How to educate children who rebel as parents? The most troublesome thing for parents is to talk back to you when the child is rebellious or too thoughtful. Because at this time, we don't know how to persuade him or how to end it, so here we teach you three ways to overcome the tough and teach good children who are sensible and obedient.
First, we need to understand why children are stubborn and why they talk back to you. There are three reasons behind this.
Reason 1: Some children have strong personality. You may not take care of their feelings, face and surrounding situations when talking to them. You hurt their self-esteem. They feel that their face is gone, and they may be inspired by this. Even if they don't listen to you, you can't take him. Therefore, we need to review whether there are corresponding problems in the way of talking, communicating and socializing with children, and whether they hurt the self-esteem of the other party.
Reason 3: The child's self-awareness has been strengthened, and he is more likely to talk back to you. When he didn't have much self-consciousness in the past, he listened to what you said and listened to what you said. But as he grew up, with his experience getting wider and richer, he had his own independent thinking. Sometimes he even knew what to do, so you didn't really find that he had grown up at this time, If you have grown up, but take your standard or your thinking to give orders to the other party, then he may talk back to you because he wants to show his own position, he wants to show his own thinking. But sometimes he may not be able to explain his own position very specifically, and explain his reason clearly to you, but you should be aware of whether it is the stage of strengthening children's self-awareness.
So when you realize that there are three reasons why children talk back to you and are stubborn, you should find corresponding solutions. So what kind of discipline should children rebel against? Here are three suggestions for everyone.
Suggestion 1: calm down, take retreat as progress, and learn to respect children
You should not feel embarrassed just because your child is stubborn with you, and you will start to burst out. You argue with your child every day as if you haven't grown up. The child is ignorant. Are you still as ignorant as him? So when he puts forward an objection, we should think quickly and quickly to feel his heart. Why did he put forward such an objection? In order to get his understanding of you, you can also put down your own body first, instead of being angry, you should put down your own body and communicate with him equally. For example, you can say, "Son, I don't know why you are so rebellious in this respect today. Can you tell your father why?" For example, the child doesn't want to eat, You can also persuade "Baby, mother has spent a lot of time in this area to make your body better quickly. If this continues, mother will have no incentive to make delicious food for you next time." So the child rebelled. You should bend down and communicate with him in an equal way to make him feel that you are not oppressing him, You are communicating with him in his friend's language, and you are analyzing the advantages and disadvantages with him. Only when you put down your posture and let him feel that you are a friend, and you talk to him in an equal way, can your truth be distracted.
The third move: show your bottom line
If necessary, let your child know where your bottom line is and what things you can't do. For example, a child is impolite and rude when talking to his grandparents at home, and even says something he shouldn't say. In this case, you must let him think about it through the wall, and let him know what he should say instead of saying and what he can't do. You should show your bottom line. For example, if a child falls toys at home and doesn't cherish them, you should put away the toys, limit his playing time, and let him know what he should do and what not to do through your behavior of showing the bottom line again and again. In this way, the child will not only know how to get along with you in a proper way in the future, but also feel more and more proper with others outside.
So when a child rebells, as a friend of parents, you should know why the child rebelled and the correct way to deal with it, so that the child can know that his rebellion is not correct and let the child be more obedient.
