Embarrassment refers to the psychological state in which we suddenly feel uncomfortable, embarrassed and in a dilemma. When we come to a new environment, interview, appointment, chat up, friends dinner, business negotiation, speech, etc., we may encounter embarrassment. Overcoming embarrassment can free us from discomfort. The specific methods are as follows:
First, when you come to a new environment, you should actively integrate into the environment, and take the initiative to rectify the situation when you say something wrong.
Because we are not familiar with the cultural atmosphere and interpersonal relationship of the new environment, we may make inappropriate actions. For example, if we say a taboo word in the workplace and fail to follow the team's work habits, we may fall into an embarrassing mood and situation. At this time, once you find out, you should sincerely apologize and explain your original intention, indicating that there is no malice, which can resolve the embarrassment. It is easier for the new environment to accept you if you show your sincere attitude.
Second, learn to change the topic when you are in the formal situation of being "assessed" in interviews, public speeches, business negotiations, etc.
When a question stops us, when an emergency on the scene disturbs our own steps, and the scene is once cold or chaotic, we will be very embarrassed. At this time, you should adapt to the situation, and shift the problems or things that are unfavorable to you to your own advantages, so that the other party's attention will not be focused on your embarrassment.
Third, in daily interpersonal communication, we should also express our own ideas while considering others.
It has been investigated that 90% of the friction between people is caused by the sense of no boundaries. We are too considerate of others and never advocate our own interests and attitudes. When others unknowingly do too much, we will be embarrassed. Let others know what you think, let them realize what impact this matter has on you, say it clearly, communicate sincerely, and you can instantly resolve the embarrassment.
How to resolve the awkward atmosphere.
1. When we are embarrassed, the first thing we need to learn is to be calm. Don't deliberately show our negative emotions or awkward emotions.
2. When we are embarrassed, we should learn to resolve the embarrassment tactfully, such as smiling or joking.
3. When we are embarrassed, we can use music to ease our mood and atmosphere. If we can sing or play the guitar, we can sing while playing. If we can't sing, we can also play some light music.
4. When we are embarrassed, we can also take advantage of the external environment to make some changes. For example, if you are in a dessert shop, you can use food or drinks to ease the embarrassment
How to Relieve Embarrassment
Make fun of yourself.
When you are embarrassed, you can make fun of yourself and say some easy topics to ease the awkward scene. Everyone will encounter embarrassment, and some people will skillfully resolve it.
In communication occasions, we often encounter some serious topics. It is difficult for the two sides of communication to reach an agreement on these matters, which hinders the normal progress of the conversation. At this time, we should deliberately avoid sensitive topics, transfer the conversation to other topics, change the tense situation with relaxed and pleasant conversation content, and divert the attention of both parties. In this way, topics with large differences of opinion can be consciously diluted, so that the original stalemate can become relaxed and happy again, and the negative impact on the psychology of both parties can be reduced to a low level.
How to resolve embarrassment
① Pretend not to know/pretend to be calm When encountering embarrassment, it is also a good way to reduce embarrassment by "muddling through".
For example, when we use the window of a car as a mirror to tidy up our appearance, we suddenly find that there seems to be a pair of eyes staring at us. What should we do at this time,
Pretend not to know, continue to tidy up! After finishing sorting out, walk away calmly, as if the person does not exist.
The essence of this method is that you may not be able to deceive yourself, but as long as you can deceive others to reduce their embarrassment, you can also reduce your own embarrassment in turn. If both parties show embarrassment, it will only make people more embarrassed.
② Humor response Personally, humor is the best way to resolve embarrassment. There is no one. It can even reverse others' evaluation of us, but this method requires a certain ability to adapt to circumstances.
To give an example that still fresh in my memory, when I was a student, one of my classmates had a crush on a girl in his class. Every time he passed her, he would pose as a model and walk seriously.
Once, he accidentally kicked the chair and almost fell down.
The students nearby all looked at it, and the scene was a little awkward. Unexpectedly, the goods were playing with the best players, and they shook their hair in imitation of the characters in the idol drama. They said leisurely, "Did you kick the chair?"
As a result, the students beside him were amused by his witty response, which not only resolved the embarrassment, but also won many good feelings.
③ When you laugh at yourself, you might as well try to point out your own mistakes or tease yourself. Giving yourself a step down often eases the atmosphere.
When taking the elevator, the latecomers will always be more embarrassed than the advanced ones, because the alarm will ring when it is cold.
Once when I took the elevator in the mall, the alarm rang after the last girl came in, and the girl first said, "Oh, it's embarrassing, it's time to lose weight", and then calmly walked out. The whole process does not seem at all embarrassing.
④ Apologizing can sometimes have the same effect on those embarrassments caused by their own mistakes.
For example, if you step on someone's heel accidentally and step on his shoes, and apologize to the other person in a hurry, you will probably get forgiveness from the other person, thus resolving the embarrassment.
⑤ Before self hypnosis, we analyzed that people are embarrassed, to a large extent, because we have a positive self expectation, but there is no perfect person in the world. No one can make mistakes and everything goes well.
