Marriage is a sacred and important thing. If you choose the right person, you will be happy in your life, but if you choose the wrong person, you may be unhappy in your life. If the wrong people are together in marriage, they are doomed to not go far. These four types of couples are doomed to be very tired. Divorce is only a matter of time.
1、 Husband and wife in different places
Marriage, like work, needs to be well managed. If you are a little careless, you will lose everything. When the husband and wife are in different places because of work, there will be many helplessness. Two people who love each other cannot be together every day in a different place. When a woman encounters problems in her life, her man works hard in other cities to live. When she needs the help of a man, her man is not there. This sense of gap knocks the woman again and again until she finally can't hold on. It will be sooner or later that you divorce.
2、 The couple's three outlooks disagree
Two people finally got married for various reasons. However, the days after marriage are not as sweet as those in love. It's very tiring to be surrounded by daily necessities. Women always complain that men don't buy her brand bags and can't own many expensive clothes like other women. There is a gap between the life women want to live and the actual life after marriage. Women want men to earn money to support their families after marriage. Women are only responsible for being beautiful while men want women to have a job and make themselves independent. In this way, two people with different views live together every day and will divorce sooner or later.
3、 A husband and wife who always quarrel
It was normal for two people to quarrel in marriage. They both said that the head of the bed quarreled with the end of the bed, but no matter how deep the feelings were, they could not stand the daily quarrels. Women complain that men don't do housework and don't know how to love her, but men complain that women should take care of him and the family. In short, after marriage, two people always quarrel for various reasons. Every time, a man will coax a woman, but time and time again, the patience of a man is finally eroded. When women and men quarrel, men choose the cold war to fight. This kind of marriage life will be very tired and won't last long.
4、 Couples with AA system in life
Some couples in love can understand the AA system, but if two people choose the AA system after marriage, it is doomed to be very tired, and the marriage life will not be long. Because the married life is faced by two people together, if all the problems are refined to AA system, their life is doomed to be very tired. Every day in order to care about water and electricity, fuel, rice, oil and salt, the daily life is spent in care of money. Slowly, the feelings of two people will be destroyed by money.
The couple will go through such a long and short life, and many unpleasant things will happen between them. But we should learn to manage and cherish each other's good. Don't make marriage just a marriage, but also make it a love. Say more nice words every day, hug him more, treat your lover like a child, talk and communicate well, find out more about each other's advantages, so that every family will be warm.
You see, it was originally a marriage that fell into "cold violence" with the environment. Timely communication and exchange made the two people fall into a marriage that had been "inseparable and difficult to live", and restored love and temperature. So, how important it is for marriage to learn how to communicate.
We say that running a good marriage requires two people to work together. When you realize that the other party is a person who does not cherish, does not understand communication, and is unwilling to change, you should be grateful for the return. At this time, the most important thing you should do is to hold your feelings and stop investing. This is the best way to protect yourself and avoid getting hurt more in marriage.
When you have a bad marriage, don't want to leave, and can't do anything about each other, you are the only one who can change. When you become very beautiful, even if this marriage can not "bring the dead back to life", you will also know how to make yourself live comfortably.
In this state, you should not sink into despair and abandon yourself. Instead, you should improve yourself. If you have time to feel sad, it is better to please yourself more.
If the marriage is unhappy and you can't divorce, will you never be happy in your life? Of course not! If a marriage, it really makes us feel less happy. First of all, find out the cause and solve it if you can. If it is really impossible to solve the problem, we should do a good job of ourselves, learn to let go of our feelings, let go of each other, and don't care too much about the unhappiness of the marriage itself, so as to minimize the pain in the marriage.
Very depressed and unhappy after marriage. Marriage makes people happy and painful at the same time. If you feel too tired after marriage and want to divorce, is that OK?
1、 After marriage, I feel depressed, unhappy, and tired. I want to divorce
Many married women have a lot of unhappy things after marriage, of course, a lot of happy things, but after having children and no job, people's mood changes, they will feel tired after having children, no work, no social interaction, no old people to help and can't afford to hire a nanny. I dragged my child to the age of one and a half, stuck to me during the day, and my husband went to work. I couldn't eat with my child in my arms, and I couldn't rest well at night, and my spirit was weak. My husband is not happy with me. I live apart. I feel that marriage really hurts my father. I really want to divorce. I think about it every day. It's too tired. I miss being single. I just want to live alone. Some of my hobbies are to decorate my house comfortably, go to work, and do some personal work. I don't know how beautiful the days are and why I want to get married. I'm tired. I would rather die alone than be so tired.
It is no wonder that many girls dare not marry or have children. After all, there are too many factors after marriage. They really feel more tired than a person and have too much pressure in life. The husband is powerless, has children, and still has a lot of money in arrears, so he has no ability to live well in the next life. It's really much harder than a person. I have to drag my parents to suffer with me, take care of my pregnant self, and pay a lot of family expenses. I don't dare to buy clothes for myself. I hesitated for a long time every time. My husband also felt that all this was deserved. He would not pay his salary and living expenses, so he had to borrow money every month to repay the loan. Why did he get married in the first place? If two people have not had a happy person. Why are you together? I feel sorry for my parents and children. Having raised me for so long has not given them too much in return. The unborn children have to bear the poverty brought by my choice.
2、 What girls are prone to post marital depression
1. Those with too rigid personality and no economic strength.
In real life, there is a kind of woman who belongs to the reed type. In marriage, they are like a reed on the wall - top heavy and bottom light. What's the answer to this? The sky is always blue. The top priority is just like her personality is too strong, and the light foot is just like her self strength is small. The combination of the two will certainly form her weakness of "shallow foundation" in marriage.
In fact, this kind of woman is very poor. The stronger her personality is, the more pathetic she is. She is so poor that no one cares about her, has no place to talk, or is unwilling to talk. In fact, this is a society that respects the survival rules very much. The law of the jungle and the strong go first are also applicable to marriage. Strongness is not to be proved by posture. More often, it needs to be demonstrated by strength. It is absolutely impossible to use the stubbornness of personality to seize it. More people can only drink alone and be depressed alone!
2. Introverted and inconsiderate husband.
The safer and safer marriage is complementary. The imbalance and eventual failure of marriage are mostly due to the lack of complementarity or complementary failure between husband and wife. Like an outgoing man who likes to play, he will grow up only when he meets a gentle and steady woman. An introverted and withdrawn woman can only be happy if she marries an outgoing, delicate and humorous man. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like talking. He can tell jokes to cheer her up. It's OK if she doesn't like to go out to make friends and play. He will do her work and drag her out to relax. However, the fear is that the woman is introverted and her husband is very careless and inconsiderate. The depression in her heart is frozen by silence and loneliness. The more silence, the deeper loneliness, the thicker the ice in her heart. According to the understanding that the sky is always blue, most women who are depressed after marriage are close to or belong to this situation.
