How on earth can I not be labeled as a crackpot when giving advice to colleagues? In real life, we will inevitably encounter different opinions from others. If we don't pay attention to the way of speaking and directly raise our own objections, it will inevitably make the other party feel uncomfortable. The other party will think you are a good player, which makes the colleagues feel uncomfortable, but how can you give advice to others so that they can accept it more easily? Let's teach you three moves.
First move: Identity guidance method
The identity guidance method is to come up first to express your understanding of the other party's meaning, agree with the other party's views, and then come up with your own supplementary suggestions. In this way, the other party will feel that you understand him, and he will also understand your meaning. But how to use the identity guidance method? It can be divided into three steps: first, accurately retell the other party's meaning; 2、 Express understanding and identification; 3、 Come up with your own different opinions. You can say something like, "I think you mentioned the idea about xxx just now. I think it's very pertinent to stand on xxx. But I put forward my own opinions from the financial (or market, customer) point of view for reference." This will make it easier for the other party to accept your next point of view.
The second move: story guiding method
If you directly oppose other people's opinions and reason with them, they will feel that you are preaching. If you are teaching others to be human, they will feel bad. So don't oppose the other party at the beginning, give the other party a preaching attitude, and tell the other party a story. For example, if you are a sales person who buys things, the customer doesn't understand why your products are so expensive. If you come up against the other party, it is not expensive. It is useless to use any principle or raw materials. You might as well tell him a story first. You can tell him that "I met a person who had the same idea as you before. After seeing the quotation for the first time, he also felt it was expensive. Later, I explained the use and effect of the product in detail to him, which was different from his original understanding. Even our product has other functions, which can not only do this, but also complete other functions. Later, the customer bought two sets for home." In this way, you can tell a story to the other party, which makes it easier for the other party to listen and know how to make decisions next. This is also the reason for giving advice to colleagues at ordinary times. Don't come up against him, but tell him a story about his identity and background that is very similar to him, which can often be very persuasive.
The third move: change your way and habit of responding to others
Why are some people labeled as "polemics" by others? It is because the way of responding to others is too oppressive, which makes people uncomfortable. For example, when someone else just put forward his own opinion, you just take it back, "That's impossible. How can you think like that? It's too childish." If you respond to the other person in such a tone, others will feel uncomfortable. Even you have a feeling of condescension, contempt and ridicule. Such a response will keep others away.
Giving advice to colleagues will inevitably make others unhappy, but if you can master speaking skills, you can not only make your views more acceptable, but also make yourself more popular among colleagues.
