In life, many of our friends don't know how to chat with people around them, or how to open up the atmosphere and blend in. Here are four tips to help you quickly chat with others and get along with people around you.
First of all, we need to understand the essence of small talk. Many people feel that they need to lead the topic, do more preparations, and how to dominate the topic atmosphere. The more you think about it, the harder it is to open the situation. The essence of gossip is to release goodwill. The essence of gossip is not valuable and nutritious communication. Since you know that the essence of small talk is to release goodwill, you can take the initiative to say hello to each other, and take the initiative to lead any topic. As for whether the other party accepts your kindness, it is not important to understand your kindness.
Second: Small talk does not necessarily mean participating in the chat. It does not necessarily mean talking more about your own views. Sometimes it is just eye contact, giving play to the other party's expression desire, and sometimes it is just a nod of cooperation, which makes the other party feel that you are in the same frequency. Don't think of small talk as complicated.
So how on earth can we talk with others? Let's teach you four moves.
1. Take the initiative to express goodwill or interest, and take the initiative to say hello
It doesn't matter what topic you are talking about. It's mainly initiative. It is important to express good intentions, and it is not important whether the other party will answer. For example, if it's very cold today, you can bring up the topic "It's very cold today, aren't you cold in these clothes?" Any topic can be talked about, and initiative is very important. It should be noted that you should not be concerned about your own initiative to express good intentions. The other party will not respond, and you should not think that it is embarrassing if others do not respond to you. That is his embarrassment, that is his impoliteness.
2. Please kindly guide and ask the other party about some topics
The purpose of kindly guiding and consulting the other party is to let the other party find the superiority of answering the topic. For example, if the other party has solved the problem beautifully, you can guide and ask the other party "How did you come up with this move? I was very curious. I thought about it for two days, but I didn't understand it. How did you come up with it all at once?" This is curiosity about him, admiration for him, and arousing the other party's desire for expression.
3. Open the atmosphere through self mockery
Proper self mockery can not only make the other party happy, but also let the burden go, and also make the atmosphere more cheerful and relaxed. Therefore, you should appropriately take your past embarrassing events to make everyone happy, and make others think that you are particularly grounded and can stand jokes, so the psychological distance between everyone and you will come naturally.
4. Take some small gifts properly
If we want those people to become closer and more familiar with us, we sometimes find it difficult to get closer to each other's feelings through language advantages. We can do this by means of small favors. Today I will bring you some local products and tomorrow I will bring you some souvenirs from travel. In this way, you will make people feel that you have him in your heart, that you are warm and that others are willing to be close to you.
The above is the way to talk with others. If you are very autistic and don't know how to get along with your friends around you, you can use the above four moves to get along with others in the near future. I believe you will be happy to make good friends.
