
When a wife quarrels with her mother, first of all, we should understand the truth of the matter, let the wife and mother calm down and talk about it, find out the reason, and then prescribe the right medicine. If you want to resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you can't be partial to one party. You should resolve it and adjust the contradiction between mother and wife. As a man, he should take the initiative to communicate with both sides, let them stop quarreling, help his wife and mother establish feelings, and divert their attention.
You should be mature first. Don't pull my mother as a backup when you have conflicts with my wife, and don't unite my wife and my mother to "reason" when they have differences. On the contrary, you should say "Mom is good" before your mother and "wife is good" before your wife; My wife said good things for my mother, and my mother said good things for my wife. The opportunity to show love should be created and left to mom as much as possible, and the opportunity to show filial piety should be left to wife as much as possible. In the long run, their relationship can be gradually improved.
1. Don't run away
Men like to enjoy peace and happiness and are afraid of trouble. When there is conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which side should a man stand on? Many men choose to stand on their side. When the wife angrily throws the dishcloth into the kitchen and the mother throws the plate into the living room, many men will choose to continue to read the newspaper on their legs because they do not want to get involved in the war between the two women, so they choose to escape. This is a sign of your incompetence and irresponsibility. You connive at the discord between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
2. Impartiality
Some men, when encountering a conflict between their wife and their mother, will never feel biased. They either prefer their wife to deal with their mother together, or prefer their mother to deal with their wife together. In particular, many Ma Baonan believed in their mother's words, and her mother was right. They didn't know the truth at all, so they made arbitrary conclusions, which hurt their wives' hearts unconsciously.
3. Homogenization
When a man treats his wife and mother, he should not favor one over the other. He should not give his mother the impression that he has married his wife and forgotten his mother. He should also not give his wife the voice that he wants only family, not love. To be specific, buy a gift for your wife on March 8th, and don't forget to buy one for your mother.
First: Play the emotion card.
First of all, sit down and talk with your mother: solemnly emphasize that you and your wife have a good relationship, and your marriage is really not easy today! In fact, she is very kind to you as parents: she always says you are not easy. I can't ignore you. You should be nice to her. She married to our family. Separated from her relatives. If we are not nice to her, no one will be nice to her. In retrospect, we should also communicate well with our wives: we are younger generation, and we should respect the elderly. We need more! Give way to everything, Mom! After all, it is not easy for the elderly to understand more and care less. As long as two couples have a good relationship, any problem can be solved!
Second: Cannot be partial
As a son and husband, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should never take sides in a fight, which will make the fight even worse. In the light, what they said is reasonable. None of them is wrong. If you are partial to your mother at this time, your wife will feel more aggrieved and unbalanced! Feel ashamed of yourself! Your partiality is like adding fuel to the fire! If you are partial to your wife, just say Mom is wrong., Mother will not promise: I really married my wife and forgot my mother! A white eyed wolf! The old man is very sensitive. As a result, he will send more complaints to his wife. Make things more complicated!
Third: Never use it as a treasure mother.
Must have their own position! If the communication effect between yourself and your mother is not obvious, you should directly show your attitude to your mother: this is not going to work! As a mother, you should consider my feelings. Our relationship is so good that we can't divorce because of some trivial matters. Of course you don't want us to divorce. If you really can't understand and tolerate each other, we will have to move out. Son is the whole damn thing! When you show your position as a mother who doesn't love his son. The serious consequences are not what she wants to see! She will step back and make some changes.
Some mothers are cowardly because of their life experience. If you have a firm position, she will have scruples and restrain!
Fourth: Move out.
If it doesn't work after a lot of efforts, moving out for a while is a good choice. Moving out is not the purpose. It is to leave space for calm reflection for both sides! In this period of time, you can also adjust the misunderstanding between them! The fragrance is far away and the smell is near. Distance produces beauty! I don't think it will be clear in a long time. Realize that I didn't do a good job. You can move home again.
When a wife quarrels with her mother, she should do her mother's work first, and then do her wife's work. You should pay attention to the soft tone. When communicating, you should not add fuel to the fire. When a wife quarrels with her mother, she can take the responsibility on herself, and act as a doormat to say more good things about the other side. If you can't live separately, it is the so-called distance produces beauty, which is conducive to the harmonious development of the whole family.
