In marriage, if there is a problem, the average person will either rise to the challenge, or escape, or pretend not to know, and bury himself like an ostrich, which is basically the same state. But if there is a problem in his marriage, he will certainly reflect on himself and find the best solution.
1、 When problems arise in marriage, first analyze whether they are caused by their own internal or external factors
Sometimes the problems in marriage are caused by some internal friction and some problems that cannot be communicated, which makes the relationship between two people very distant and unwilling to communicate. In this case, if there are problems that cannot be reconciled between partners, then communication is the main way. After all, two people have an emotional foundation, and only communication is lacking, As long as one person is aware of the problem and willing to calm down and communicate with the other party, he believes that this problem is not a major problem, and will be solved, but a minor disturbance in marriage.
2、 If there are problems in marriage because some children have different ideas of education, then there is no need to fight with each other, and we can seek the support of a third party
Families with children, especially children in primary school, may have different educational ideas between parents after secondary school, so there will be some conflicts in the issue of educating children. At this time, both sides feel reasonable. Fighting for one thing will not stop, and even affect the children's mood. In fact, the ultimate goals of both people are the same, In order to better manage the children, we can seek the support of a third party at this time, such as friends with children around us, or the help of children's teachers, and let these third parties help us analyze our current situation.
3、 If the problem in marriage is emotional, one of them has an extramarital affair
In marriage, if one party has extramarital feelings, then the other party must be receiving incentives, feeling that it is a betrayal of the marriage, and is unwilling to listen to or forgive the other party. At this time, you should also calm down and think about which treatment is most beneficial to you, rather than using this escapist mentality to escape from reality.
What to do after marriage problems occur
1、 Timely solve marriage problems
Neither good nor evil is small. It is also effective in marriage. Although some marital problems seem to be minor problems, due to the negligence of both husband and wife, you choose to escape or hold the idea of muddling through, which may lead to the outbreak of marital crisis due to the accumulation of minor contradictions.
Once the marriage crisis breaks out, it is easy to become the fuse of marriage breakdown. Therefore, when there are minor problems in marriage, we should find them in time and solve them actively. For marriage, we should have a preventive attitude and avoid never admitting mistakes. Marriage has not won or lost. Learn to solve marriage problems in time, and take the initiative to admit mistakes, so that marriage can last forever.
2、 Remembering the beauty of husband and wife together
The memories shared by husband and wife can remind you that your heart is still full of happiness when you are with your partner, and then the corners of your mouth automatically rise. All you can think of is the happy time with your partner. The advantage of increasing husband and wife memories is that you can experience the happiness brought by having a partner in your marriage life. Therefore, you can do something happy with your partner.
For example, traveling together, enjoying the afternoon sun together, dating together, planting small saplings together, and witnessing the process of saplings growing into big trees with your partner... These can make you like to share every bit of life with each other, and make your marriage more profound.
3、 Improve yourself
In marriage, both husband and wife need to improve themselves. Only by constantly improving their own values and achieving common progress can we better maintain the marriage relationship. In marriage, if one party does not strive for progress, while the other party continues to make progress, the couple will lose balance in marriage. Because the pace of growth is inconsistent, it is easy to lead to conflict between husband and wife. So both husband and wife should make progress together to improve your ability to treat others and deal with problems.
How to communicate between two people
Don't force orders: husband and wife in daily life, especially when the other party is in a bad mood. An imperative tone of voice to assign a task, or to take it for granted without consultation, is likely to become the trigger of a quarrel.
Don't blame more: In daily life, there is always something that makes one spouse dissatisfied with the other. At this time, we should be tolerant with "lover's heart" and less blaming.
Don't fight tit for tat: If the husband and wife have different views on a certain matter, they should communicate well and take a compromise to solve the problem. Never, like a debate, fight head to head and ask the other party to agree with their own views. Such a hot way will not solve the problem and affect family harmony.
Husband and wife should pay attention to "degree" when quarreling
When a husband and wife quarrel, they should focus on the facts. They should not do anything for one thing. They should turn over their old scores, and they should not break things. The correct attitude to solve problems is to calmly explain your reasons.
Never disparage each other's family and members in a quarrel. This will expand the contradiction and cause greater anger. Don't say evil words. When both husband and wife express their emotions, they should use words wisely. Don't speak evil words to hurt the other person's heart.
You should not go back to your parents' home or leave home after a quarrel. Leaving home will intensify the conflict, resulting in new crises and even the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.
Try to avoid the quarrel between the husband and wife who are introduced by outsiders, let alone seek sympathy, support and comfort from the outside world. Don't argue in front of children, which will make them lose their sense of security.
When quarreling, one party should not be silent, which will make the other party more angry.
Never do anything. We must grasp the principle of "speaking without doing anything". Once started, it will leave indelible pain in the other party's heart, resulting in the breakdown of the marriage. If you lose control and start fighting, you must apologize to each other afterwards.
It is forbidden to refuse to give up. It is necessary to argue clearly about right and wrong. Things between husband and wife are a problem that can never be solved. It does not matter whether they win or lose. It is unnecessary to hold grudges and revenge.
