If you want to make your interpersonal relationship better and better, you need to know some unconventional skills. Proper unconventional skills will at least make you suffer little unnecessary losses. Here are four unconventional skills for you.
1. Shut up properly
In order to let the close people around us continue to chat with us, or even let them not say some important information and resources to others because of what they say to us, we should leave a tight mouth impression on the other party, and we should not casually tell others some important information or private information that he once told you, This careless way of talking is not good for chatting, which is destroying your own people's design. When your people's design collapses in the other party's mind, the other party thinks that you are not smart, then you will be difficult to obtain the other party's unique skills that will not be passed on in the future. So I want the other person to tell you more, whether good or bad, until you come here, only stay between you and him.
2. Properly tough
If someone asks you for help, you should not agree to everything. The more you do this, the easier it will be for the other person to advance. Because the other person does not know where your bottom line is, it will be more likely to let others think you are principled and not a good bully if you refuse several times properly. In this way, people will be more willing to associate with you. What you can do and what you can't do are also clear to others. It's so economical to let others stay with you, tell you a lot, promise you a lot, and finally fail to do it, which makes others think you are unreliable.
3. Seek advice properly
We should know that everyone has the mentality of being a teacher. We don't just say what people ask, or even ask the other side in the opposite direction sometimes. Because everyone has a desire to express himself. When you ask the other person a question, especially when you ask him for advice, the other person will be more willing to share more with you, because he can find his superiority and release his desire to express himself. When his desire to express himself is released, he will feel special to get along with you. So we should ask for advice properly, play dumb appropriately, and don't appear very smart everywhere.
4. Borrow money properly
Zeng Guofan mentioned in his letter to his family that you should also borrow money when you have money. Why do you do this? There are at least three advantages. 1. By borrowing money, you can imply that you have no money now, which breaks the way for some people to borrow money from you. 2. By borrowing money, we can see that those are true friends and those are false friends. 3. By borrowing money and paying it back in time, you can establish your own credit and make others think you are a person of special quality. In this way, if you ask someone to help you in the future, others will be more willing to help you.
The above four points are unconventional skills, which help us to make our interpersonal relationship better, and make our interpersonal relationship more intimate and better.
