When I go back to my hometown on holidays, I always meet seven aunts and eight aunts who ask me what to do? How on earth can you divert your attention and make yourself withdraw effectively? Here are three moves for you.
First move: exaggerated reply
If you don't want to reply to some questions in a serious way, you can directly and exaggeratively reply to them, brag and let them know that they are boring. For example, they ask you how much your monthly salary is? Did you buy a house? Did you buy a car? Are you married? If you don't want to tell them, you can reply to them in this way: "Oh, it's boring, and you will earn less than 100 million a year. If you have the chance to come back to the sea view house and villa, you must come, and I will invite you when the time comes." In fact, the other party knows that your exaggerated reply is boring, and they also know that you are bragging. Your exaggerated reply is to tell the other party that you don't want to answer.
Second move: reverse care
Reverse care means that when the other person cares about you, you can also care about the other person, his family, and what progress he has made. For example, if the other party asks you, "Have you found someone recently.
Third move: reverse praise
If you don't want to be the focus of the conversation when the other side praises you, you can turn the topic to the other side and back. For example, when the other party sees your car as good, "Wow, it's a good job, it's a good car!" You can boast back "It seems that you have a lot of research on cars. What brand of cars have you seen in the past?" If you ask him that, the topic will shift to the other party. Sometimes you can even boast about the other party's advantages. For example, if the other party is well dressed, you can respond in this way: "Uncle, your clothes are fashionable. I find you are really the most trendy in our village. Where did you buy the clothes?" If you shift the topic, the other party may proudly show you off.
When you don't want to be the focus of the topic, you should put the topic on the other person, so that the other person is willing to talk about themselves, or let the other person leave knowingly, instead of talking about you.
