Although we are all saying that the most important thing is that we should be able to feel comfortable when we have certain exchanges and contacts with a person, so that we can feel mutual concern in this relationship. But sometimes things go against our wishes. Even if we want to maintain a relationship, we will not receive certain respect from the other party, which makes us feel that we have tried our best in this relationship. At this time, we should speak out our thoughts with the other person in a positive way. After both of us communicate with each other, we should see whether the other person makes changes according to the situation. If the other person does not give us changes, we should break or break. Don't make ourselves hurt too much in this relationship and spend too much time.
If we encounter a bad thing or a bad product in our life, do we want to choose to abandon it so as to choose something that can help us more. When facing people who have their own ideas, we can make more choices. Whether it's our friends or our closest lovers, if we feel that we can't breathe through this relationship all the time, or even feel that our thoughts are oppressed, we should stop nostalgia and choose to make some changes.
First of all, we should talk to people who make us feel that they are not satisfied with us, or whether we have done something wrong. If the other party timely tells us why it is our fault, we can also make changes in time. If the other party just makes trouble for no reason or chooses not to say it, then we should not pay attention to it, which means that the other party is not because of us, but simply because they are unhappy with us or don't care about us. At this time, we can break off the relationship in time after we directly point out that the other party's behavior is disrespectful to us, and do not leave so-called feelings. Since the other party treats us like this when we have certain contact, we should not talk about respect and care in the future, so we should not feel nostalgic.
At any time, we should be respected, no matter what state and situation we are in, so we should choose those who will respect us more, make us benefit from this relationship, and make concessions to each other, rather than those who blindly consume us and then gain benefits from us.
What do lovers rely on to maintain their relationship
1、 Know what you want
Many people think that finding a lover is just for sex, which is just a one-sided understanding. If it's just for sex, what communication do lovers need? In fact, lovers are more together for happiness. They can be like intimate lovers who have personal concerns and personal concerns.
2、 Keep a proper distance
The relationship between people is too close, which is not a good thing, not to mention the special relationship between lovers. Don't get too close to each other, and don't disturb each other's life, so that you can have enough freshness, and won't cause many unnecessary misunderstandings and troubles.
3、 Give each other a certain 'space
Don't put too much emphasis on your lover in life. You should focus on your own life. Don't always ask the other party to be available at any time. In that case, you won't be called a lover. Only contact at the right time, and do not contact so closely, which can reduce the contradiction between each other, but will make you miss more.
4、 Grasp the right balance
No matter how close the relationship between lovers is, we should also pay attention to propriety in speaking and handling affairs. Don't make meaningless promises to the other party, nor say excessive words to stimulate and hurt the other party. The simpler the relationship between each other, the better. It's better to have each other in mind. It's unnecessary to let everyone know.
5、 There should be no intersection economically
You can buy gifts and gifts for your lover, or give some financial help when the other party is in trouble. However, lovers must be financially independent, not mix together, and not partner in business. Only when people are economically independent can they be ideologically independent and not depend too much on each other.
6、 Mutual understanding
Sometimes the relationship between lovers is as intimate as that between husband and wife. They can comfort and care for each other and help each other, but it must be clear that there is no responsibility between each other. If one party's family has some problems, don't interfere, and know how to avoid them. Lovers are more like flowers in a greenhouse. They look beautiful, but in fact they are fragile. It is difficult to grasp the relationship between them, and they will be destroyed if they are not careful. So, even if you follow all the principles, even if you want to keep the relationship with your lover for a long time, you should still keep a good attitude and accept the feelings that may end at any time and have no results.
Lovers want to follow these principles for a long time
1. Don't have too much economic exchanges, and keep spiritual communication. It's better not to have too much economic exchanges between lovers. For two people's feelings, too much economic exchanges will lead to too many interests and relationships. At the same time, this is also a great harm to the main office of the family, and it will increase the risk of exposure of the relationship between two people. Lovers can have more spiritual communication, You can keep a moderate concern, and try not to do anything out of line if you can. Only in this way can the relationship between two people go a little further.
2. Don't make excessive demands on the other party, and let go of your desires. When lovers get along with each other, they must know how to put themselves in the right place. They must not be unwilling to be the lover of the other party. They should not want to be the lover of the other party. They should also want to be the lover of the other party, or get more compensation from the other party. This is often unbearable pressure for the other party, and it is often a huge injury to both families, The result is often: the relationship between lovers is broken, and the two people break up in discord, because few people will give up their careers and their families for their lovers.
3. Respect each other's personal space and do not interfere with each other's life. The reason why the relationship between lovers can be maintained depends on "feelings". When two people are together, they are happy with each other, and they are willing to maintain this relationship. Otherwise, they will definitely break up in bad mood. When lovers get along, they must know how to respect each other's personal space, and not interfere with each other's life casually, or they will make each other feel pressured, It will also make the other party feel miserable, which will hurt their feelings greatly. Finally, the relationship between them will be difficult to last for a long time.
What are the key factors to maintain a good interpersonal relationship
1. Respect for others is the prerequisite for successful communication
Only by respecting others can we gain their respect. If you deliberately hurt others' self-esteem, you will be counterattacked by the other party.
People's hearts are very sensitive and fragile, whether you are young or old. When dealing with people, small things are big things. Small acts of kindness and etiquette are very important because they show that you respect others. Respecting others means that you think they are important. A small impolite act, a small unfriendly words and deeds, and a small disrespect will cause great trouble, because these behaviors show that you look down on others.
Some people like to show themselves. They like to show off, they like to brag, they just want to prove how good, important and powerful they are. However, this is foolish behavior. Because if you show that you are better than others, it means that others are not as important as you. In this way, others will avoid you and keep a distance from you. This is a big mistake in interpersonal communication!
2. Irrational emotions will cause communication failure
To develop interpersonal skills, the most important thing is to understand human nature. Understanding human beings is more difficult than studying science, because the two are so different. People have emotions, and their emotions are always changing. People have various prejudices and different motivations. People have different personalities, different needs, different desires and different styles. However, science is totally different from human beings. Science is "dead", it has no emotion, it will not change. As long as you are willing to work hard and have reasonable intelligence, you can master science well. This is why people who learn well at school will not adapt to society, because interpersonal skills are very different and important in society. You don't usually specialize in interpersonal skills in school. However, because there are certain rules in interpersonal relationships, if you can have a basic understanding of human nature, you can successfully handle relationships with other people.
3. Interpersonal communication must be mutually beneficial
To understand others, you should know that different people have different needs and desires. The same thing can be good for one person and bad for another. When dealing with other people, please remember that both sides hope to get some benefits, whether emotional benefits or material benefits, whether now or sometime in the future. If it is always a one-way benefit and always benefits one person, then this relationship cannot be maintained for a long time. Interpersonal communication must provide mutual benefits.
4. Your attitude and action will determine the success or failure of communication
There is an important psychological rule in interpersonal communication, that is, your attitude and actions will get similar responses from others. When dealing with other people, we will see our own attitude reflected in their behavior. It's almost like standing in front of a mirror. When you smile, others (themselves in the mirror) also smile. When you are angry, others (themselves in the mirror) are also angry. Therefore, if you want others to respect you, you should respect others first. If you are selfish and only consider yourself, others will stay away from you. Few people know how important this psychological law is.
