The workplace PUA refers to the unprovoked suppression of subordinates by superiors in the workplace. Through belittling and negation, subordinates gradually lose confidence to control employees; Or draw empty pie, and let employees lose themselves by scolding, occasionally praising and committing. Only the leader is the leader.
There are some reasons for the prevalence of PUA in the workplace. With the rapid development of economy and the intensification of market competition, enterprises are under great pressure. Some enterprises fail to form an effective management incentive mechanism in time, and they are eager to keep their employees loyal and redouble their efforts, so they take PUA to achieve spiritual control.
In the short term, it seems to be a low-cost and high-yield method, but in the long run, the talent team will lose its vitality and the enterprise itself will lose its innovation ability. Many PUA employees in the survey are not only physically and mentally exhausted, but also show self doubt and lack of self-confidence.
Although the enterprise has obtained the labor force with "high cost performance ratio", it may obtain a team that is exhausted and has no combat effectiveness. The employees lose confidence, and their enthusiasm for work and innovation motivation are no longer. Excellent enterprises should correct their management ideas, ensure the physical and mental health of employees in the system, and stimulate their work enthusiasm with a reasonable incentive mechanism.
Common routines of workplace pua:
1. Draw a big pie and write a bad check, which will make you lose your judgment.
It is common to draw big cake style workplace PUA. I believe that many people in the workplace will often meet bosses who like to "draw big cakes", like to paint a beautiful vision for you, but never cash it and give you a bad check.
2. Beautify the squeeze and let you finally be controlled by the spirit
On the job market, PUAs often say "I am for you", "I am optimistic about you, these are experiences", "I have taken pains to cultivate you", and "give you opportunities" to beautify the press.
3. Constant negation, suppression and personal attacks make you lose confidence
Sally, an American psychologist, once did an experiment: put a dog in a cage, and as soon as the buzzer rings, give the dog an electric shock. The dog could not escape because it was locked in a cage, so it had to howl and shit and urine flowed. After many experiments, the experimenter opened the dog cage. At this time, the buzzer sounded. Instead of running away, the dog fell down and groaned and trembled, waiting for the arrival of the electric shock.
This experiment shows that after long-term setbacks, we will willingly bear the pain and gradually give up the willingness to make changes. When our expression fails to get the expected response, or even turns to be attacked or criticized, reducing our expression becomes a natural choice.
In psychology, this is an important psychological phenomenon: learned helplessness.
How to avoid being PUA in the workplace:
First, we should distinguish PUA criticism from constructive criticism. PUA style criticism is not about things but about people. Its attitude is autocratic, absolute and humiliating. Constructive criticism is not about people but about things. It is instructive and feasible. For PUA type
