If you need to communicate so that the other party can better cooperate with you, you must stop abusing false EQ, so that things can not be solved perfectly. Here are three suggestions to help you avoid the influence of fake EQ.
When it comes to EQ, some of us may have been mentioned by others. Why are you so low in EQ? So sometimes we are afraid of conflicts with others. We always pay attention to euphemism, warm and kind expressions. In the end, things become more and more serious, and you still need to bear the consequences. The reason is that you are always on the surface and pay attention to euphemism, so that the other party does not realize the seriousness of the problem. Those who really have EQ are those who have strategies and ways of speaking. Here are three suggestions for you.
Recommendation 1: Clarify the core purpose
Before communicating with the other party, make sure what the purpose of communicating with him today is. Is it to persuade him to accept my ideas and suggestions, or to promote his work. After you know your purpose, you can work hard in one place.
Recommendation 2: find sufficient arguments
Since you have defined your core purpose, you should prepare sufficient facts based on your core purpose. For example, if your goal is to persuade the other party to accept your point of view, you should prepare more facts that can prove yourself and increase credibility. Here is a reverse reasoning method, that is, you stand in the other side's perspective to ask a few questions. Why does he not believe you? What is his mind on earth? After you have sorted out these problems step by step, you can communicate with the other party in a targeted way, and when you prepare some facts and data, you will have a direction.
Suggestion 3: Use the words that are more acceptable to the other party
There are also two points here: 1. Change "I" to "you" or "we", which is easier for the other party to accept, because saying "you" is to stand on the other party's point of view and say "we" is our common interest, which is easier to bind the other party and make the other party feel that you are related to him. 2. Don't use an imperative tone unless you have to. For example, the commanding tone of "listen to me, what must you do, and what must you do?" will make the other party feel that you are very bureaucratic. You don't work hard every day and tell others what to do. So what tone should we use? We should make good use of the tone of empathy: "If I were you, what would I think and what would I do?"
