How to get rid of a quarrel with your girlfriend. Girlfriends are not children. They should be coaxed to the heart. They should be coaxed for a long time. It is useful to coax them many times. Girlfriends are also like children. They should be coaxed to face, give them enough face, and let them feel respected. Only when you understand what she really wants to say, will you know how to coax. Don't try to solve problems for your girlfriend like talking to a man.
How to get rid of a quarrel with your girlfriend
If you want to coax your girlfriend well, you need to deal with it both objectively and subjectively. Only in this way can it be truly effective, even long-term. To adjust our way of thinking and our psychological state, we even need to pay attention to certain methods. Only in such a multi pronged situation can boys' coaxing have a long-term effect. Otherwise, you can always use the old tricks against your girlfriend, which will soon become ineffective and make her feel that you don't respect her. Girlfriend is also an adult. At least it's OK to think independently. Since she can lose her temper with you, it means she has her own ideas and personality. Ignoring the method and logic, they treat her as a child. The other party can feel it. Maybe they can let it go once or twice. However, once the number of times is increased, it will be an indefinite bomb that the relationship will become rigid or even collapse.
Coaxing has nothing to do with reason
Don't be reasonable when coaxing your girlfriend. Reasonably, that's the performance of straight men. Reasoning can be used to discuss and vent feelings between men. But don't do that with women. Because a woman is an emotional animal, especially when she is in a bad mood, when her emotions are in a negative direction, she cannot listen to reason. At this time, she is full of anger and other negative emotions. Now what she does will make her feel that you are either provocative or deliberately angry with her. In short, nothing will be right, At that time, it is easy to cause a large amount of negative energy eruption. What she cares about is whether her position in your heart is high or low, and how deeply you love her. Have you put her in a higher priority, obedience and obedience. More concerned about whether you really understand her, and then tolerate her, and even accept her. Even if logically and logically she is wrong. Therefore, boys need more patience, listening, understanding and tolerance at this time. Of course, they must accept it, otherwise they don't have to coax. This is a set of "boyfriend psychological construction suit".
Coaxing is an attitude
What is coaxing? That is to put her in your heart, in the front row of your heart, regardless of heaven, regardless of the truth, just look at her like. Only in this state can you coax them out. Only in this state can the content you coax not become reasonable. You will pay more attention to what effect she wants to achieve. You will say what she likes to hear regardless. Be sure to mobilize your emotions, and even practice properly. When you encounter this situation, form a conditioned reflex, so that when you see the corresponding signal in the future, you can quickly judge whether it is reasonable or should be coaxed.
Be methodical in coaxing
Coaxing is even a process of empathy. In this process, you need to express enough sincerity. After all, you are facing an adult woman, and it is not effective to hold high simply by kissing. You need to listen and unconditionally accept all her unreasonable. Because many things are not absolutely right or wrong. Now we don't need logic, but emotion. Simply expressing the warmth and love in your heart is the most effective way.
How to get rid of a quarrel with your girlfriend. Girlfriends are not children. They should be coaxed to the heart. They should be coaxed for a long time. It is useful to coax them many times. Girlfriends are also like children. They should be coaxed to face, give them enough face, and let them feel respected. Only when you understand what she really wants to say, will you know how to coax. Don't try to solve problems for your girlfriend like talking to a man.
Girlfriend said to break up should be so coaxed her: apologize quickly; Give a gift; Very patient.
1. Apologize quickly. Girls tend to be sentimental. They listen to their own feelings and treat things emotionally first. They are always stuck to a small problem. So sometimes if you make her unhappy, you must apologize immediately. Don't be silly to reason with her anymore. When apologizing, you can also speak in a better tone. Even playing coquetry with her is OK.
Girls are sharp tongued and hard hearted. They are easy to lose their heads when they are angry, but they are usually easy to coax. As long as you have a better voice, speak softly and gently, and then give a proper compliment, no matter how angry you are, your anger will disappear instantly, and you can also quickly make her happy.
2. It is popular to give a bag to cure all diseases. There will be times when two people are together. However, as long as a girl is angry, you should learn to cheer her up. Otherwise, if you don't do it for a long time, other boys will help you to cheer her up, or even take care of her. At that time, there will be really nothing for you.
In fact, a girl's anger is just to test whether you care about her. If you really can't speak sweet words or skills at this time, just send her a bag and choose the style she likes. When she receives a gift, her anger will disappear long ago.
3. There must be a reason why a girl is so patient that she is angry. Don't try to explain something to her or understand the reason why she is angry at this time. If these actions are carried out in a girl's anger, the fire will grow stronger and stronger. At this time, you need to be patient enough to listen to her complaining.
Girls need to vent their anger when they are angry. At this time, you just need to be quiet as a garbage can, comfort her after she has vent, and then use your thinking to guide her, so that she can slowly go out of the circle of anger. When everyone is in a good mood, you don't need to coax her, and she will naturally not be angry.
There are three classic methods for coaxing a girlfriend, whether the other party is Luoli or Yujie, which will have a significant effect. Now let's talk about it one by one.
1、 Buy gifts
This is very useful for most girls, especially after the Cold War. If you go ahead rashly, you will probably be shut out, which will not only fail to solve the contradiction, but even make the problem big, so that it will be completely upset.
So the best way is to give her a small gift. It doesn't need to be too expensive, as long as it meets her heart. However, you must be careful when choosing a gift. You should not rush for quick success and instant benefit to finish the work or it will backfire.
2、 Speak well
Girls like to listen to nice things, even if they know your lies, they will still be happy. For example, a girl often asks me who is good-looking with XXX. It is probably in her heart that XXX is better looking than herself, but she hopes to hear the answer you give is that she is good-looking. She is the best looking in your heart.
So~When your girlfriend is angry, try to say something nice, praise her, take the initiative to reduce her firepower, and then slowly ease the conflict. The most important thing is not to try to reason with girls, because girls are reason.
3、 Hands on
This is not about beating people. It's warm and sweet. When your girlfriend is angry with you, she won't listen to what you say or watch what you do, the best way is to say nothing, hold her quietly, or give her a kiss.
The girl will definitely struggle to refuse when she is angry. The man should show his arrogance and hold on firmly. She will be soft hearted soon.
The above three methods are the most classic, and the last one is the most practical. Of course, if your girlfriend's force is amazing, don't try the last one. There will always be inevitable contradictions in love. For long-term happiness, men must be tolerant, tolerant and try to reduce the occurrence of contradictions.
