In life, we sometimes encounter various requests from others, but sometimes we don't want to help others when they ask us, but if we refuse directly, we are afraid of hurting others, which is detrimental to our future development. So how to refuse others' request? How can you refuse others to protect yourself without hurting others? The following is a formula for refusing others. I hope it can help you.
First of all, we need to know that most of us have the character of good people. We don't know how to accept selectively or refuse politely. But what are the formulas for tactfully rejecting others?
The first formula: worrying about mistakes
There are three types of worrying about mistakes: worrying about ability mistakes, worrying about mental strength mistakes, and worrying about energy mistakes. Worrying about ability mistakes is like "I'm a man with limited ability. I always delayed you in the past, so I won't go there to make trouble for you." When someone says this, they are embarrassed to force. Reply method for worrying about mental failure: "Look at my current situation (emotional or physical), I will not bother you in the past, so I won't bother." Reply method for worrying about mental failure "Don't worry, I will help you. But I really live too much these days, so it's inevitable that I can't keep up with my energy sometimes. So if you have to let me help you, after I reluctantly agreed with you, my quality can't be guaranteed in the past, and even will be greatly reduced. Then I will feel sorry.", It's all from the other side's perspective. Can the other side force you? This method of rejecting the other party often makes it easier for the other party to accept.
The second formula: straightforward regret type
There are also three types of straightforward regret: expression of situation, direct apology, and emphasis on conflict. Putting yourself in a situation is to let the other person realize that you are also in a weak position and need help. Are you so difficult that the other person is willing to force you? Just like when someone borrows money from you, you can respond in this way: "I'm ashamed to tell you that I just ran into a little trouble some time ago, and my friends and relatives asked me to borrow money, but now I still owe a lot of foreign debt. I'm afraid to say more
