So when two people argue, most women will say something like "break up if they don't want to talk" or "divorce if they can't get along" when they are extremely upset. It seems that only such words can let their anger out.
1. Psychological insecurity
Because the people who really want to leave are always silent, they will silently store their strength in their hearts and make all kinds of preparations for parting in order to deal with all kinds of possible things when they want to break up. And I will also prepare for my future life and make clear arrangements for my future life before I start to break up or divorce.
There are some women who don't have much confidence in love. They don't believe that they can meet a real love. In addition, seeing too many women around me injured by love, I feel that love is an ethereal thing, such as the moon in the mirror, which looks beautiful but is actually vulnerable.
2. Stimulate the dull life by breaking up
In their view, this is just a way to adjust the dull life, add some interest to each other's love, and make everyone's feelings deeper. Through such a half hearted breakup, let everyone review the feeling of re pursuit and reconciliation, sometimes it is equivalent to a new love.
When the girl angrily broke up with the boy, the boy should think carefully about whether something has offended the girl recently, which made her feel extremely bad, so she threatened the boy with breaking up, so that the boy could reflect on whether he had done something wrong, which made the girl unhappy.
The best way to deal with such a situation is to coax the girl to let her lose her temper a little, and then slowly find out what's wrong with her. I hope the girl can tell him directly, which will also help the two to solve the problem. At this time, the girl should be coaxed slowly, and the attitude must be good. Many times, the problem will be solved by coaxing more.
3. It involves a question of principle
At this time, no matter how much the other half pleads for retention, the other party has already died to break up or divorce, because in their eyes, there is still great love waiting for them, and there are countless beautiful future for them to realize. The people in front of them seem to have already become obstacles to their pursuit of happiness.
Therefore, in such a situation of breaking up or divorce, unless the other party can suddenly wake up and turn back in time, it is possible to get back together again. But if the other party insists on parting, no matter what efforts are made, it is impossible to recover the relationship.
But no matter what happens, we always take "breaking up" as the way to solve the problem. After a long time, we will leave the illusion that we will break up in the other party's mind, so that we can start to do psychological construction for breaking up in our heart.
After his psychological preparation is well prepared, a woman may be agreed to break up again, and it may be too late to regret when things really reach that point.
Girls always say why they break up
1. It's just a coquettish temptation, or a tentative coquettish
When she said this, she didn't really want to break up, but wanted to see her position in your mind. Moreover, this was not an adventure. She knew her weight in your heart. She especially likes to see the expression of despair and helplessness when you hear this sentence, as well as the words and behaviors that you are eager to do everything possible to save. She looks at your panic and begging, and is extremely satisfied. She will soon take back this sentence. Of course, if she repeats this sentence three times, but you appear indifferent, then she will become angry and fake it. You have to learn how to respond to this sentence. Even if it is a performance, she says it a thousand times, you have to perform it a thousand times.
2. Prove your sense of existence and let you pay attention to her. You may be a male chauvinist or a strong woman. She loves you but can't stand it. So she said this sentence to express her sense of existence and hope to get your attention and response. This is similar to an ultimatum. If you respond and adjust, things will calm down; If you are indifferent and act indifferent, the other person will give up and start to change his mind.
Girls always say goodbye. What should boys do
1. If you still love her
When she said that at the moment of breaking up, no matter whether she made a mistake or not, she had to admit her mistake immediately, such as not caring enough about her, not answering her SMS in time, etc., and vowed to correct later, so that she would certainly be soft hearted, feel that you are so nervous about her, reluctant to let her go, and also be so brave to admit her mistake.
2. Be honest
When a woman is angry, she should put away her hippies, let herself become stable and mature, carefully analyze what she did badly, sincerely apologize, and express that she will live a happy life in the future.
3. Be proactive
A woman likes a man to coax her, hug her and say some love words in her ear, which can save her girlfriend's heart. But that is not enough. Next, you need to take practical actions, such as having a candlelight dinner together and giving her some small gifts to make her feel your love.
Couples in love will inevitably make a lot of noise because of some things. When some couples quarrel, they will move their breakup out of the stage. What is the mentality of those people who always put the word "breakup" on the lips is nothing but these three situations.
1、 Threaten the other party to compromise by breaking up
Most men have the experience that when they discuss a problem with their girlfriend, the discussion turns into a quarrel. In the eyes of boys, girls may be the most incomprehensible species in the world. Most boys say they don't know why their girlfriends are angry. When they go forward to ask the reason, their girlfriends become even more angry. They complain and quarrel constantly, which makes both sides feel bad.
In fact, in the emotional world, boys are rational animals and girls are emotional animals. When arguing, boys focus on the right or wrong of the problem itself, while girls focus on your attitude towards her. Therefore, when girls can't fight, they will break up in a hurry and force boys to compromise. Once boys compromise. Girls will find that this move works, and they will repeatedly put the breakup on the table, but this move is not a hundred tries and one hundred answers. When the patience of the boys is worn out, the moment the girls propose the breakup, the boys just nod their heads and agree, and the relationship between the two will really end.
2、 Girls have no sense of security
When two people first get together, they are always sweet and enthusiastic. As time goes by, girls will love boys more and more, but boys are the opposite. His enthusiasm gradually fades and begins to become dull. The girl thinks that as long as he still loves me, he will not promise to break up. Therefore, in the face of the cool attitude of the boys, they will break up to test each other. It's just that the girls have no sense of security and want to confirm whether the boys still have her.
However, no matter how sincere the feelings are, they can't stand to be tested again and again. Once the number of tests is too many and the enthusiasm of boys is exhausted, they will feel very bored. It is better to end the relationship earlier.
3、 The boy asks you, "Do you think we will break up?" Then there is a big problem.
In a relationship, it may be false for a girl to break up, but it is 100% true for a boy to break up. Boys don't say goodbye easily. If a boy asks you, "What will happen to you if we break up?" No matter what the tone of his words is, at least at that moment, he has already thought of breaking up.
If a boy takes the initiative to break up, he really doesn't want to stay with you anymore. Later, he may temporarily promise not to break up because of the girl's sadness or flattery. However, this relationship is not far away, sooner or later it will end.
How difficult it is for two people to meet and fall in love in the vast sea of people. The passion will fade someday. Cherish the person who accompanies you. Don't break up on a whim. Words you say are like water poured out and can't be taken back. Although it seems that the current feelings of on-off and on-off are common, this kind of fast-food feelings are meaningless. I hope you have a long and lasting love.
