It is impossible to return to the previous feelings after divorce. Unless the two parties divorced because of misunderstanding, and the feelings may be reconciled after the misunderstanding is removed, otherwise the shadow will always be in the hearts of the two people.
If both the husband and the wife have reached the point of divorce, they can hardly make up, which means that they have already had a big dispute and no feelings.
Ten good ways to reduce the pressure of marriage life, hoping that in the current high-pressure life, couples can create a warm situation by changing some habits:
1. Put your spouse first
This is a crucial principle and the key to reducing stress. You should try your best to ask yourself to put your spouse first.
2. Leisure together
Whether it's watching movies, walking, eating, traveling..., it's fun for two people to go together and promote the close connection between them.
3. Plan a common timetable
Couples should not have time to get together only at meals. The relationship between spouses should be better than other priorities or time periods. Sit down and plan well to reserve good time for each other, and learn to put some things in the second place.
4. Learn to compromise with each other
Don't always stick to your own opinions, learn to let go. Respect each other's views and methods, remind yourself of what is most important, and purify the list of things so that both parties can have more pleasant exchanges.
5. Jointly participate in caring and giving
Complete kitchen work together, participate in social service work together, and care for people in need together. Both sides joined ranks to expand their horizons.
6. Communicate with respect
Misunderstanding is the cause of tension. Always keep interaction with you and your spouse, and always communicate with each other in a loving and kind manner.
7. Tell the truth
"When what you say is the truth, you don't have to remember what you said last time." Honest people face less pressure in interpersonal relationships.
8. More physical contact
Physical contact is one of the effective ways to relieve stress. Squeeze together to watch TV, hug, walk hand in hand, hold each other's hand from time to time... These are all expressions of emotion, which can reduce the pressure of marriage.
9. Affirmation and encouragement
Wise teachers all know that it is necessary to stimulate students' potential, let students play their strengths, and not always focus on their weaknesses. Affirm the advantages of your spouse and encourage them to give full play to their gifts. Criticism will only lead to rising pressure.
10. Financial Capacity
Money problems are often one of the sources of marital stress. Both husband and wife should honestly deal with this problem with some preventive measures. In the family financial expenditure, it is sometimes found that some things purchased unconsciously increase the family's economic burden, and there will be pressure if there is a burden.
Both of them are going to divorce, which indicates that there has been a rift in their relationship. Although there is no divorce in the end, the relationship between them can no longer be as good as it used to be. Although problems can be solved, contradictions can also be solved, and two people will still live together, cracks are cracks, and when they happen, they have happened. When you encounter problems in the future, they will become more violent than now.
Emotion is like a piece of white paper. Once it is wrinkled, even if it is smoothed, it will leave traces. So when you encounter problems, don't quarrel, or even divorce, communicate calmly, and understand each other's ideas, so that you will reduce a lot of unnecessary trouble.
