It is often said that a mature person should give up emotion. But I don't agree. In this world, it is inevitable to have secular desires. If there has been no waves in the heart, it is no different from walking corpses. A really strong person is not without emotions, but can deal with every emotion and control his own emotions. Always unable to control their emotions, how should we do?
1. Learn to adjust your emotions with your head
Be your own guide with a good attitude. Tell yourself that happiness or sadness will pass. Life is always going on. Don't let your emotions delay your journey. Wild geese fly at 30000 feet in order to migrate, sad or happy. When you are trapped by emotions, don't let yourself indulge, and look at the problem from another angle. Motivated by regret, turn sadness into courage to walk out of darkness.
2. Accept your emotions
Treat emotion as a natural reaction, just like shivering in cold weather and sweating in hot weather. Don't resist, and gladly accept the existence of every emotion. Only by learning to face it, can we deal with it calmly.
3. Don't make decisions in emotion
There are also irrational emotions, like a pair of brothers. Emotional decisions are often regrettable. At any time, calm down before solving problems.
4. Silence dozens of times
When you encounter something that makes you angry, don't rush to get angry or scold others, and silently count dozens of times. During this period, you can stop thinking about anything, calm yourself down first, and then you can control your emotional impulses to a large extent.
5. Avoid conflict
If you want to control your emotions, you must choose to avoid conflict. Once you are annoyed by someone, don't contact that person again. This can largely avoid the physical or verbal conflicts caused by the stimulation of your emotions again and again.
6. Rationally solve problems
Everyone knows that impulse is the devil, so when you meet something that makes you very angry, don't rush to impulse. You should know that reason is the root of all problems, so you should try to convince yourself in your heart.
7. Usually read more positive and optimistic books
Usually you can read more positive books or magazine articles, so you can have a good attitude. Don't be depressed and preoccupied like Lin Daiyu. In this way, it is difficult for us to become better. When we are in a bad mood, we can watch jokes and smile. It's no big deal. Our emotions are our own decisions.
When our emotions are difficult to control, we can try to adjust our emotions in the following three ways:
1、 Emotional transfer method, We can consciously change the topic, or do something else, such as listening to music, watching TV, playing ball, playing chess, to distract our attention. Transfer your thoughts and feelings to other activities to relax your tense emotions, or go out alone. This will release the energy aroused by anger and calm the mood.
2、 Speak your heart, It is also good for your physical and mental health to tell your troubles to your relatives or close friends, or even cry, or throw pillows to beat sandbags and other methods to vent the accumulated troubles. But we should pay attention to the object, place and occasion of venting, and the method should also be appropriate to avoid hurting others.
3、 Forgetting unhappiness, You can focus on your career or work, do as many chores as possible, or find several friends to play video games in groups. The goal is to forget about troubles by keeping hands and feet and mind busy.
4、 It is recommended to listen to more beautiful and relaxed music with slow rhythm, gentle melody, elegant tone when you have time, This is also helpful for calming the mood and changing the grumpy temper.
How to make your heart strong
1. No matter what you do, remember to do it for yourself, then you will have no complaints.
2. At any time in life, we are not afraid to start again. Every seemingly low starting point is the only way to a higher peak.
3. Make yourself more peaceful and open-minded, and be more tolerant of the mistakes around you. In fact, everyone has his own difficulties. Why force others
4. Bad things always happen, but there are still many ways to solve difficulties. Never forget to learn and broaden your mind. All troubles will be followed forever, and knowledge and self-restraint can make a person analyze and deal with these problems more rationally and calmly.
5. The joy of life is to find it by yourself. No one has the obligation to do anything for you or to please you.
6. There are gains and losses. This is life. Don't be angry. It is also the most taboo for a man to blame himself endlessly, which is annoying. To love oneself is like the rising sun.
7. In the face of difficulties, don't be pessimistic.
8. In fact, what you have lost has never really belonged to you, and there is no need to regret it. Be smart. No matter what mistakes you make in your life, they are all your own mistakes. You are no different from others. Learn from your mistakes and strive for perfection until you don't make the same mistake. Don't blame others for your mistakes, so as to avoid losing the opportunity to learn.
9. In a short life of decades, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others. Why prove something to the unworthy? Living better is for yourself
10. Life is not absolutely fair, but relatively fair. On a scale, the more you get, the more you must bear.
