How to judge whether a person is worth deep friendship? We will meet all kinds of people in our life. Who is worthy of our deep friendship? Here is a formula of human relations to judge everyone easily.
First of all, we still need to talk about this phenomenon. In real life, when dealing with people, we often meet people who can talk with us. Even when we chat, we feel that the three views are very consistent, very frequent, and even feel that the other person is like a bosom friend. At first sight, we feel like old friends, and hate meeting each other too late. But after you get familiar with him, you will find that the other party is just like that, and it is not worth making deep acquaintance. So how can we judge others more clearly?
Remember this formula:
人对你的感情=“你是谁”+恩情×对方的人品×对方的度量
Let's talk about the formula of "who are you?". Whether others treat you well or not depends on "who are you?". Are you a powerful person, a person of special value to him, or a person who can help him solve problems, etc. "Who are you" determines the other party's attitude towards you. So each of us should manage ourselves well first, make ourselves strong enough to be used, and improve our personal valuation. Only in this way can we constantly strengthen ourselves, and our contacts will not be bad.
Gratitude lies in the social process of the other party. You empower the other party more and let the other party owe more to you, which often determines that the other party will feed you more in the future. Of course, this kind of kindness cannot be a casual friend. In fact, a small favor will not impress the other party. On the contrary, at the critical moment, you always exceed the expectation of the other party, and you will let the other party owe you a favor. So when the other party finds you, or the other party doesn't find you, but you find the other party needs help, you suddenly exceed his expectations and help him solve the problem. In this case, he will remember your kindness. Gratitude is only big or small, not positive or negative.
Personality is a positive and negative variable. Some people are on the positive side, while others are on the negative side. Some people are willing to treat you as long as you treat them well, regardless of whether you are good or bad. They even treat you as long as they think you are good. This is called good character. But some people are snobs. They flatter you when you are doing well, but when you fall into a slump, they step on you or abandon you at the first time, which is called bad character. So people with poor character must keep a distance.
The explanation of measurement is that some people can share prosperity with others, while others cannot. If you have made some achievements in front of him, you will make her feel very stimulated. This kind of person also needs to keep a distance. This kind of person with strong jealousy is terrible. He just can't tolerate others to be better than him. So we should learn to judge a person's measurement.
The above is the formula to judge whether a person is worth making deep acquaintance. We should remember that we should always become stronger and constantly empower others with more kindness. As for the character and measurement of others, we can't control it. We just want to do good things without asking for returns, constantly self planning, and constantly strengthening ourselves. There is no shortage of contacts and people who are good to you around you.
