How can high EQ refuse an invitation from a boy? Many people in life don't know how to refuse others. In fact, they are very unwilling to accept an invitation, but they don't know how to speak up. Here's how to refuse an invitation from a boy with high EQ. Let's have a look.
1. Malingering law
The "malingering method" is a female killer. If you encounter a date you don't want to go, you can directly tell the other party that they are not feeling well and need to rest at home. If the other party is very enthusiastic about coming to visit, the girl can say some words of thanks, and at the same time indicate that her illness is not suitable for hospitality. Wait until later, and the general boys will understand what it means.
2. Procrastination method
If a girl doesn't want to keep an appointment, she can try the procrastination method. She can tell the other party that she is too busy with her work to leave. She can discuss this problem when she is not busy. If the boys continue to invite you next time, girls can also use this method to keep putting off, so that the other party will be disappointed in you, and the interesting boys will definitely not invite again.
3. Digression
Leaving the topic means that when a date is really unavoidable, you might as well go to the appointment first, and then talk about some topics that the other person is not interested in, causing the other person to dislike you. Or when you ask for something urgent to do on a date, tell the other party that there is no way to get here first for today's date. The other party will certainly feel disappointed, but will not say anything more.
4. Tautology
If you don't want to keep the appointment and don't want to offend others, you might as well try the Righteous Law to let the other party know that you are a person who values friendship. Girls can tell boys that unfortunately their good friends are not in a good mood recently and need to accompany their good friends frequently, so they have no time to spare to attend the appointment. Boys will certainly feel that you are a man of great friendship after hearing this, and this will not offend others.
When you refuse an invitation, you should first make it clear to the other party that you really mean it. At the same time, we should be subtle and tactful to preserve the self-esteem of the other party.
Seeking excuses and deliberately evading is a common way to refuse. Through such a euphemism, Sakura Zaofang can feel the sense of rejection.
Physical discomfort, class, overtime, bad weather?? These can be good excuses for rejection. However, the excuse should not be too strict and reasonable, otherwise the other party will mistake it as an objective reason for not being able to attend the appointment, rather than your intentional refusal. At this time, the other party often pushes the time to the future, making you in a passive situation again. Therefore, when making excuses, you should deliberately reveal your weaknesses to let the other party know that you are deliberately perfunctory.
Rejection should have the courage to "cut the mess with a sharp knife". When rejecting the other party, on the one hand, we should grasp the propriety of saying broad words without damaging the feelings of the other party; on the other hand, we should show our intention, cut off the idea of inviting the other party again, and avoid unnecessary trouble.
If you agree because you are soft hearted or to take care of your face, it will often lead to misunderstanding, entanglement and even greater harm to the other party.
How to reply to someone's appointment with high EQ:
1. For people with high EQ who want to refuse others' confession, first of all, they should not be too direct. Even if they are sure that they do not like this person, they should not refuse the other party decisively. When the other party makes a confession, they must be full of expectations. If they refuse directly at this time, their self-esteem will be hurt.
At this time, let the other party be ready to be rejected on the grounds of giving yourself a time to think about it, and then explain your intentions after a day or two.
2. If a person confesses to himself, when he is not sure of his heart, or does not want to talk about feelings for the time being, for example, when he was just struggling for his career, he can explain to the other party that he also has feelings for him, but he does not want to talk about feelings now, and does not want to talk about a relationship hastily, but it is better to give the other party a time, if he does not like the other party, You should also clearly refuse to let the other party enjoy it.
3. If the opposite sex asks for an appointment, but does not want to keep it, you can tell the other party that you have something to do, and we can talk about it later when we have time. The other party will understand what you mean naturally after listening to it, and will certainly not ask you what you are. This refusal will not hurt the rapport, nor make the other party feel embarrassed. At the same time, you will feel much more relaxed, and you will not always feel awkward because of this matter.
4. When the opposite sex asks you out, you can ask the other person in advance what's going on. If the other person says nothing important, you can tell the other person at this time that nothing important will be resolved by phone or SMS. If the other party says they want to see you, they should also ask what they want in advance, so that they can decide whether to go or not.
5. Some people like to invite people in a dogged way. I believe that no matter who meets such people, they will definitely feel very disgusted. It's good to meet such a person and refuse directly. "Decline" does not work for such a person, because the more you refuse politely, the more reasons the other person will have for inviting you. It is suggested to distinguish the person of the other party in advance, and then choose appropriate reasons to refuse.
