Never try to cater to others because you don't fit in with others. Don't care too much about other people's opinions. Don't take yourself too seriously. Don't think they hate themselves. Maybe they didn't think of you at all. It may be that this group is not suitable for you. You can find another group suitable for you. Don't think too much, just be yourself.
In social interaction, each of us will play a role. Some of us are leading, some are assisting, some are participants, and some are passing! Each has its own division of labor and positioning. When we find that we cannot participate in it, that is, we are not sociable, which means that there is a problem. We should first reflect on ourselves, then analyze, and then change, and finally re integrate into the group.
1. Self reflection.
When one person says you are wrong, you may not be wrong, but when everyone says you are wrong, you are very likely to be wrong, but not 100%. After all, truth is sometimes in the hands of a few people! However, if you find yourself out of tune with others, your first reaction should be to reflect on yourself. What is the problem, so that you can better correct it.
2. Analyze the cause.
After finding the reason, what we need to do is not to correct it immediately. It is to measure whether I want to change my so-called "reason" because I want to integrate into this group? In other words, it is not necessarily you who are wrong. Of course, it may also be you who are wrong. Then it is necessary to analyze the pros and cons and finally decide whether to change!
3. Change yourself.
If the fault lies in yourself, then it's time to change yourself! How to change? It requires self-restraint of daily behavior and self sublimation of knowledge accumulation. Learn to control your temper and emotions. When facing and dealing with things, you can make yourself rational. In this way, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary friction.
4. Reintegrate.
When you really change yourself, others can get it! However, this kind of change, including your re integration into the group, takes time, so you should also be prepared.
Always feel that they are not sociable, how should we adjust our mentality?
It is not enough to just adjust your attitude. You should start from two aspects, one is to enhance your ability to communicate with others, the other is to change your perception of interpersonal relationships.
Being out of group means being marginalized. In such a humanistic society, this is not a good phenomenon. I don't believe in success studies, but I can't help refuting some truth. For example, success studies pay special attention to people. It is difficult for people who have no connections to succeed. Whenever we go, we should get along well with people around us, This is conducive to the direction of life and career development.
Being able to recognize that you don't fit in with others shows that you still have some self-awareness. Being able to turn this situation around subjectively is the first step to change.
