Don't rush to make a decision first. Impulse is the devil, and the things or decisions people make under impulse are often irrational. So let yourself calm down first, and make plans after you calm down. It is difficult to enter one house, and even more difficult to leave one house. This matter needs careful consideration, because divorce is not just a matter for you two. There are two families behind, let alone children.
If you really can't get along with each other, divorce. Indeed, it is the children who suffer the most from divorce between husband and wife. So living in an environment where the feelings of husband and wife are not compatible will not hurt the children? wrong! It hurts children even more.
When parents feel discord and quarrel or fight, they often use their children to vent their anger. Due to the anger of the husband and wife, the child will also be treated coldly, without due care and love, and the lack of maternal or paternal love, making the child feel lonely and lost.
The cold war and quarrels do great harm to children. Children are young, often unable to judge the pertinence of their parents' bad emotions. They will subconsciously worry that their parents' bad emotions are caused by themselves, feel remorse and guilt for their parents' marital discord, and even worry about their parents' divorce.
Marriage can not go on, but the treatment of having children is as follows:
1. Both parties can negotiate for divorce and determine the ownership of the child's custody. If the husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they should sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority. The divorce agreement shall state the intention of both parties to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child rearing, property and debt handling;
2. You can also bring a lawsuit to the court, which will generally judge the party with good upbringing conditions. Go to the people's court to file a lawsuit application to the court and prepare divorce materials. After the filing hall reviews that the application meets the conditions for filing, and the case is approved for filing, the filing court will issue a notice of filing, and pay litigation fees with the notice of filing. After the filing court of the court accepts the case, it will transfer the case to the civil court for trial. After the civil court receives the case, it will issue a summons to the other party, Requiring him to appear in court at a certain time; After both parties appear in court, the court will mediate; The court made a decision to approve or disapprove divorce through hearing.
If the marriage really cannot continue, don't force yourself to be together for the sake of children, because in real life, many marriages for the sake of children are often unhappy. This may be because when they become parents, they always hope their children can have a complete family, so they choose to compromise in this marriage, which is often the most painful marriage.
My personal understanding is that no matter what kind of marriage it is, as long as you feel very sad, you should firmly choose divorce, because after divorce, you will find that this marriage has brought you so much pain, even if you don't need this marriage to support yourself. Although divorce is not the only choice, it is the best, because it can return you to the state before marriage, and this state is also the most difficult and valuable.
1、 Try to retrieve the feelings between two people.
In fact, in life, everyone's marriage will be quarreled and very sad, but they can always insist on not divorce, more because they know how to communicate and recover when the relationship between two people has problems. After all, the two people used to love each other, only because of various trivial things in life that affected the relationship. At the same time, after having children, parents are generally unwilling to choose divorce, because without divorce, children can have a complete family, and the most precious thing for children is to have parents' love.
2、 When it is irretrievable, I will resolutely choose divorce.
It is not that divorce does little harm to children. Sometimes a marriage forced together for children will make children feel less happy in the family atmosphere. In fact, the child is very sensitive. He knows that the parents' feelings may be due to their own reasons. In this way, the child may be hurt by this in the process of growing up, which will undoubtedly be greater than the parents' divorce.
