It is very normal for couples to quarrel with smart women in the cold war. Where couples do not quarrel, it is always at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. The key is how to make up. Let's take a look at how smart women in the cold war fight between couples!
1. Give a man a step down
Husband and wife quarrel is a very normal thing. There must be contradictions when people live together. When quarreling with each other, they need to understand that quarreling is only temporary, which is just an expression of emotions at that time.
When many women quarrel with their husbands, they always feel that their husbands don't love themselves and that they are wrong. Then start to stimulate the other party with hurtful words, and then reject the intimacy of the other party with cold violence.
In fact, such a woman is very silly, because no matter who is right or wrong when fighting, she should give each other a chance, and also give herself a chance. Even if it is the husband's fault, if it is not a major problem, if he has apologized to you, then your endless complaints and noise will not solve the problem.
Smart women will never make endless noise to you. Even if they know that the wrong person is the other, they will be generous. They understand that the best solution is to give a man a step down, which can reflect their tolerance and make men have dignity.
2. Replace Cold War violence with coquetry
A husband and wife who do not quarrel does not mean true happiness and love. Proper quarrels sometimes become emotional catalysts. In the process of quarrel, women's solutions to conflicts are very important.
Silly women always like to use violence to solve problems, either verbal violence or cold violence. In fact, these two solutions are really silly. Because this will not solve any problems, but will exacerbate contradictions.
The husband and wife should be happy and loving each other. Even if there are contradictions and disagreements, they should learn to have a happy ending after the quarrel.
A smart woman will not always have cold war violence, because your cold war violence is likely to make her husband lose confidence in your relationship. However, it is wise women's practice to show weakness by being coquetry. Your coquetry will arouse your husband's desire to protect you and guilt.
3. Do your duty well
In life, we all play different roles in the family. Women as wives and mothers have their own things to do.
When we quarrel, we are likely to be emotionally controlled and forget what we should do. However, this kind of practice is not helpful to solve the quarrel.
Only a silly woman will be affected by her emotions. She is full of anger and unwilling to deal with family affairs in time. And smart women will do their own thing well.
No matter how much two people quarrel, when your quarrel is over, you should be able to control your emotions. You should go to work when you should go to work, and you should cook well when you should. Don't always bring your emotions into your life. It will only be you who suffer.
The performance of husband and wife at the end:
1. Often quarrel
Assuming that there is no common language and no love between husband and wife, the most obvious sign is a quarrel. No matter at home or outside, any small matter will be argued, quarreled in front of relatives and friends, and will tear the face of each other without giving any face. If he doesn't love, he will expand his wife's shortcomings infinitely, even make trouble for her, saying that she is slovenly, doesn't earn money to support the family, just takes care of children, and scolds her wife for not giving her face and not cleaning up herself.
If the husband always makes trouble for his wife and doesn't understand her, it is certain that his heart has already left his wife, and he has no initial love for her. This kind of contact between husband and wife will not last long, and the fate of husband and wife will come to an end.
2. Disregard each other
There are many couples who dislike each other, but there are still differences between true and false dislike. False disdain for a person is a sentiment, a pinching of the face, saying that the other person is a cunning, and that the other person is really ugly but still can't help looking at the other person. But I really dislike a person, because I feel bored when I look at each other more, and my eyes are full of disgust.
It is to expose each other in front of outsiders, and it is to fight fiercely and attack desperately. If two people come to this point, the love will come to an end. Because we can no longer see each other's good, we can only expand each other's shortcomings infinitely.
3. Don't like going home
Another prominent feature of the lack of harmony between husband and wife is resistance to return home. Home is a warm harbor. Instead of going home to drink with friends after work, he went to the movies and said he was working overtime.
After a quarrel, a smart woman can first solve the problems between husband and wife. Secondly, she can make the quarrel not hurt the relationship. Finally, she can make her husband love you more. After a husband and wife quarrel, a smart woman will do this in three steps:
1. Calm down first
In the mood, the husband and wife will always quarrel, the more noisy the more hurt the feelings, and in the end, no one will be convinced, and no result will be achieved. Smart women, first of all, will not be emotional hostage, can control and handle their emotions. If the other party has emotions, they will not fight with him, and will give the other party space and time to digest emotions. Let two people adjust their emotions first, and then let them be calm and rational. Don't argue in emotions.
2. Make a statement first
The reason why quarrels can hurt relationships is that couples bring quarrels into their lives. They don't talk to each other, don't cook, don't eat, and don't do housework.
A smart woman will separate the quarrel from the life. She will do what the family should do. She will do well in her own responsibility to make the family life work normally. This is to tell your husband your attitude by behavior, "quarreling is quarreling, life is life, and life should be lived well." You have done your job first, and he will do his job well and pay his responsibilities to the family as long as he also wants to live well.
3. Resolve first
The root of the quarrel is that when couples encounter problems, they have contradictions and need their own concessions. Smart women will start to solve problems first, and use their own behavior to guide their husbands to solve problems together. Put forward reasonable and practical solutions, or make reasonable and acceptable concessions, so that the problem can be solved as soon as possible.
At this time, a man will first feel that his wife is comfortable, considerate and good to him. Then there is guilt. How can I get angry with my wife, be bad to her, and be indebted to her. If you feel your wife is good, you will naturally love her more. If you know that you owe your wife, you will naturally make up for it in other ways and be more good to her.
A smart woman must be the CEO and executive director of the family, capable and courageous. When there is a quarrel, take the lead in guiding the husband, resolving conflicts and improving family relations.
